To all those who are limiting themselves to ONE women

[Borknagar]

Ok not trying to be a ****, but I have and am still learning to not just put all my eggs in one basket. I see a lot of posts asking about a single women, one whos acting totally lame, flaky, ignoring you, etc etc. Don't bother with them! Find more women, even if you meet one you totally click with and blahblahblah, fill other time spots with other women, the more women you're hanging around with, ****ing, whatever, the better and less afc you will become with one in particular.

Sure you might think "hey isn't that being a player"? Maybe but who cares? Women play games CONSTANTLY, and chances are pretty good the women you're infatuated with is also interested in other men if she isn't giving you what you want, even if she is, women will leave a man at a drop of a hat so don't feel bad if you have a great day with Ms. so called "wonderful" go out that same night and find another women, or even more than one.

Hell I met a women that seems great over the weekend, but know what? I can see the bull**** coming already cause she isn't pushing my buttons enough. And can tell it isn't going to last cause she gave me the " I'm not ready to kiss you yet" excuse, and when I hear that i NEXT! But might hang out with her if I "have nothing better to do".

Always have a backup plan, more than one even, cause women are sneaky, and I can assure you they do as well.

 

[Tesl]

2000% right - "Date more women" would solve 99% of the problems people have on this board.

 

[Galactus]

I can't speak for anyone else, but when I used to come on here and talk about one specific chick, I always got accused of oneitis, even though I was juggling 4-8 women at any given time. Just because you're trying to figure out how to proceed with one, doesn't mean there aren't others.

Even now, when I'm not doing nearly as well as I used to, there are still always more than one possibility. If things go south with any one woman, I'll just go on to the next; I'm doing that anyway. But that isn't going to stop me from asking what to do in the case of one woman. Who says I can't be dealing with other women while I'm trying to get with her?

 

[pipe007]

well, there have been occasions where I dated three girls at the same time, but for me it is always more fulfilling to find one great girl and enjoy her company for as long as its a positive experience... if not, I let her go, and find someone who will make me happy

 

[Borknagar]

Yeah I'm not saying that everyone whos asks about a particular girl is only after one, but many of the general postings seem that way. And I hate to see other guys follow the same trap of liking only one like I used to be.

Hell even if I end up with a gf(doubtful) I'd still see other women, I don't care, as each women is only a TEMP in my eyes. I don't consider women as being something truly capable of a real long term relationship any more.

 

[Zarky]

I think there are some guys who have completely bought in to the "soul mate" idea and think there's ONE girl out there who is PERFECT for them. I don't understand this mindset, but lots of guys have it. I'm close friends with two of them. One got married when he was 25, one pines for some chick who hasn't spoken to him in 4 years.

I'm ok with the fact that I'm essentially alone in the world. Having women (or A woman) around doesn't change that. Hence, I can bang lots of girls, have several relationships, and never get all hung up on ONE chick. Maybe 75% of guys secretly want one girl, 25% are cool with banging lots of girls.

I've dated enough women to understand that no one woman will ever fulfill all my desires. Thus, I need a few

 

[Naughty Ninja]

This thread is gold. You can never have enough women.

 

[Boxer]

I'm quite happy in my exclusive relationship I'm in as of now.

 

[Wilko]

I think there are some guys who have completely bought in to the "soul mate" idea and think there's ONE girl out there who is PERFECT for them. I don't understand this mindset, but lots of guys have it. I'm close friends with two of them. One got married when he was 25, one pines for some chick who hasn't spoken to him in 4 years.

I'm ok with the fact that I'm essentially alone in the world. Having women (or A woman) around doesn't change that. Hence, I can bang lots of girls, have several relationships, and never get all hung up on ONE chick. Maybe 75% of guys secretly want one girl, 25% are cool with banging lots of girls.

I've dated enough women to understand that no one woman will ever fulfill all my desires. Thus, I need a few

Hey Zarky, I read this and it really resonated. I recently wrote this to someone about the subject:

Can you handle the truth?

All relationships are temporary, all of them. It's almost certain your next partner won't be your last, what's gained by pretending otherwise?

Humans are not monogamous, we never have been, we aren't now, and we never will be. Start dealing with it, the world won't end, you'll just have to give up the selfish idea that you can own someone else.

And concluded with a bit of Carl Sagan, thanks to whoever had it in their sig block by the way!

Carl Sagan said it best, "It is far better to grasp the Universe as it really is than to persist in delusion, however satisfying and reassuring." Clearly a very sexy bastard indeed.

 

[Wilko]

Also, thanks to whoever brought this gem to my attention. I'm paraphrasing here but...Oneitis is a symptom of only seeing one girl. You will naturally catch feelings for a girl IF you're not spinning other plates. Can't believe how true this turned out to be. It also makes perfect sense from an evolutionary perspective.

If plates are scarce then the best reprodutive strategy is to hang on to the one you have, and protect her from other males, catching feelings, forming exclusive relationships achieves that end quite nicely. If plates are abundant then the best reproductive strategy is pump and dump, to put it nicely, lol.

 

[Desdinova]

My problem is I have no time for more than one woman. My life is busy as 5hit so if I've got time for one woman, she should count herself as lucky.

At this point in my life, I cannot place dating as a high priority on my list. It just isn't as important as all the other 5hit going on. Don't get me wrong, I'm happily dating one woman, but she's not my be-all end-all. If she fvcks up, she's out the door and I'll move on. If she gets bored with me or whatever, that's fine too. I'll recover and move on. I always do.