to bad but oh well

[Warpal]

I was dating this chick and saw her about 5 a 6 times. Not to much. Had sex on the second date. She told me she really liked me. Yesterday i was helping her to fix soms lights in her new home. She used my mobilephone to shine some light and saw a tinder message. Then after that she acted different. We were watching a movie and asked her whats wrong. She ignored somewhat the question and put the movie on pause and asked again. She said she doenst want to ruin the evening. i said to her that i can feel there is something bothering her and i just want her to tell me cause i dont like being around her when she is this way.

So she told me you dont know? I said i dont know. And then she began about the tinder message and that she really doesnt like it that i was dating other girls. I told her that we are not in an relationship and she asked me all different questions like when was the last time i had sex with somebody else blabla. I told her that i dont have to answers those questions. She told me she doesnt want to date me this way. So i told her thats a shame. I said to her that i was going home but i couldnt because of the covid curfew, so i went to bed and slept.

Next morning she confronted me again with it and about she just couldnt' comprehend. I told her again that we arent in a relationship and we don't have to take responsebillty to eachother with dating other people at the moment.

Then i said im leaving and she made stupid joke about meeting other tinder girls and i just walked out of the door. She told me if i cant say a proper goodbye and i responded with you're just making dumb jokes, She texted me right after with why i couldnt to a proper goodbye. Not going to respond back.

The whole talk i just acted really calm and just told her my opinion about dating and that i can imagine she thinks differently, but this is just they way i think about it.

Sorry for the bad english. Just wanted to share a story.

 

[manfrombelow]

I was dating this chick and saw her about 5 a 6 times. Not to much. Had sex on the second date.

1. Banging her on second date was very good. You should have kept banging her onwards.

She told me she really liked me.

2. This means NOTHING. Literrally nothing. She liked you AT THAT EXACT MOMENT, no more no less. Doesn't mean she'll keep on liking you tomorrow.

Yesterday i was helping her to fix soms lights in her new home. She used my mobilephone to shine some light and saw a tinder message. Then after that she acted different.

3. You should have protected your phone and your privacy better by not letting her near it. This was your fault.

We were watching a movie and asked her whats wrong. She ignored somewhat the question and put the movie on pause and asked again. She said she doenst want to ruin the evening. i said to her that i can feel there is something bothering her and i just want her to tell me cause i dont like being around her when she is this way.

So she told me you dont know? I said i dont know. And then she began about the tinder message and that she really doesnt like it that i was dating other girls. I told her that we are not in an relationship and she asked me all different questions like when was the last time i had sex with somebody else blabla. I told her that i dont have to answers those questions. She told me she doesnt want to date me this way. So i told her thats a shame. I said to her that i was going home but i couldnt because of the covid curfew, so i went to bed and slept.

4. ALL THESE were DRAMA. And the ONLY CORRECT WAY to handle drama from women is to REMOVE YOUR PRESENCE right away.

This means you should have said briefly & calmly that "Honey, we are very new and not yet a couple so it's wrong for you to be upset about and question my PRIVATE life like this, especially after I came here and help you with your stuff. I'm spending quality time with you and this is the way you're treating me now? I need some time to RE-THINK what we're having here because I don't like the way you're disrespecting me, my privacy, and my time." AND THEN YOU GET THE FVCK OUTTA THERE ASAP.

But what did you do? You chose to sleep at her place instead. You "rewarded" her bad behaviour by giving her your presence the entire night. WTF bro??? Seriously WTF my man???

Next morning she confronted me again with it and about she just couldnt' comprehend.

5. THIS is exactly what you get for "rewarding" bad behaviours from women and dogs. They continue to ESCALATE the TENSION & DRAMA.

(to be continued)

 

[manfrombelow]

6. For now, you CEASE ALL CONTACT with her. Which means you don't reach out. You don't initiate texts or date or whatsoever. You give her TOTAL SILENCE. In short just forget her, at least until she starts reaching out to you again.

In the mean time, go hit the gym, and bang other plates.

 

[Warpal]

i think youre over reacting abit. but thanks for the message. I couldt leave because of the covid curfew. you cant leave youre house. And im a cop myself so i would be in a lot of trouble. So i told her that were not a couple and and this is my opinion about it. And that i dont like how she is behaving. And then i said i will sleep here cause i cant leave and will leave in the morning and its done.

Im not contacting her myself again. np.

 

[Lookatu]

Once I sleep with someone and start seeing them, I get in the habit of ALWAYS turning off the notifications of all the dating apps I have on my phone. I usually do this right before I see someone. And for the girls that are already in my contacts, I give them male equivalent names. This avoids the situation that you were in. Player Strategy 101...

 

[FuzzX]

I was dating this chick and saw her about 5 a 6 times. Not to much. Had sex on the second date. She told me she really liked me. Yesterday i was helping her to fix soms lights in her new home. She used my mobilephone to shine some light and saw a tinder message. Then after that she acted different. We were watching a movie and asked her whats wrong. She ignored somewhat the question and put the movie on pause and asked again. She said she doenst want to ruin the evening. i said to her that i can feel there is something bothering her and i just want her to tell me cause i dont like being around her when she is this way.

So she told me you dont know? I said i dont know. And then she began about the tinder message and that she really doesnt like it that i was dating other girls. I told her that we are not in an relationship and she asked me all different questions like when was the last time i had sex with somebody else blabla. I told her that i dont have to answers those questions. She told me she doesnt want to date me this way. So i told her thats a shame. I said to her that i was going home but i couldnt because of the covid curfew, so i went to bed and slept.

Next morning she confronted me again with it and about she just couldnt' comprehend. I told her again that we arent in a relationship and we don't have to take responsebillty to eachother with dating other people at the moment.

Then i said im leaving and she made stupid joke about meeting other tinder girls and i just walked out of the door. She told me if i cant say a proper goodbye and i responded with you're just making dumb jokes, She texted me right after with why i couldnt to a proper goodbye. Not going to respond back.

The whole talk i just acted really calm and just told her my opinion about dating and that i can imagine she thinks differently, but this is just they way i think about it.

Sorry for the bad english. Just wanted to share a story.

Not sure where you guys get this notion that you're not in a relationship. If you are putting your genetic material inside hers, you are in a relationship under the law. You can call it what you want but women don't sleep with their friends.

 

[Modern Man Advice]

I was dating this chick and saw her about 5 a 6 times. Not to much. Had sex on the second date. She told me she really liked me. Yesterday i was helping her to fix soms lights in her new home. She used my mobilephone to shine some light and saw a tinder message. Then after that she acted different. We were watching a movie and asked her whats wrong. She ignored somewhat the question and put the movie on pause and asked again. She said she doenst want to ruin the evening. i said to her that i can feel there is something bothering her and i just want her to tell me cause i dont like being around her when she is this way.

So she told me you dont know? I said i dont know. And then she began about the tinder message and that she really doesnt like it that i was dating other girls. I told her that we are not in an relationship and she asked me all different questions like when was the last time i had sex with somebody else blabla. I told her that i dont have to answers those questions. She told me she doesnt want to date me this way. So i told her thats a shame. I said to her that i was going home but i couldnt because of the covid curfew, so i went to bed and slept.

Next morning she confronted me again with it and about she just couldnt' comprehend. I told her again that we arent in a relationship and we don't have to take responsebillty to eachother with dating other people at the moment.

Then i said im leaving and she made stupid joke about meeting other tinder girls and i just walked out of the door. She told me if i cant say a proper goodbye and i responded with you're just making dumb jokes, She texted me right after with why i couldnt to a proper goodbye. Not going to respond back.

The whole talk i just acted really calm and just told her my opinion about dating and that i can imagine she thinks differently, but this is just they way i think about it.

Sorry for the bad english. Just wanted to share a story.

Like she isn't probably talking to other guys, come on! But hey, you gave her competition anxiety and FOMO so either she'll rather share you or lose you, either way, you continue your path.

Modern Man Advice

 

[deadmasterx]

She used my mobilephone to shine some light and saw a tinder message.

That's where things messed up. The thing is, women like to subconsciously know that you have other options, but they hate it when you rub it against their faces. I know it was an accident, but that's what she probably felt in the situation.

No, there's nothing wrong with having other options, but I think that you could have dodged this bad behaviour of hers with some humour. Tease her, be playful. "Wow, it's the second date and you're already trying to settle down with me? That's cute". Just don't take her that seriously.

Needless to say that now you wait for her to write you, if she does. Chances are that her friends will back her up when she talks about what happened. Maybe she has a healthy minded friend who is gonna make her see things your side and go apologize, but these friends are absolutely rare.

 

[Bokanovsky]

To quote from Cool Hand Luke, what we have here is failure to communicate. When she said that she really liked you, in your mind she was saying precisely that - that she really likes you. In her mind, she was seeking affirmation that the two of you are in a relationship. Women will rarely if ever directly ask if you want to be in a relationship with them.

 

[jimwho]

Let this be a reminder. Women (way more than men) are wired to be sneaky/sly/cunning/snoops. If you leave your phone at her house to go get more chip dip, guaranteed she rifled through your phone. Sorry ladies, I know you can't help yourself. Leave them at your house and they go straight into detective mode.

 

[GreatHornedOwl]

I was dating this chick and saw her about 5 a 6 times. Not to much. Had sex on the second date. She told me she really liked me. Yesterday i was helping her to fix soms lights in her new home. She used my mobilephone to shine some light and saw a tinder message. Then after that she acted different. We were watching a movie and asked her whats wrong. She ignored somewhat the question and put the movie on pause and asked again. She said she doenst want to ruin the evening. i said to her that i can feel there is something bothering her and i just want her to tell me cause i dont like being around her when she is this way.

So she told me you dont know? I said i dont know. And then she began about the tinder message and that she really doesnt like it that i was dating other girls. I told her that we are not in an relationship and she asked me all different questions like when was the last time i had sex with somebody else blabla. I told her that i dont have to answers those questions. She told me she doesnt want to date me this way. So i told her thats a shame. I said to her that i was going home but i couldnt because of the covid curfew, so i went to bed and slept.

Next morning she confronted me again with it and about she just couldnt' comprehend. I told her again that we arent in a relationship and we don't have to take responsebillty to eachother with dating other people at the moment.

Then i said im leaving and she made stupid joke about meeting other tinder girls and i just walked out of the door. She told me if i cant say a proper goodbye and i responded with you're just making dumb jokes, She texted me right after with why i couldnt to a proper goodbye. Not going to respond back.

The whole talk i just acted really calm and just told her my opinion about dating and that i can imagine she thinks differently, but this is just they way i think about it.

Sorry for the bad english. Just wanted to share a story.

I told her that i dont have to answers those questions.

we arent in a relationship and we don't have to take responsebillty to eachother

No offense, but there was nothing smooth or charming about your responses to her questions. You gotta have a little finesse, man. Sounds like the issue wasn't with the message she saw, it was the way you handled it. If the shoe was on the other foot and a woman responded that way to you, it would probably rub you the wrong way too.

 

[derby1]

Kin hell lads give him some space, I think he did much better than a beta from betasville would.

God theres levels to this sh*t

 

[Warpal]

Oh well