Tips on LTR lack of respect/IL?

[Francisco d'Anconia]

It never ceases to amaze me how all the most insecure guys I know, who're trapped in these dead-end LTRs and scared sh!tless to man-up and adopt an "I don't give a fukk" approach, suddenly find that their controlling GFs do a 180 in their attitude and go all wet between the legs once they stick to taking the frame of the relationship back. ...

It's because they are still defining themselves by their interactions with women instead of intrinsically. These women are their lifelines, they'd feel more comfortable chopping off an appendage. Actually, by their actions they seem to have already chopped one off and gave it to these women in a little box tied with a pretty pink bow.

 

[mintxx]

I can't afford NOT to diversify my portfolio anyway, to rely on this one girl working out would have been setting myself up for disaster. The truth is, I don't have the time to see her more than one night every two weeks or so anyway. Whether she thinks that's because of her bad behaviour or not is up to her. It also helps to only give a fukk about her feelings as much as she does yours, and not go any further out of your way than she would for you. It's like some kind of zen thing, you don't keep buying into a market with no returns. Anyway I don't know how things will turn out, but that's how they'll have to be. I may post back here from month to month as I observe my mistakes. mintxx

 

[mintxx]

Hmm this has been moved to General Discussion.. don't know how I feel about that but okay, I guess it broadens the audience... =)