Hey, guys long time reader first time poster, for I finally ran into a unique (I'd like to believe so) problem which isn't dealt with on this awesome board.
Girlfriend of 2.5 years.
I am taking 3 courses in this summer (heavy course load), which prevents me from talking/seeing her that much. This has happened first time where she is taking the back seat, she tells me she feels neglected. And from this neglect, she tells me, I have driven her to speak to her friends about her problems.
Her friends include, 2 of her female friends and a guy friend.
The guy friend she met him like 6 months ago at some family party, after talking for some time, he openly asked for her number. She later told me "I hope he didn't take the wrong way". Meaning she hopes that he wouldn't think she's into him.
She has some embedded psychological issues to which I told her she should see a psychiatrist. She became upset stating I am just pushing her away so I don't have to listen to her.
She complains about me to her friends and especially the guy friend. They seemed to have gotten closer due to my neglect (her words).
Since talking to her wasn't getting through her head, I decided to write and send it through facebook, since she is on that often. When she wrote back to me a day later, she attacked my character and she said I was becoming like my father (I had confided in her about the father issue), and it was more or less a desire to break up. I said, I was tired of this and that it was over also.
She sent me goodbye message, to which I also sent a goodbye message. She later wrote back "I miss you". I called her and told her she can't keep doing this. She sent me a text later in the day saying "are you sure you want to do this?" I called her back a couple hours later and said, there was a chance we can get back together, if she could understand I am the man of the house (my own family and not me and her) and that I needed to prioritize my education before her.
She started crying and told me "i am technically seeing someone". To which, I said, is it that guy (guy she met at the family party who "I drove her to")?
She said yes, and that they saw each other twice once he came to her school and the other time they went out on a date, watched a movie and made out :cuss: She said we were broken up she didn't think we'd ever get back and he was there for her listened to her at all times, while she cried over me. At that time I wanted to get back with her just to screw her over, I told her I too was seeing someone too. I told her to break up with him and I would break up with the person I am "seeing" and we would be ok. She said ok and hung up. 5 minutes later I called her back and stated "don't do it, I don't want you back, I don't trust you any more" to which she replied "I will spend the rest of my trying to build the trust I have lost" she went on "I will do any thing to get back together".
So I did.
I told her she can't talk to any guys she meets on facebook, outside on the phone any more. Since I don't trust her any more. She agreed.
There were some other rules also, to which she agreed.
That's the background story. Now we are back together but she making out with another guy as soon as we were broken up, literally 4 days later, bothers me.
Now I ask you guys, should I just tell her, it's over and move on? By taking her back has the power in the relationship shifted too much in her favor? Or do you think taking her back was a big mistake in the first place?
Please, I need your input. Thanks for reading this long ass read.
Girlfriend of 2.5 years.
I am taking 3 courses in this summer (heavy course load), which prevents me from talking/seeing her that much. This has happened first time where she is taking the back seat, she tells me she feels neglected. And from this neglect, she tells me, I have driven her to speak to her friends about her problems.
Her friends include, 2 of her female friends and a guy friend.
The guy friend she met him like 6 months ago at some family party, after talking for some time, he openly asked for her number. She later told me "I hope he didn't take the wrong way". Meaning she hopes that he wouldn't think she's into him.
She has some embedded psychological issues to which I told her she should see a psychiatrist. She became upset stating I am just pushing her away so I don't have to listen to her.
She complains about me to her friends and especially the guy friend. They seemed to have gotten closer due to my neglect (her words).
Since talking to her wasn't getting through her head, I decided to write and send it through facebook, since she is on that often. When she wrote back to me a day later, she attacked my character and she said I was becoming like my father (I had confided in her about the father issue), and it was more or less a desire to break up. I said, I was tired of this and that it was over also.
She sent me goodbye message, to which I also sent a goodbye message. She later wrote back "I miss you". I called her and told her she can't keep doing this. She sent me a text later in the day saying "are you sure you want to do this?" I called her back a couple hours later and said, there was a chance we can get back together, if she could understand I am the man of the house (my own family and not me and her) and that I needed to prioritize my education before her.
She started crying and told me "i am technically seeing someone". To which, I said, is it that guy (guy she met at the family party who "I drove her to")?
She said yes, and that they saw each other twice once he came to her school and the other time they went out on a date, watched a movie and made out :cuss: She said we were broken up she didn't think we'd ever get back and he was there for her listened to her at all times, while she cried over me. At that time I wanted to get back with her just to screw her over, I told her I too was seeing someone too. I told her to break up with him and I would break up with the person I am "seeing" and we would be ok. She said ok and hung up. 5 minutes later I called her back and stated "don't do it, I don't want you back, I don't trust you any more" to which she replied "I will spend the rest of my trying to build the trust I have lost" she went on "I will do any thing to get back together".
So I did.
I told her she can't talk to any guys she meets on facebook, outside on the phone any more. Since I don't trust her any more. She agreed.
There were some other rules also, to which she agreed.
That's the background story. Now we are back together but she making out with another guy as soon as we were broken up, literally 4 days later, bothers me.
Now I ask you guys, should I just tell her, it's over and move on? By taking her back has the power in the relationship shifted too much in her favor? Or do you think taking her back was a big mistake in the first place?
Please, I need your input. Thanks for reading this long ass read.
