To all the horny losers...

[psychocandy]

It's strange right now to try and put my current situation into words. It's more of an ongoing search to find my sense of feeling about my situation with girls, which is a lot of what I think about. Why do I want to find a girl? There are many reasons why I might.

Maybe there is something within all of us that constantly yearns for affection from the opposite sex, primarily from a biological standpoint. I mean, being men and women, shouldn't things just click naturally? I have a penis, but I'm left here with it pretty much in my hand, and girls right now being either a figment of my imagination or gazing in fake yet unquestioned lust through the glare of a computer monitor. The idea of pornography is becoming more and more stupid to me. It's sex but filtered through not one but many different levels of unreality. It's a sorry state that a man who should be sexually in the prime of his life is reduced to jerking off over people having sex in a completely fake setting, filmed thousands of miles away, clinically performed in order to make cash off of horny losers. Yeah I'm a virgin, but I'm left wondering if I want to end that because I actually need sex, or if I want to not have to worry about it any more.

Maybe I'm making excuses for my situation, but I'm sure there are a lot of people who right now feel that they don't have the right circumstances to go out and find girls. Alright at school I made out with a few girls here and there but no sort of relationship ever came out of it. Now I'm on a year out between school and university and still not yet old enough to get into clubs to meet new girls, so I'm stuck. There are no girls within my social circle, and although I'm ****ing grateful to have the friends I have (before them I was pretty much a friendless loser) there's this nagging feeling in my head that I missed all my highschool opportunities. I find it ironic that as my confidence and self-esteem (I'm a pretty good-looking guy and in good shape, and I've finally accepted that girls might actually be attracted to me ) have risen to a solid point where I feel comfortable with myself, the opportunities seem to have dwindled down to pretty much nothing. Don't get me wrong, I'm not blaming anyone but myself for letting those opportunities slip away, I just want to find new ones...

Is there anyone here who's in a similiar situation? And don't give me any **** about "just doing it, man", because everybody's circumstances are different. And those who want to flame away in all their insecurity can do so, because I know that a hell of a lot of people on this board are secretly frustrated keyboard jockeys themselves, tip tapping away on their keyboards to bumph themselves up to 'master don juan' status.

 

[MrBond_Age]

I know how you feel because I once was like this. I got a gf and we were together for 2 years. I thought I was happy because I wasnt a virgin anymore and I had a gf(like everyone!!YAY!...). Well it turned out she never gave me any trust. To make a long story short, I got into a fight with my father so he would lend me money to buy promise rings. I did get the money. GF comes to my place the very same night and gives me an ultimatum: I never cried for her and she wanted me to cry to prove I loved her. I told her to never come back and I threw the rings away.

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FForward to now
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I had sex with other women just for the fun of having sex. I used them for what I wanted and thats it. Im still going on dates almost monthly but I lost the fun I had because I mostly did it to prove to myself that I was awesome. I consider stoping all the dating completely for a long time. Love became nothing more than a word to me and sex lost most of its appeal to me.

 

[Jon341427]

Originally posted by MrBond_Age
I know how you feel because I once was like this. I got a gf and we were together for 2 years. I thought I was happy because I wasnt a virgin anymore and I had a gf(like everyone!!YAY!...). Well it turned out she never gave me any trust. To make a long story short, I got into a fight with my father so he would lend me money to buy promise rings. I did get the money. GF comes to my place the very same night and gives me an ultimatum: I never cried for her and she wanted me to cry to prove I loved her. I told her to never come back and I threw the rings away.

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FForward to now
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I had sex with other women just for the fun of having sex. I used them for what I wanted and thats it. Im still going on dates almost monthly but I lost the fun I had because I mostly did it to prove to myself that I was awesome. I consider stoping all the dating completely for a long time. Love became nothing more than a word to me and sex lost most of its appeal to me.

dont throw stuff away thats worth hard earned money, send it to me. pm me and ill send u my address.

 

[MrBond_Age]

Originally posted by Jon341427
dont throw stuff away thats worth hard earned money, send it to me. pm me and ill send u my address.

Its been 3 years or so already.

 

[m4a1]

Ok, I was lost, I had to read the post 3 times to understand that psychocandy is a man (what kind of guy uses "psychocandy" as a screen name? no offense)
Reading the first two paragraphs, I thought it was a confessions of a closet lesbo, lol.

I don't think I'll ever fall in love or get married, it seems so unreal, I'm just in it for the sex.
That's why I laugh when girls want to break up with me and expect me to go all AFC on them... but then all I say is "fine" or "great! now I can see other women!! YAY"

 

[Bonhomme]

Rome wasn't built in a day

You're young, psychocandy (BTW, other guys, I think the screenename is some sort of musical reference). Everyone has their ups and downs along the way. You have made improvement, right?

Perhaps you need a little break from the effort, so to speak. Change takes time.

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She wanted you to cry to prove you loved her, MrBond?!?!?

Good thing you're rid of her. One cannot force emotions, nor should anyone try to make someone. If she wants a crybaby, she should go out and FIND one.

Funny thing is, if you DID give in, and cry for her, I'd bet she would have lost her attraction for you on a gut level anyway (see David DeAngelo's stuff). If you're just not sensitive enough for her, then you were not compatible.

 

[Don_Marko]

This is not AFC stuff.

Try to realize that for next 30 years or so in your life you'll need women (physically, emotionally and probabbly spiritually as well) just as much as they'll need you. What will set you free is attitude of exploring and amusement towards women. If you belive that every chick you meet has something to offer to you, to help you grow as well as to make you happy you'll be anxious to meet as many as possible and then you'll invest in the high quality ones which will be women you spend most of your time with.
The way I see it you are lacking motivation to get women, society will tumble you back and forth, sometimes you'll find yourself surrounded by chicks and others holding ur dck in your hand. It's important to break trough social barriers and to have a hunter attitude (i.e. confidence, as well as skill) so that you can go after every woman you like so that you end up choosing who is in your life instead of letting society and life play you.
My advice to you is to have almost childlike atttidue towards women, don't get too hung up on the ones that don't like you and explore life with the ones that do. The more doors you knock on, the more will open, leaving you with more possible paths to go on.

 

[icecreaman]

Originally posted by Don_Marko
This is not AFC stuff.

Try to realize that for next 30 years or so in your life you'll need women (physically, emotionally and probabbly spiritually as well) just as much as they'll need you. What will set you free is attitude of exploring and amusement towards women. If you belive that every chick you meet has something to offer to you, to help you grow as well as to make you happy you'll be anxious to meet as many as possible and then you'll invest in the high quality ones which will be women you spend most of your time with.
The way I see it you are lacking motivation to get women, society will tumble you back and forth, sometimes you'll find yourself surrounded by chicks and others holding ur dck in your hand. It's important to break trough social barriers and to have a hunter attitude (i.e. confidence, as well as skill) so that you can go after every woman you like so that you end up choosing who is in your life instead of letting society and life play you.
My advice to you is to have almost childlike atttidue towards women, don't get too hung up on the ones that don't like you and explore life with the ones that do. The more doors you knock on, the more will open, leaving you with more possible paths to go on.

Good advice. Like what Don_Marko said, you gotta act like a kid in a candy store. Sample everything.

 

[squirrels]

Try missing all of your high school AND college opportunities.

Pornography is part of that instant E-gratification we get today without having to do any work for it. It IS unnatural...it's essentially giving us males a place to dump off our testosterone and male desires as if they were waste, instead of using them for mating and reproduction. (cuz those things are DIRRRRRTY. )

Porn = soma, essentially.

Women these days do the same thing with vibrators and dildos. They have these parties that are essentially tupperware parties, but with SEX TOYS. Think about that! How f'ed up is that??

Society has taken the physical union between men and women and declared it waste and has dictated that we dispose of it as such. As a result of political correctness and a loss of gender roles, there shouldn't be any "masculine" or "feminine", just people. Boring, dull people going to work for 8 hours, coming home, drinking to forget about work until they go into work the next day.

The only PROBLEM with this is that human beings AREN'T wired this way. Years and years of social conditioning and yet still, genetically, men are still men and women are still women.

But only the people who DISCOVER this, who can ACCEPT this will ever mate. In this, the ignorant are actually SUPERIOR because they have not been exposed to the repressive nature of socialization and education.

And in repressing the masculine, society has also repressed competitive, leader-like, inspirational qualities, and in repressing the feminine, it has also repressed familial, caring, supportive, receptive qualities.

Why is it the JOCKS and the CHEERLEADERS who always get laid, who always have the cool followings, who always end up class president or homecoming king/queen? These inferior specimins who end up flipping burgers or laying bricks for a living somewhere while paying child-support to some crack *****?

Why is it the intelligent, creative students are the ones who are left behind all through high school? Don't have dates to the dances? Are never leaders?

Because our "enlightened" view has been poisoned by political spin. We're taught to think that separating people into "men" and "women" is reprehensible! That sex is DIRTY and that we have to worry about pregnancy, AIDS, Herpes, rape, sexual harassment, etc etc...they never teach you about masculinity, that's for sure. And when they teach you about femininity it's always some BS about female power, not about the true female nature.

THIS is why people like us, who have been socialized to thrive on porn and dismiss REAL sex find ourselves on forums like this longing to mate, wanting to understand sexuality, something we've talked about and been told about FOREVER, but never really PRACTICED.

 

[Ice Cold]

Fukk girls for fun.

It's intresting to play the game. To lay them... so test them... to see how they react.

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by Ice Cold
Fukk girls for fun.

It's intresting to play the game. To lay them... so test them... to see how they react.

*gasp*

How DARE you??!

 

[Ice Cold]

Originally posted by squirrels
*gasp*

How DARE you??!

Uh? WTF?

 

[ZMan]

Next time you meet a girl enjoy yourself, flirt with her, and try to F#ck her, it's fun. Even better F#ck her it's really fun. Quit worrying about all the other crap, Porno, Society, Blah blah blah. Take the risk of getting laid, before you masterbait. Sometimes i just ask a girl if she wants to party and get naked.

 

[Don_Marko]

Yes but once you can fck a girl whenever you feel like, it stops becoming fun real fast if you don't like her and if you do it's like million times better... quality over quantity any day

Possibilities are always there you just got to see them or make them happen