Tips on dating someone who's far more experienced than you.

MascaraSnake

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I've only gotten laid a handful of times by an ex, and that was around a year ago.  I'm a late bloomer...I only started pulling myself together a couple of years after high school, and really upping the ante with women when I started college at 20.I've got a hangout next week that I'm pretty sure will go my way (i.e. we WILL at least make out). 

The problem?  She has had a LOT of sex.  Due to how my confidence has gone through the roof since the beginning of college, she's under the distinct impression that I'm very experienced as well (mostly because of how comfortable I am with talking about sex...I might not know everything, but I can sure make use of the knowledge and limited hands-on knowledge I have).

This is really killing me.  Since it's been a while for me, I'm starting to think that this accidental facade might crumble immediately once it comes time to get down to business.
 

Leporello

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I'm been in a similar situation, and really, don't sweat it. most girls who've had alot of sex know how to deal with inexperienced guys...and they can also be more forgiving of some of the vagaries of male sexuality.
 

frisco

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Its sex man, Sex is a basic instinc what makes you think that you are inexperienced. Just be the dominant tell her to ride you. Change it up turn her around ect. If you think you may *** to early they make condoms for that bro. Its simple ha
 

MascaraSnake

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oh, I have NO issues with stamina whatsoever, believe you me...sometimes I'm almost afraid I'll dry up if I keep going. there's probably a rabbit back in my pedigree somewhere...seriously

Size is mostly the issue, tho. Even though stamina overrides it twentyfold, I'm not too versed in positions that'll give me the advantage there. I get the impression I kinda need to be a LITTLE more precise if I'm not packing as much as some others.
 

You essentially upped your VALUE in her eyes by showing her that, if she wants you, she has to at times do things that you like to do. You are SOMETHING after all. You are NOT FREE. If she wants to hang with you, it's going to cost her something — time, effort, money.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

sodbuster

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You do the welcome meathod on her and she won't even care if you have a d1ck-do a search on the net.
 

The Bat

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Experienced girls tend to be more supportive and understanding of your "performance" (or lack thereof) in the bedroom ONLY IF she has high interest in you.

If she only wants to use you as a human dildo, and should you fail short of satisfying her, then you will never hear from her again (or get LJBF'd).

On the other hand, if she has high interest in you, then she will stick around and give you the benefit of doubt, and will work with you.

Plus, she knows what she's doing and that ALWAYS works to your advantage, whether or not you're experienced.
 

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First thing to do, wear a condom. You don't want to catch anything.

Second, doing kegels will help with your performance if you don't have performance anxiety issues.

Finally, I've been in your situation (a while ago), I just lied to her about my experience, and she never knew any better. The kegels were a huge help.
 

If you want to talk, talk to your friends. If you want a girl to like you, listen to her, ask questions, and act like you are on the edge of your seat.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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