Tips for making an acquaintance in FWB?

[BackInTheGame78]

That's interesting. I used to think the same way but then @Desdinova chimed into one of my threads. He says he got an 8 year gf he really wanted but stole her from another guy and claims most bf are beta pushovers and therefore what you are saying is irrational. I guess this would be a disagreement on the experts. However, a FWB with a taken woman sounds like a safer bet since she won't be too clingy on you and you can say she should be that way with her bf....but then you are saying she might monkey-branch if she gets too attracted/attached which would defeat the purpose that she's under control with another guy (ie which means you are protected from her).

Sample size. A sample size of 1 is meaningless.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I had that a couple of times, women on the verge of a break-up getting with me for sexual relief, not because they were looking for a new bf. I'm not relationship material, so I'm fine with that.
And I'm not too worried about getting killed by some angry husband. If they're truly dangerous, their women don't stray.


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Not really desperate enough where I need to knowingly go after women who are with other guys.

In the Netherlands where the worst that will happen is someone will come and try and hit you with their bike lock it's not a big deal.

In the US where everyone and their Mother owns guns, sometimes multiple guns, and many of these people are unstable, it is a much larger issue.

 

[manfromitaly]

Here the most that can happen is that they give you 2 pizzas (I'm joking, we also use pizza in Italian to say slap).

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Not really desperate enough where I need to knowingly go after women who are with other guys.

I'm not saying I was knowingly hooking up with women in relationships. But if I hooked up with a woman who was monkey-branching while separated from her husband waiting for the divorce to finalise, I didn't do much considering their relationships. Most women won't tell you you're just her backdoor man, but if you show you don't care about that, they will reveal themselves earlier than if you throw a sh!tfit about her infidelity.

In the Netherlands where the worst that will happen is someone will come and try and hit you with their bike lock it's not a big deal.

Obviously you haven't been hit with a Dutch bicycle lock if you think that's 'not a big deal'

In the US where everyone and their Mother owns guns, sometimes multiple guns, and many of these people are unstable, it is a much larger issue.

So that Heinlein quote about 'a polite society' is still very much science fiction, isn't it?

 

[Manure Spherian]

Any advice on how to make it clear on the first date that I don't want anything serious?

Yes, by staring so clearly: “I don’t want anything serious.”

Are you clear from the start at the cost of losing the girl or do you try to get to sex?

Yes, from the start.

My problem is that I almost always manage to take them to bed but I can't keep them for a long time.

Didn’t you say you don’t want anything long term. In casual screwing, women don’t owe anything you their time, especially if you intend on wasting their time for their aims.

 

[corrector]

Sample size. A sample size of 1 is meaningless.

Right.