Tips on Solo Club/Bar Hopping..

[The Edge]

Allow me to get on my soap-box for a second before I get down to the details of this thread.

What the f*uck are you guys doing posting on this Forum, early Saturday and Sunday mornings. Shut your fu*cken computers off and GO OUT!!!!!

Okay I'm off my soap-box now!!

Tips to Solo Club Hopping!

1. Make sure you have at least 3 clubs or bars in mind. A lot of solo artists make the mistake of going to just one, and end up standing alone and being judged by onlookers.

2. Choose the bar that has the atmosphere you are most comfortable in, for last. I for one, love to dance and as a result go to dance clubs last.

3. The idea is to arrive at the first bar, and mingle. This does not necessarily mean talking to anyone, especially if you haven't been there before. Get a drink, from the bar (even if you don't drink) walk around, and act like you are a man with a plan.

4. If you play pool, hang around the pool tables. Get used to the atmosphere and pretty much be seen. If you are comfortable enough walk up to the bartender and talk to him or her. Basically get loosened up.

5. Leave after about an hour and enter next bar. This is where you want to start interacting with people. The aim is to develop a rapport with a few groups of people. Small idle conversation, perfect. Rejection, perfect. REMEMBER, it doesn't matter, this is not the bar you're going to end up at. All you're doing is getting warmed up!!!. Try to mingle with smaller groups. At this point, the groups could be of either sex. The aim is to get comfortable with your ability to 'conversate'. Don't worry, you will be more relaxed in this situation because, remember, you have just come from another bar, and you are getting ready to go to the next bar. You will be impressed with the confidence you emit.

6. Never let anyone know you're out alone. If anyone asks, you are on your way to meet friends at another bar.(Your last and final bar, where you are most comfortable)This gives you the "busy guy" look and is attractive to women.

7. If you are still alone at this time, it's okay. The key is to arrive at your last club pumped and full of confidence. Believe me it carries over, from bar to bar to bar. Leave after about an hour. At this point, you may have people with you. But if you don't.. NO PROBLEM!

8. Enter the last bar. Oh yeah!! Very relaxed...You have been to two clubs already,.. You're a man about town.... And the best of all, it shows. What you have done, is brought the mood from the other bars with you. This is where you act. DO YOUR THING DJ. I guarantee you.. If you don't *****foot around, you may get rejected.. But I guarantee, if you use the carry-over from the other bars along with your own confidence, there is no limit to the amount of fun and phone numbers you will have at the end of the night.

Bottom line. TURN YOUR FU*CKEN COMPUTERS OFF AT LEAST ON FRIDAY AND SATURDAY NIGHTS, AND GO OUT!!!

 

[Ricardo]

Great post. You are a wise man. I had to solo act it in the summer in a new town and even now here at times.

I would add also to try to make friends with some of the guys at the places if they are regulars. It brings you the opportunity of more wingmen.

One of the bars a solo guy should pick should have a nice bar. Sitting by yourself at such a place is actually a positive thing because a couple of girls could sit right next to you! It's better than if you were with a friend because you can mack on the girls more easily.

Another good trick is to sit at a big table. Act as if you are waiting for some friends. In a busy place girls will ask to sit down there. You can tell them you are waiting for friends and DJ them for a while.

Then fake a phone call and say you have to leave because your friends are at another bar. Get the girls number and split!

 

[Donjuanpablo]

Originally posted by The Edge:
Allow me to get on my soap-box for a second before I get down to the details of this thread.

What the f*uck are you guys doing posting on this Forum, early Saturday and Sunday mornings. Shut your fu*cken computers off and GO OUT!!!!!

Actually not every body who visits this site lives in the same corner of the earth as you do, hence time differences.

 

[The Edge]

Originally posted by Donjuanpablo:

Actually not every body who visits this site lives in the same corner of the earth as you do, hence time differences.

Well, once again I stick my foot in my mouth. As crude as I may have come across, it actually was not meant to offend anyone.

Let's just call it:

The Edge's first attempt at motivational speaking... gone array... LOL!!!

 

[looking for answers]

going to bars and clubs on your own isnt always a good idea, no matter where in the world you are there will always be guys who let alcohol or drugs go to their head and are willing to pick fights. if you are on your own, you are 1) almost certain to be beaten by a group 2) more likely to be targetted in the first place, however if you are in a group you are not that likely to be targetted and even if you do, you have back up, not saying your tips arnt good, they are, i just think we should take this into consideration.

 

[wheelin&dealin]

Originally posted by looking for answers:
going to bars and clubs on your own isnt always a good idea, no matter where in the world you are there will always be guys who let alcohol or drugs go to their head and are willing to pick fights. if you are on your own, you are 1) almost certain to be beaten by a group 2) more likely to be targetted in the first place, however if you are in a group you are not that likely to be targetted and even if you do, you have back up, not saying your tips arnt good, they are, i just think we should take this into consideration.

Then why don't you just hide in your basement for the rest of your life?


As for going to the club solo, I do it all the time. I normally only go to one club per night but I make tonnes of social proof by chatting up every girl I see. By the end of the night I know most of the people in the place and that's why I would rather stay in the same club as opposed to hopping from one to another. Here are a few tips I have found quite useful:

1. If you have nothing to do, wait in a drink line-up at the bar. After about 5 minutes of not being served pretend that you don't want to wait in line any longer and leave the line(unless of course you need a drink, then order one).

2. Hang out in crowded places of the club. Places where you can't tell if you are by yourself or not.

3. Chat up every woman you see.

4. Chat up waitresses, barmaids, coat-check girls, whoever... when you have nothing to do.

5. Don't stay in the same place by yourself for a long time. Go to the washroom, walk around, act like you have places to go and people to see.

6. Dance with HBs

7. Make sure to come into the club later on when it is packed.

8. Be the happiest and funnest person in the place.

 

[John Powers]

Good post,

I have some different thoughts about a couple of the ideas though.

You don't have to save the best place for last. You should go to your different places according to what times they are the best. Your favorite place may die off later in the night, in that case you don't want to be the guy there with the leftovers after everybody went somewhere else.

Also, I don't agree that you shouldn't tell people that you're out alone. I tell people, I just spin it the right way. I tell them, "Oh no, the weekend nights are my nights to get out and meet new people, I find if I go out with friends I don't end up meeting new people, just talking with them, so I come out alone on purpose, it's much more fun that way." Or something to that effect. This may sound sort of lame reading it, but I use it, and more importantly I believe it. I do get to meet more new people when I go out by myself. I've had good success with this approach lately. Had several chicks tell me how cool that was that I came out alone, I think it displays confidence. Some of them don't beleive that I am there by myself In the last 2 weeks, of the girls who have asked me this, one of them, was definately into me and I should have closed, but I thought I'd see her again later, another I didn't want to, and the third I did, I'll call her next week.
BTW: I'm not trying to pass that off as my own idea, I got it from someone else here, and I like it. I do need to find a good wing, but I have worked with a few, it seems to slow me down a bit so far, in terms of having to make decisions by commitee. I have found lately, I haven't spent much time standing by myself, I'm talking to different people almost all night. Once you get the ball rolling, it's pretty easy. Of course, this is easier at a bar where you can actually *talk* to people without having to shout. I'm in CA, so I can't smoke inside, I like to work the patio areas and stuff where it's a bit easier to talk, and you get girls coming out alone, or in pairs, already seperated from their big groups. And of course, it gives them an easy in to ask for a cigarette or a light.


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All we can do is learn the art of being irrational in
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John Powers -out!

 

[Mr. Mystery]

Originally posted by looking for answers:
going to bars and clubs on your own isnt always a good idea, no matter where in the world you are there will always be guys who let alcohol or drugs go to their head and are willing to pick fights. if you are on your own, you are 1) almost certain to be beaten by a group 2) more likely to be targetted in the first place, however if you are in a group you are not that likely to be targetted and even if you do, you have back up, not saying your tips arnt good, they are, i just think we should take this into consideration.

Getting the sh!t kicked out of you isn't the end of the world. Not to say that you should go out and pick fights, but you certainly shouldn't change your behavior or life to avoid the chance of getting your azz kicked.

Mr. Mystery

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[Sir Shags Alot]

Originally posted by looking for answers:
going to bars and clubs on your own isnt always a good idea, no matter where in the world you are there will always be guys who let alcohol or drugs go to their head and are willing to pick fights. if you are on your own, you are 1) almost certain to be beaten by a group 2) more likely to be targetted in the first place, however if you are in a group you are not that likely to be targetted and even if you do, you have back up, not saying your tips arnt good, they are, i just think we should take this into consideration.

sounds like an excuse for insecurities.

 

[Andrew]

There's a ring of truth to what Looking For Answers is saying. There's always *******s looking for fights, and there's always going to be a time in your life when you run into those types of people. And yes, those that are solo are always targeted.

But it's not like it's going to happen to anyone and everyone that clubs by themselves.

 

[The Edge]

Originally posted by Andrew:
There's a ring of truth to what Looking For Answers is saying. There's always *******s looking for fights, and there's always going to be a time in your life when you run into those types of people. And yes, those that are solo are always targeted.

Granted this is a reasonable fear, but in the grand scheme of things, it holds as much value as saying:

"Don't eat fish, there is always a chance you will get a bone stuck in your throat"

Realize, that the people posting on this site, come from all walks of life. Some may be new to a town/city and these tips give them 'a little bit of an edge". (I stress the word little).

Bottom-line, incorporate some of these ideas into the way you deal with your nite on the town.

" Eat the meat and spit out the bones "

GOOD LUCK!!