Tips on approaching women at bars?

[beercan.]

I've read much of the DJ bible, completed bootcamp, but I've been in a LTR for the past several months so I am slightly out of practice in the field. Now that it's summer I'm planning on going to bars several times a week. The bars that I go to are usually packed and are not dance clubs. I'm asking, what works for you when you are trying to pick up women at bars?

The bars that I go to are within walking distance of my house, so my general goal is to get women to leave the bar and come home with me.

 

[Charm&Style]

the most populare technique is this....

1) go into bar with group of friends

2)spot group of fine females

3)aside from the group, spot the one you want to game

4)aproach group and establish a convo with everyone except the one individual you want to game.

5)usualy the convo should go something like this "hey wsup, i have to get back with my friends but i wanted to get your guy's oppinion on (bllaa blaa blaa...an open-ended question that would lead to everyone saying their oppinion)

and by then its up to you and your game. Get her friends comfortable with you...not seeing you as a threat...then game the individual...and then isolate her.

hope this helped you bro....Good Luck!

 

[KoalaKing]

It is simple, walk up to the hot babe, say "Hi" and begin a conversation with her, it is that easy. :rock:

 

[dreamxhenry]

its easy in the bar,make sure she is drunk.

 

[BOWIE]

If you REALLY wanna develop some skills, work on being able to carry an interesting conversation w/o requiring much from her. This is how radio personalities make a living. The callers suck, but the host can keep things lively and funny. Start small. Think of a few interesting/funny things relevent to the club you're at and make it easy for her to converse w/ you. Girls HATE a guy that approaches them and expects the girl to start carrying the conversation.

 

[Wiesman44]

its easy in the bar,make sure she is drunk.

Your 17, what can u possibly know about a bar ?

 

[dreamxhenry]

Your 17, what can u possibly know about a bar ?

Well I sometimes use a fake ID because my cousin who is 22 looks EXACTLY like me,so I sometimes use his ID to go to the bar and I notice its easy when i'm drunk or high I just let loose have fun,approach girls talk all day smoothly kiss,pretty much enjoy life.

 

[Boschy]

Simple question with no short answer. Do some searches.

Two basic methods I now use...stay mobile (stand and walk around) or sit at the bar and stay fixed (wait for chicks to order drinks next to you). Then look for situational openers related to clothing, body types, how much booze she's buying/drinking. I now try to start with kino (touching) even before I say anything, usually on the shoulder or arm.

One chick buying multiple drinks usually wants to deliver the drinks to her friends immediately, so just do a quick ice-break and catch up with her later. You can pretend that she's buying them for herself and tease her about that, etc.

The thing about a bar, as opposed to doing cold approaches in the open, is that it's a closed environment. You'll see people you meet later on. The more people (male and female) you open, the better your contact potential will be. Also make friendly chat to the bar staff. Just think of yourself as the life of the party and people will enjoy your company. This means getting your social energy levels up and keeping them up. And dress well, smile a lot, the usual stuff.

Some tasteful male jewellery works well, and unbutton your collar; show some chest! Watch your body language. Try ooze coolness....The Fonz and Tom Cruise are a good role models.

 

[Fash]

Check out this man - hope it helps:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=103124

Sarge On...

Shezz has pretty much covered it all in that post.

What also might help you out is some FRs. There will be lots of examples of openners to use, c + f routines, etc...

I do pretty much ALL my sarging in clubs/bars and I've got quite a few previously written FRs here.

Enjoy!

 

[Rondavu]

Trust me when I tell you I can pick up women like pennies. The technique I use is to start talking to her like we've known each other forever. I don't want the first thing I say to her to sound like an introduction. I want it to sound like general conversation with someone I'm already familiar with.

We used to do this excersize when I was performing stage comedy. We would say something random, and the next person would work off of it. I would say something like "When will the sun shine again?", and the next person would say "When the fat lady sits back down. Hows the pudding captain?"

I'd estimate half the time I just said something near a woman I was interested in, and she engaged me. This is ideal. Now she doesn't get that "He's trying to pick me up vibe."

-Make a comment about something you're both observing.
-Cue her to observe something interesting that you're observing
-Ask her opinion on something "out of the blue"

The key to making a woman feel comfortable with you is to act comfortable with her or around her, and act as if the comfort level has already been established. Almost every woman I pick up doesn't know my name until she's talking to me for at least 5 minutes. Introductions come AFTER establishing repore.

I have NEVER EVER EVER walked up to a woman and said "Hi, what's your name?" Use your brain. Think of something more creative.

 

[xblitz44x]

Boschy and Rondavu both gave good advice here.

Work on becoming better at starting and sustaining an interesting conversation. You can 'practice' with anybody and everybody. Try to develop your empathy skills so you can see the world from the other person's eyes. Actually LISTEN to what people say to you because it will tip you off as to what things they find important, exciting, and worth talking about. Examine yourself and make sure you're not too overbearing/timid/intimidating.

When you actually get to the bar, some good ways to open are:

-If the bar is crowded, you can pretend like you're having a tough time getting a spot at the bar and ask somebody to order the drink for you. You should be able to start a decent conversation while you're waiting for your drink.

-"Hey do you have a minute so I could hit on you?"

-"Hey can you take a picture of us (you and somebody else). Ok now let me get a picture of you two (your friend and her)". Then you can swing right into conversation from there.

Typically though I've had a few drinks in my system and will start off with something obnoxious like singing into my beer can to them. Or I'll take their hand and spin them around to dance.