Tips to last longer?

[Mr.SomeoneElse]

Srs.
What do you do to last longer in bed?

I've been doing No Fap for the last 20days now.
D*ck is super sensitive. If any of you have been keeping up to date with my progress I mentioned the results feeling really lousy this week, I guess i'm finally starting to go through withdrawals.

Anyways, I mentioned how i'm going to abstain for sex for 30 days and no fap for 90. I decided that the no sex thing was stupid, it will probably make me feel better so I luckily have a plate coming over tonight that I met on the subway this week. (NoFap confidence).
So its pretty obviously that we're going to **** and I don't want to finish instantly, but my d^ck feels like it's a virgin right now haha.
Normally I have no troubles with lasting or I would just fap before the action started. I don't really care if I *** instantly, I guess she's just a random I met, doesn't have any mutual friends but still she has FWB potential.

TLDR; Tips for lasting longer.

 

[Zerro]

Srs.
What do you do to last longer in bed?

I've been doing No Fap for the last 20days now.
D*ck is super sensitive.

Well you're doing it @ss-backards then. Of course it's gonna be over-sensitive if you stop using it for an extended period. If you want to last longer you need to be de-sensitized.

 

[Mr.SomeoneElse]

Well you're doing it @ss-backards then. Of course it's gonna be over-sensitive if you stop using it for an extended period. If you want to last longer you need to be de-sensitized.

I know that man! That's why I need help!
It's been a month and a week since I last had sex and 20 days since I fapped last.

 

[Buddha_Mind]

I know that man! That's why I need help!
It's been a month and a week since I last had sex and 20 days since I fapped last.

Well jerking it too much is not always good because you'll drain your sex drive. You have to find some balance there, probably some masturbation is healthy.

Have you heard of kegels? This is a way to practice strengthening your prostate and it can help reduce premature ejaculation.

Also, actually masturbating in a way that doesn't seek 3-minute ejaculation (like the length of most short porn clips) can help. Right before you climax, stop for a moment, or grab the head of your penis tightly (I know to some this sounds fvcked up but go do some research honestly its a way to reduce premature ejaculation). By grasping just beneath the head of the penis it can reduce blood flow and prevent ejaculation. The point is to practice via masturbation to extent your ejaculation timing...see if you can go 30 or 40 minutes..again, some might find this preverse but maybe it could be useful training? (most men jerk it off and let go as soon as possible..)

Also by doing a kegel flex during sex (flexing the prostate area/the muscles by the anus) this can help too.

There's tons of stuff online if you do some basic searches for prevent premature ejaculation. There is a lot of pressure on us men given the nature of porn films and the 1000mph pumping action going on (most porn stars do use drugs that decrease the sensitivity/ejaculation) -- so you've got be realistic with yourself.

Just taking a break during sex can work too. But make sure you give her a quality orgasm, and make sure she feels you've genuinely appreciated her. I've always found just a bit of communication helps...a friend gave me a good tip once...rather than say "I haven't gotten any for awhile" or something as to why you have to take a break, you say, "oh baby you've got me so hot, give me just a second"...you could continue with foreplay with her while you recover...I'm sure she wouldn't be too disappointed in that.

 

[Mr.SomeoneElse]

Well jerking it too much is not always good because you'll drain your sex drive. You have to find some balance there, probably some masturbation is healthy.

Have you heard of kegels? This is a way to practice strengthening your prostate and it can help reduce premature ejaculation.

Also, actually masturbating in a way that doesn't seek 3-minute ejaculation (like the length of most short porn clips) can help. Right before you climax, stop for a moment, or grab the head of your penis tightly (I know to some this sounds fvcked up but go do some research honestly its a way to reduce premature ejaculation). By grasping just beneath the head of the penis it can reduce blood flow and prevent ejaculation. The point is to practice via masturbation to extent your ejaculation timing...see if you can go 30 or 40 minutes..again, some might find this preverse but maybe it could be useful training? (most men jerk it off and let go as soon as possible..)

Also by doing a kegel flex during sex (flexing the prostate area/the muscles by the anus) this can help too.

There's tons of stuff online if you do some basic searches for prevent premature ejaculation. There is a lot of pressure on us men given the nature of porn films and the 1000mph pumping action going on (most porn stars do use drugs that decrease the sensitivity/ejaculation) -- so you've got be realistic with yourself.

Just taking a break during sex can work too. But make sure you give her a quality orgasm, and make sure she feels you've genuinely appreciated her. I've always found just a bit of communication helps...a friend gave me a good tip once...rather than say "I haven't gotten any for awhile" or something as to why you have to take a break, you say, "oh baby you've got me so hot, give me just a second"...you could continue with foreplay with her while you recover...I'm sure she wouldn't be too disappointed in that.

Thanks for the advice man.
Yeah I know of kegels.
Ive done the grabbing the head of the **** thing too before, sometimes if you dont hold it long enough you'll still *** but yeah, that **** works.

I just meant as far as frame of mind goes.

If you read the thread called 'No Fap Challenge Progress'
It lists the reasons why i'm staying away from masturbating/porn
I'm assuming that this issue is just going to be a problem until I start having sex again or after the 90 day mark.

As far as tonight, oddly enough I didn't want to drive to pick her up ( lol )
It's like a 24min drive to her house, and I dont know man, for some reason I just didnt even feel like it. So problem solved lol

 

[Buddha_Mind]

Re: 'mental things'

Imagine your c0ck as like a bronze sword, LOL, but rather imagine your c0ck as a massive steel pole as you're having sex with her. I know that sounds fvcked but I've found this really really helps me. I learned it from some brief martial arts training. When we were learning a certain stiff-arm move, the instructor recommended visualizing your arm as a steel rod connecting to the wall. When I was having healthy sex last (not the sh!tty sex we had in the end), I would visualize my c0ck as a steel rod....somehow this mental exercise helped me to reach into her fully, to be strong...I recommend giving this a try...

 

[Mr.SomeoneElse]

Re: 'mental things'

Imagine your c0ck as like a bronze sword, LOL, but rather imagine your c0ck as a massive steel pole as you're having sex with her. I know that sounds fvcked but I've found this really really helps me. I learned it from some brief martial arts training. When we were learning a certain stiff-arm move, the instructor recommended visualizing your arm as a steel rod connecting to the wall. When I was having healthy sex last (not the sh!tty sex we had in the end), I would visualize my c0ck as a steel rod....somehow this mental exercise helped me to reach into her fully, to be strong...I recommend giving this a try...

****.. haha.
Alright man, i'll try that out.
Thanks.
Turns out i'm going to pick her up now, changed my mind lol.
Wish me luck!

 

[PlayerUntilDeath]

Similar to the foreplay (that could last at least 10 to 20 minutes or more itself), during s*x and way before getting the sensation of ejaculati*n stop and pull out (this pulling out completely will probably be done many times during this session) and the man doesn't even have to say anything when he pulls out just some "dirty talk (like she looks/feels so good, etc)" and once pulled out smoothly go to kissing/caressing her all over her body and then begin again (or change positions then), when the man is pulled out he can give her oral (licking her p*ssy especially the cl*t) however with a new woman it is probably better to not do any cunnilingus thus instead fingering her p*ssy (sometimes inside up on the G-Spot in a come here motion) and/or rubbing her cl*t (usually in a circular motion or with a lubed finger rub back and forth on the 1 o'clock position of the **** as looking at the cl*t )with some lubed fingers is a good way for the man to have his arousal go down, (also the man and/or woman should also rub her cl*t during s*x often), also maybe see if she would like the sensations of some kind of mini-vibrator (vibrating c*ck ring/bullet vibe/pocket rocket/etc) on her cl*t during these "in between penetration pull out times" (these mini-vibrators can also be used during intercouse on her cl*t if she is getting off with it), vary the thrusting depth (shallow/deep) and angles (sometimes angling the pen*s up to her G-Spot) and motions (rotate hips and pen*s in circles) and speed (slow/fast) and intensity (soft/hard), and change positions many times (and take many seconds or even minutes in between each position smoothly doing more kissing/licking/caressing all over her body). So a DJ doing these tips I said here can make this one s*x session go on for quite a while to make the s*x last longer.

 

[Eternal_water]

Try imagining the ugliest girl you've ever seen, or 2 girls 1 cup

 

[coochieman]

Masturbate shortly before she comes over. Helps you get that "quick-first" out. Secondly, you'd be more relaxed while making out.

Most times, the next round is always better than the previous. So go multiple.

 

[Mr.SomeoneElse]

GUYS I LASTED ****ING FOREVER!
NO FAP DOESNT AFFECT IT AT ALL
I ****ed the SH*T out of her then drove her home.
So proud of myself, if anything I have more stamina.
Either from the gym or no fap, sex felt great, went several times.
Feelsgoodbro

 

[Young Juan]

I was gonna say either it won't effect as much as you think or you'll be able to go more rounds. There's always the get head first and then fvck her route

 

[Jair213]

i pull in n out, and think of other stuff.. i even order a pizza once on the phone while pounding it LOL