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I. Realizing that if you're so -afraid- to talk to her and so -fearful- of the approach, then what fun will there be in the relationship?? Can't be around someone you're fearful of or don't feel you are on the same level as.
II. That life is short, but sweet for certain. Experience as much as you can. Make the most of every moment. Inject life into them. If it's boring, wake them up. If I'm with a girl, I'd rather have her mad or feel something to get her sparked than just be down or out.
III. That looks -CERTAINLY- help, but with 3 billion women, there's always a girl, always another girl out there, and always TONS that will like ou if you be yourself. To me it's exciting when things end because I get to enjoy the journey of meeting another girl.
IV. Be yourself yes, I used THAT phrase most hate. But it's true. Girls like men with balls. Plus, guys in general have alot going for them. Fvck what society speaks out it's collective mouth, it has penis envy. Women want to be like men in a lot of cases, but can't. They haven't embraced their own uniqueness either, so obviously they're mad at us. Being yourself means knowing what you want, what's important, and sticking to that.
Don't bend for a girl THAT much if it really disturbs your priorities or what you like. If sundays are your day with your friends to watch football, let her come watch it, even buy her the team jersey, but don't bend and fold your life up for the relationship. Both people must compromise, but it isn't ALL about you being her slave and pacifying her.
Being yourself also means getting to know you. Who better to know than who you are? Most don't. And most guys are too PC with women that the girls walk because they don't feel your balls.
V. Re-centering your life around you and building from there. Truly you got 1 shot at life. 1 shot at 17 years old, 18 years old, 21 years old, etc. Don't waste those years on true misery. Use them for happiness! Fvck negativity. Fvck it in it's stupid azz.
VI. It's a piece of 5hit, walk away. Negative THINGS hold you back. They keep you mulling over them and making decisions. They prevent you from going forward. They hold your mind. They drag each day down. Cut loose the shackles that hold you back. Cut loose bad X's. Cut loose bad friends. Cut loose bad habits.
I had 1 friend who did a lot of 5hitty things, but he was funny and great to drink with. That was the extent. I couldn't trust him as far as I could throw him (he weighed over 200lbs) and he tried picking up on my girls behind my back (no such luck). None of my other friends liked him, and he was in constant trouble with family or the law. Buh-bye. That's negative.
Another X I was more a friend than an X, because I dated her 2 years and were friends another 4. I went to college with her. I had good feelings about her, but I don't think I loved her where I could confidently look her in the eyes during sex and say it. That's gut-wrenching right there. She was always clouded in bad vibes. Bad stuff always happened online, or she'd criticize new gf's while trying to remain impartial. Her life was always in shambles, despite trying to be upbeat. Her decisions were always built on being a victim and playing into drama, that brings bad vibes, too. Buh-bye.
VII. Claim ownership of your life and your decisions. We all know people who say "no" to ideas we love. So what, we move on. We all come to expect things of friends, don't. Be ok with saying no for the sake of saying no. And sometimes, you need to say yes, and push through whatever emotions you have. Just know you own your life, that's it. There's no debt claim on it. No friend can EXPECT anything of it. You exist perfect as you are, and your existence is not meant so someone else can exist, too.
There are many people who are friends with us, that claim friendship, and yet, when we don't do something, they're pissed. EXPECTATION. Your existence is meaning something to their survival and emotions.
I always cringe when people say "I expected, " or a "good friend would," or "a guy would." Yuck. Not fun or good.
VIII. Date lots of women, you'll get jaded enough NOT to be impressed with stupid things. If you date alot, you'll get over any cold feet you got. Also you'll learn to handle yourself in awkward situations. At one point I was going on blind-dates, meeting 35 y.o. women at nice, and dating 18 year olds. It was fast paced, because sometimes it was all in 1 week, but it was fun.
THAT gets tiring, because all in all, I wanted to go home and chill, and then I'd be flying out at night. You learn ALL women are quirky, and some insane, and that dumbs you down to them in general. No pedastal exists then. Nothing. Level ground or less.
Just market your machine. Be out in view. Be visible. Believe in spontaneity. Believe you can meet a woman anywhere. Places I've met women...
1. In a lobby at a Houston Resort after a night of pool and drinking on a business trip. The next day she went to a Hawaiian party.
2. At a benefit fund raiser during christmas in Boston. The girl was friend's of someone hosting a party and was the "prettiest" belle of them all. Given all the alcohol, we just got to talking and I took her in my arm and walked her to the fundraiser. A few drinks later we were dancing and kissing on a floor of uptight older people and my buddy and I had snuck in without paying.
3. At a supercuts. She was 7 years younger at the time, and just out of H.S. Flirted but didn't pay much attention though she was a Hb9+ (sex appeal off the chart). The girls in the salon talked me while I was gone, b/c I frequented the place in suits. Eventually the number was the easiest thing in the world since I just wanted to chill with her.
4. At an Uno's restaurant @ 21 years old. I'd just broken up/been forcibly dumped by my X, so I wasn't happy. But I saw a girl I thought looked like Meadow Soprano (who I loved) and told her "you have the most beautiful face I've ever seen" and walked away. 1 week later she comes back in, and happens to be friends of a girl there. She's 19 and a freshman. She was a fantastically curvy short girl with dark hair, D's, and a round azz. Wasn't real sexual, but when she moaned it was a TRUE GIRL and FEMININE moan that made you die.
The encounters are the best part. I've never been a systematic person, where I sarge at bars, or clubs, and never really had success there. I've made out there, and on occasion if I went to a certain BAR ALOT, eventually I got to know the bartenders and bouncers well enough, girls just came up to me, or we'd kiss, exchange numbers whatever, but nothing fantastic. Heck I even met a girl @ my grand mother's retirement community because I saw her face in the newsletter my grandmother received and said she was HOT. Little did I know gorgeous and my grandmother arranged a dinner for me when she'd be working. A true italian girl who loved the sox and her dad and school, about 21, but not a drinker.
Girls are easy to come by, really.
A-Unit
