there is a ton of things you can do to change your mindset and inner core/foundation. the desire you have now to do so, is a blessing and something that should not be taken for granted. even some of the most red pill guys i know burn out and lose motivation because they overwork themselves attempting to achieve greatness in their careers, women, etc. and end up having zero energy which is reflected in everything from their appearance to their behavior. when you have the fire in your belly to achieve, you MUST take full advantage of it. you dont need to harness it, just unleash it in the right direction.
secondly, keep reading here and read up on all the great, game and red pill blogs. ignore the weird political bvllshlt most of them are plagued by and absorb the game principles, both inner AND outer. you MUST RE-WIRE your brain and UNLEARN. all the propaganda (disney movies) that men all over the world are force fed about women, love and masculinity. your brain and your ego will resist at first, but you MUST stare into the void. you MUST see things for what they really are. only then will your mind AND body accept a new shift in being
your main problem is actually much more common than you think. its the problem most men have, actually. they approach things from a linear, logical perspective in order to solve a perceived problem (inherent problem solving ability built into men) instead of taking ACTION.
its the reason youre asking the question of HOW and the premise of your whole post.
for example :
i want a hot babe and pvssy -------->but FIRST i need confidence/game-----> fix confidence/game problem -----> acquire said pvssy
the problem with this mentality ,is that its foundation is rooted in some pre-existing personal defect that must first be overcome.
its just another convenient excuse not to ACT concocted by your sly ego to assuage itself because it knows that rejection and failure are very strong possibilities.
when in reality, you WOULD learn some game by simply APPROACHING women and gain REAL unshakable confidence when you DO succeed with them
remember this for the rest of your life. action precedes thought
all men are naturally born with the tools to be successful, to get where/what they want, to seduce women, to beat other men, to rule the world.
the only difference is some are too stupid to rationalize their fears, others had success early in life and built on a solid foundation. thats all a "natural" really is. guys who had early success and created that elusive cycle of positive outcomes
negative cycles are the same. the more you resist DOING something different by just ACTING before thinking, the more you will remain in that cycle. its all self fulfilling prophecies.
which is why any successful man will abandon his bubble of comfort. you will never know the world, never be interesting, never succeed in anything if you dont get out of your comfort zone. most importantly you will never know YOURSELF
you need to do things that are "out of character" for you. try new things, pick up a new sport, make new friends, learn an instrument, visit new places, etc
the next time a cute girl makes eye contact with you, dont think, just say "hi" to her. you should notice a huge difference and surge of confidence from that alone. increased exponentially if she smiles or actually says something back or she stops and talks to you.
the next time you get home from work/school or whatever, instead using your normal escapisms like the internet, video games, porn, booze, etc grab some gym clothes and go work out or your ipod and go for a jog. i cant tell you how many interactions and women ive picked up on my jogging routes (beach/boardwalk) simply because we continue bumping into each other on the same jog....and it usually just starts with a smile and a wave. i could tell you one particular story, but i admit it would just be bragging lol
anyway you get the picture. you eliminate fear and rationalizations by tasting success. you taste success by ACTING instead of thinking. once youre on in that positive loop of success leading to success, not only do you stay there and change your very being, but you begin to challenge yourself for more, and on the cycle goes
men were created act. not to be passive overthinkers
