40quid
Don Juan
Gather 'round aspiring DJs, let me tell you all a story.
First, the key point of the story is this: do everything you can to reach your potential.
That’s it. If you do that, you will be a success not only with women, but in life as well.
Now, the story:
This is a story that probably all of you know very well. It's a story of a good guy who couldn't get anywhere with women. He was timid, shy, and very concerned about what anyone thought about him.
This guy was introduced to fastseduction.com and sosuave.com by friends who felt his desperation and pain for being an abject failure with women his entire life. They could see the anger, frustration, and resentment slowly brewing in his soul because of his lack of success. This guy had finally hit rock bottom when relationship after relationship, chance after chance seemed to pass him by because he was absolutely clueless about women. He looked to the men around him and sadly realized that they were AFCs, just like him. There wasn’t a single guy, whether it be a friend, sibling, parent, or relative that he knew that was a master with women. This guy realized that this was a journey that he would have to make on his own.
This guy tried every trick in the sosuave, fastseduction, DeAngelo sources and nothing worked for him. He spent a year frustrated and angry.
Then, one day, it all became clear to him. Not having women in his life was not the problem, but a symptom of a larger problem.
What is this larger problem, you ask?
The larger problem, or the big picture is this: if you don't have your shyte handled in your life, you're never going to find that sense of security that makes you a true DJ. Sure, there are many people that can get very far by learning how to mime the tactics, but unless you understand the core mentality, you'll always have that empty feeling that insecurity always brings.
How do you handle your shyte? There is no quick fix. It takes a long time.
I looked for a long time and discovered that one positive thing about me is that I have an inate curiousity and like to learn new things. I started gathering information about subjects that interested me and immersed myself in those subjects.
Then, I discovered that I had this horrible habit of procrastinating and avoiding things that I thought was scary or a hassle.
I started forcing myself to face those things and dealing with them head on. I would look at the problem, explicitly define the problem, come up with possible solutions, and force myself to work towards one of the solutions. If that solution didn't work, I would start over and try the next one. Suddenly, I started to gain confidence in my own abilities to face problems that I once felt were so daunting.
I started taking a genuine interest in people by finding people that I liked to hang out with and engaging them in conversation. Once I learned more about people, they would be more comfortable with me, and then, that comfort level would snowball into more invitations to hang out. This, in a nutshell, is how you form relationships with people. Find out their interests by listening to them and asking questions to continue the conversation. I find that people generally like people who will listen to them talk about themselves. This also works with women.
I started looking at what I could do for people instead of wondering what others could do for me. I would offer to help people and while the vast majority turn it down or don't follow up on the offer, the ones that I have helped have turned into good friendly relationships.
After doing all of these things, I found something interesting. I no longer had that needy, nervous, insecure feeling in the pit of my stomach. I had friends to hang out with one the weekends. I had activities to keep me busy. I had a network of contacts that I could call on to make things happen. I was willing and fully capable of helping others in need.
And suddenly, I started carrying myself in a more confident manner. . . and then . . . the women started appearing. Why? Because I have my shyte together and that neediness that used to eat me alive no longer controls me. If a woman turns me down, it no longer destroys me, because due to my confidence in myself, my own abilities, and attractiveness, I don’t take rejection personally. Rejection happened because of actions that are just out of my control.
The other night, I had to basically physically extract myself from a woman at a bar. She was pawing at me, whispering in my ear, making sexual comments about what she wanted me to do to her, and begging me to dance with her. This never would have happened to me a year-and-a-half ago. What was the difference? The difference was the confidence I had in my abilities translated into the way I carried myself with this particular woman.
Do I get every woman I want? No, but my pool of women to choose from is getting bigger every day. Don't be fooled by the adolescent fantasy that men do the choosing. Women do the choosing. But it's up to you to make yourself as attractive as you can be so that you can have your pick of as many women as possible because they have all chosen you.
So the moral of this story is this -- if you're a dateless loser, the problem you have is of a bigger scope than just women. But don't despair. Achieve your potential by committing yourself to take steps to working on areas of your life EVERY DAY. This dogged persistence, if you have the burning desire to achieve your potential, will eventually lead you in the right direction and your destination.
First, the key point of the story is this: do everything you can to reach your potential.
That’s it. If you do that, you will be a success not only with women, but in life as well.
Now, the story:
This is a story that probably all of you know very well. It's a story of a good guy who couldn't get anywhere with women. He was timid, shy, and very concerned about what anyone thought about him.
This guy was introduced to fastseduction.com and sosuave.com by friends who felt his desperation and pain for being an abject failure with women his entire life. They could see the anger, frustration, and resentment slowly brewing in his soul because of his lack of success. This guy had finally hit rock bottom when relationship after relationship, chance after chance seemed to pass him by because he was absolutely clueless about women. He looked to the men around him and sadly realized that they were AFCs, just like him. There wasn’t a single guy, whether it be a friend, sibling, parent, or relative that he knew that was a master with women. This guy realized that this was a journey that he would have to make on his own.
This guy tried every trick in the sosuave, fastseduction, DeAngelo sources and nothing worked for him. He spent a year frustrated and angry.
Then, one day, it all became clear to him. Not having women in his life was not the problem, but a symptom of a larger problem.
What is this larger problem, you ask?
The larger problem, or the big picture is this: if you don't have your shyte handled in your life, you're never going to find that sense of security that makes you a true DJ. Sure, there are many people that can get very far by learning how to mime the tactics, but unless you understand the core mentality, you'll always have that empty feeling that insecurity always brings.
How do you handle your shyte? There is no quick fix. It takes a long time.
I looked for a long time and discovered that one positive thing about me is that I have an inate curiousity and like to learn new things. I started gathering information about subjects that interested me and immersed myself in those subjects.
Then, I discovered that I had this horrible habit of procrastinating and avoiding things that I thought was scary or a hassle.
I started forcing myself to face those things and dealing with them head on. I would look at the problem, explicitly define the problem, come up with possible solutions, and force myself to work towards one of the solutions. If that solution didn't work, I would start over and try the next one. Suddenly, I started to gain confidence in my own abilities to face problems that I once felt were so daunting.
I started taking a genuine interest in people by finding people that I liked to hang out with and engaging them in conversation. Once I learned more about people, they would be more comfortable with me, and then, that comfort level would snowball into more invitations to hang out. This, in a nutshell, is how you form relationships with people. Find out their interests by listening to them and asking questions to continue the conversation. I find that people generally like people who will listen to them talk about themselves. This also works with women.
I started looking at what I could do for people instead of wondering what others could do for me. I would offer to help people and while the vast majority turn it down or don't follow up on the offer, the ones that I have helped have turned into good friendly relationships.
After doing all of these things, I found something interesting. I no longer had that needy, nervous, insecure feeling in the pit of my stomach. I had friends to hang out with one the weekends. I had activities to keep me busy. I had a network of contacts that I could call on to make things happen. I was willing and fully capable of helping others in need.
And suddenly, I started carrying myself in a more confident manner. . . and then . . . the women started appearing. Why? Because I have my shyte together and that neediness that used to eat me alive no longer controls me. If a woman turns me down, it no longer destroys me, because due to my confidence in myself, my own abilities, and attractiveness, I don’t take rejection personally. Rejection happened because of actions that are just out of my control.
The other night, I had to basically physically extract myself from a woman at a bar. She was pawing at me, whispering in my ear, making sexual comments about what she wanted me to do to her, and begging me to dance with her. This never would have happened to me a year-and-a-half ago. What was the difference? The difference was the confidence I had in my abilities translated into the way I carried myself with this particular woman.
Do I get every woman I want? No, but my pool of women to choose from is getting bigger every day. Don't be fooled by the adolescent fantasy that men do the choosing. Women do the choosing. But it's up to you to make yourself as attractive as you can be so that you can have your pick of as many women as possible because they have all chosen you.
So the moral of this story is this -- if you're a dateless loser, the problem you have is of a bigger scope than just women. But don't despair. Achieve your potential by committing yourself to take steps to working on areas of your life EVERY DAY. This dogged persistence, if you have the burning desire to achieve your potential, will eventually lead you in the right direction and your destination.
