To be a man?

[RazzleDazzle]

Nothing sums up mankind right now than Tyler Durden's quote from Fight Club. "We are a generation raised by women..." therfore we have feelings. Those stupid thoughts that won't stop when you see someone you like. Infatuation, such a deadly thing to our hearts and minds. (someone has this quote as one of their signatures by the way.) We were taught from birth to love one woman. To find the one woman and just love her. Yet we all know, through pain and suffering, that this does not work. That one woman smiles at you has a little fun than kicks you somewhere that hurts even more than the nut-sack! You don't know where it is but it hurts all over, you lose your appetite, confidence, and your will to do things. This is what turns us into jerks my friends. I know it's been said a hundred times on this forum but i have to repeat it for myself. Because I am a "nice guy" raised by a women, and now smashed on by a woman.

We come to this forum to find our way to manhood, to become a DJ. But, remember to become a man you must walk the path of one. This means you must face the rejection we nice guys fear, we must walk this path and take the hits life has for us. We must continue walking though. For some haved stop walking this path, some poor fools have killed themselves believing themselves not worth living in this world. They just wanted one thing, love from a woman. That constant feeling of strength that someone else cares about you. This makes you feel like you belong on this world.

The trick is while walking the path to become a man, we don't become a jerk. It's so easy to do. How many times can a guy take women's **** before he decides it's his turn. It's his turn to bust some **** up. To go out and f^ck all the biatches he can. Than leave them hurt and in pain.

Post your stories men, of your turning points. I want to hear what's happend to everyone else. Why that one time on that one day you decided no more. I want to be a man.

Raz.

"Sometimes you get the bear, and sometimes the bear get's you."- my grandpa.

 

[silverdog]

havent got any thing else to add, but nice post, btw, i had metalica-die die die my darling playing...how fitting.

 

[marqZAL]

Why let someone tell what a man is and how hes suppose to act! Define yourself!!!! Fvck what others think a man is suppose to be!!

 

[Ian1983]

Nice post.
Sounds like you've been on the recieving end more times then we'd all like, but ended up there better man for it.

 

[vdk]

When you think about it, very few men in the world know about or poccess the quality information in the bible. All I can say is use it to improve your life.

 

[Umbra]

I was going to marry a girl that I loved more than anything in this world, even myself. Pure, unadulterated, untainted love. I thought of her when I woke up and I thought of her when I went to bed. And she loved me, too. But not enough. Even after I'd invested money, and time, and sacrificed dreams for her, she broke it off with no hope and no salvation. After that, I went through girls like a pack of cigarettes, and I'm finally finding my way.

 

[Charisma]

My turning point was the summer after I graduated from high School, I noticed I wasn't getting the girls I wanted, I noticed my friends were while they were uglier then me, and I just got tired of acting like a wuss around girls. I noticed it didn't work, I just never realised it uptill that summer, I told myself I was gonne stop trying. It all clicked when I found out about David Deangelo (the guy that wrote a book about C&F) by accident, i read one of his newsletters, and that was all I needed, it was about the jerk/nice guy stuff. First thing I did was stop the shy/needy stuff (**** I was convinced that women loved that at that time ! (GODDAMN DAWSON'S CREECK!!)). That was all I needed to get on the right track. I still messed up quite often, but the more I dated the more I learned, and then as a bonus I found the speed seduction website (which lead me here) that focused on conversations, which again improved me greatly.

So it all happened sitting in front of the TV drinking a coke, I told myself '**** this, this being nice isn't working, let's try something else'

 

[Lionheart]

Umbra : That's a real shame dude, it's a shame about the illogical thing that is the female heart.

 

[Umbra]

Yes, but it caused me to hurt others, to crush many good hearts among women. That's the real tragedy. I only helped to poison the rest of the world because I was in pain. That's why it's so important to finally balance out.

 

[RazzleDazzle]

Exactly Umbra, that's what worries me. I just got stepped on by a girl, my own fault let her in too close too soon, and now i'm hurt. So i want that girl to feel my pain. But most likely that will never happen so your left with just hurting other girls. I don't want to do that but it doesn't sound like such a bad idea right now. That's why i'm trying to be a man about it. Something never taught to me or even thought about till i found this site.

 

[hardwork]

My Turning Point?

My turning point came when I had the chance to laugh right in the smirking face of Death:

A friend of mine and I had planned to go see a movie, but he wasn't old enough to get in and we decided on renting movies from a spot across town, instead. Driving along, chit-chatting on a cool Friday night, and we roll up to a red light at a semi-busy stoplight, and stop, my friend has a brainfart...

... and, seeing no one in the intersection, accelerates forward and into the red light.

Wham, bam, thank you, ma'am, it was all over in seconds: another car smashed into us (on my side, no less, not two feet from me) and we rolled over and slid forward. Sitting there, ringing in my head, a smile on my face, my heart and mind more calm and clear than they had been in years, and the smell of acrid smoke filling my nose, it just dawned on me: "To Hell with it all: all your "problems" are NOTHING compared to this, this moment of absolute Truth. You've gotten so close to death, you can do whatever you want. You have it in you to do what you will."

I did some pretty heavy thinking after that (I'm still thinking, actually) and I'm on the Way now moreso than I ever have been.

No matter how bad it gets, I just remember, "You're still alive, damn it! and you KNOW you have what it takes to do what you want to do! You're alive! but are you living?"

Take all this Don Juanery knowledge, all this Lore about the fairer sex, read it, learn it, enjoy it, then unplug your mind and just let what you know needs to be done take over: you have a shot right now! I remember, now, a number of girls I didn't hit on that day because I was underconfident and I "rationalized" not going for it because I'd "... have time later on."

Well, hell, I could be dead right now! I don't want to die without at least trying, goddamn it, and neither should any of us.

 

[Charisma]

Damn, that's some heavy stuff, gonne try to think more that way, I thought I was already doing it, but nothing like you, nice man, how's your friend btw ? Still a moron ?

 

[Umbra]

Wow. That's all I have to say.

 

[RazzleDazzle]

Keep it coming. This is inspiration in it's finest.

 

[silverdog]

Well my story started 6 months ago, was seeing a girl, loved her to pieces, she did not as much, due to the illogical female mind, leaves me and throws me in the LBJF zone *shudder* a few months latter tells me she met some guy, and how great he is, nothing worse than some guy screwing a girl you onced loved, and being made feel inferior, than one day, i screamed **** it!!! **** all this **** i said, to hell with love! to hell with it! i was realy convinced it was all a lie invented be lesbian feminists, well im here now, and slowly recovering from my afc ways.

 

[A1SteakSauce]

Turning Point

When I met a girl in Romania, practically saved her life (the lame doctors had missed her diagnosis), took her to U.S. all expenses paid, showed her the Brooklyn Bridge at night (her dream), Macy's Christmas display, let her call her mom from the top of the Empire State Building on my cell phone, paid long distance phone calls billed to our hotel room (to guess who, but I didn't know then), took her to Aerosmith concert, even, and finally on the last day of the visit got stood up for dinner (which she also billed to the room, seafood platter for two).

After that I got so pissed, I left her for the last two days without any money or her plane ticket home, didn't ask how she got back to the airport, and finally gave her the return ticket there simply for the sake of my fellow american men. Amazingly it took another two months during which time I sent her every valuable thing I owned for me to wake up and realize I was completely played, she had another BF all along, that's why she got dumped in the first place, I was just a big joke for her and of course a big fat ATM machine, and she didn't even bother to return the priceless stuff I sent her.

Then I sat with my broken heart and realized that my shyness and arrogance had caused me to pass up at least 100 women who had made their interest clear over the years, any of whom would have treated me better than that. I realized that what I saw in this Romanian girl was an illusion: a sexy body, exotic accent, romantic stories about living in the mountains, the idea of rescuing her from noplace, promises about expanding my business abroad, etc., but it all masked a selfish wench, a user without feelings, a man with tits who played a far better hand of poker than I had. I'd saved it all up for this super girl who was **finally** good enough for me, the little ****ing prince who was too good for everyone else, and instead of being the perfect girl I dreamed of she turned out to be *so* far out of my league experience-wise that I was like a fat chump playing ball with MJ. Needless to say she charged past, knocked me flat on my back, dunked over my head, landed on my face, and got the foul to boot, without even breaking a sweat (or a heel).

So that was a hard and painful and humiliating lesson, but it made me finally pull my head out of my ass and look at how things really are rather than how I thought they should be. The reality is that high-status guys get played all day long by women. And the nicer they are, and the bigger their dreams, the fatter the chumps they'll become. The only way to avoid that is to get a good GAME. Hence, one must become a DJ, however late in the day. So here I am.

A1

 

[ShizamDaMan]

I had had bad luck with females for most of my life. I always wondered why I could never succeed and why ugly fat jerks were having way more success than I. It got so bad that I sat in my bed one night about 8 or 9 months ago and thought of my first and only girlfriend. I remembered how sh1tty she treated me, how much she played with me, how badly she broke me. I remember sitting there and thinking "If she came back to me tomorrow, would I take her back?" That night, I told myself I would. I then sat up and thought "SHIZAM! WHAT THE F*CK IS WRONG WITH YOU??????" I felt really really horrible, and knew I had to change.

I was browsing Rage3D, when a fellow member posted a link to Pook's "Be a man!" post. My God, it changed my life. I learned of "The System," how being a nice guy never works, and suddenly all my mistakes became clear. I altered my behavior, expanded my mind through the forums, the bible, and the newsletter. It all became clearer...

Flash forward to today. I absolutely love all that life has to offer me. I am ten times the man I was, no, make that 100 times. I have several girls interested in me, I've got a whole new attitude, and I'm ready for whatever life throws at me. I can only get better from here, and I love it.

 

[rbd]

Originally posted by RazzleDazzle
Exactly Umbra, that's what worries me. I just got stepped on by a girl, my own fault let her in too close too soon, and now i'm hurt. So i want that girl to feel my pain. But most likely that will never happen so your left with just hurting other girls. I don't want to do that but it doesn't sound like such a bad idea right now. That's why i'm trying to be a man about it. Something never taught to me or even thought about till i found this site.

I hear ya both. Once you've had your heart crushed, you want to do that back to the other person. With my ex, I went through periods where I was an arsehole around her and periods when I was starting to fall for her again. I wanted her hurt, but at the same time I wanted her back.

Does this sound like a bad situation to anyone? Does keeping that vengence in your situation sound like a bad thing to you?

I think it will only keep you in this rut of empassioned confusion and anger. I realized that I had a big ego. I realized that she hurt said big ego. When I was with her, I could be VERY big headed. I see this now and have adjusted myself to be a better person. Stay away from her and you're in control. Just remember that every girl that you treat like crap has a heart too. Most everyone goes through a period of being a jerk, but it shouldn't be your destination.