Tips for "doing it" the first time

[Life]

Ok, I am just looking for some tips on the first time doing the nasty.

Here is my situation. I am in my mid twenties, and by all means of general social understanding I should be “the guy” who gets a lot of tail. And well, I have have had my fair share, but not actually the full sex act. I have no shortage of women who have crushes on me. I hear about it all the time. The funny thing is that all these women , I am guessing because of my persona, assume that I am experienced.

In know that it takes experience to “get good in bed”. I have just recently decided to actually dive in and take initiative with women (ie. Make moves on them – never done this before – they always did). I have a few interests that I am planning on asking out. They are not random party girls, but “high quality” women. Since sex is a mystery to me, I assume that that my inexperience is going to be a problem, especially when I hear about these very attractive young ladies praising my attributes.

So my questions are:

1.Should I wait to pursue these women that I see as relationship material (who are mid twenties – and probably experienced) and get some random sexual try outs elsewhere. Or should I just dive in?
2.What tips would there be for the very first time for a dude to not make a total fool of himself. I am not afraid of specifics.

 

[Six-String Samurai]

Here's some ideas...

1.) Watch porn, check out what they do and imitate the basics

2.) Be familiar with the female anatomy, and realize you've got to get it somewhat lubricated before you just start thrusting, tiger

3.) Be prepared to last a total of 2.6 seconds your first time. But, you can minimize this by stopping your thrusting if you feel you're gonna bust. Basically, your M.O. should be to last as long as you can, since your first time is usually quite... uh, brief.

 

[IrReSiStIbLe]

Here, read and memorize this-

http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=40740&highlight=how+to+make+her+orgasm
A brilliant thread written by MVPlaya- thank HIM later

 

[Skel]

LOL dont watch porn. Not to many people do it porn style Thats the beauty of porn. People watch it and it gets them excited but they wind up doing the regular nasty as you put it.

Just go slow and make sure shes comfortable, if she says go faster then go faster. Dont try any crazy pron pretzel style wrestling nasty moves. You will look like a jack ass, trust me

 

[Knicknack]

that's BS about not being able to last... i could have gone all night my first time. i rarely even lose control and just start nuttin. my mental state determines when i'm going to come. if i want to last an hour i will. if i want a quickie i'll let it go quick.

 

[Monkey]

Originally posted by Knicknack
that's BS about not being able to last... i could have gone all night my first time. i rarely even lose control and just start nuttin. my mental state determines when i'm going to come. if i want to last an hour i will. if i want a quickie i'll let it go quick.

Lucky you. But most people will only last a few seconds, I lasted about 4, and thats after wanking the womble for years, all that meant nothing once I was inside a real life vagina But its nothing to be ashamed about or unusual.

 

[Jin]

actually.. if you tell her that "it" will be your first time... she'll prob cream her pants right then... do you know how rare it is to find a virgin 20-something male!!???

just ask her to teach you everything she knows on how to please a woman and with luck you won't leave that bed for 2-3 days!!

and don't be afraid to take charge and do it with vigor once she teaches you something... say..doggy-style...she shows you how to do it and your going... now kinda pick up the pace...really grab her @ss hard and pull her into you.... drag you fingers down her back... get a good grip on her hair... and most important and one of the hardest things to do is "listen" to how shes responding to what you do and adjust accordingly..

if your grabbing her @ass and ramming it home and pulling that hair good and she starts moaning...

"Ohhh yeahhhhh!!!..."

or starts pushing back hard into you or reaches around and grabs your @ss to pull you into her more... your on the right track...keep at it...

but on the other hand if your going a little too hard she might go forward with you to keep you from going too deep... you might be hitting her cervix or causing pain, slow down and ask what she likes that feels really good... I gurantee she won't hesitate to show you...

All in all, just relax and go with the flow... respond to what she wants and give it to her 2 times over and you can't go wrong.

Best,

Jin

 

[MR_PERFECT]

Don't tell her it's your first time, that's a mistake. It will put to much pressure on her, and she will automatically think you won't be any good. She will either have to think about it for a while, or she will not do it at all.

The sex act itself is really no big deal. You at least want to be average, which means you have to last for at least 20 minutes. I suggest lots of foreplay. Don't let her do to much foreplay to you or you will be done in a few seconds. Guys always talk about penis size, the most important part for you is to make your penis as rigid as possible.

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

Originally posted by Knicknack
that's BS about not being able to last... i could have gone all night my first time. i rarely even lose control and just start nuttin. my mental state determines when i'm going to come. if i want to last an hour i will. if i want a quickie i'll let it go quick.

Same here... It actually took over 3 or 4 years before a girl made me come from sex.... I could have continous intercourse for 4 hours without being even close to coming.... Kinda sucked though.

 

[ChasinReveries]

weird, maybe ur gay...^^

im not trying to be mean, im serious...i had a friend who just "realized he was gay after a long time..."...think about it, how do u really really know, if u evaluate...it's healthy to think about it

or maybe ur just a controlled person...lol...anyways, goo tips about the first time, im excited to try them...altho i only expect to last for a few seconds...
when i got head for the first time i thought i was gonna last for a few seconds but i eneded up lasting for a while, maybe its because im not circumsized, im not sure if that has very much to do with it...?????

thanks a lot tho

 

[Viper423]

Not to boast, but I did everything I could to last as long as possible my first time and made it 5-6 minutes. Here's what I did....masturbate before the date if you even think there is a possiblity that you will get some. When you are going at it, make sure to enjoy it, but if you don't think about it ie.."OMG I'm having sex" and think about random other things, you will be amazed how long you can go.

 

[CantGetADate]

Don't worry about it so much, you probably won't last too long anyways.

On whether to tell her that has to be your call. She will probably tell her friends, so it's all about how much it matters to you that other people know. Also don't "fall" for her just cause you are getting laid, I say this because real ***** feels way better than jerking it

Sex tip that I always like: After you have sex and ***, hang out, kiss her, kiss her titties, hold her, talk dirty to her, and wait till you get hard again and then bang her AGAIN. The second time you will last longer. I never did this the first time but I always try to *** at least twice when I have sex, especially because the second time I can last forever. Lots of guys jerk off before sex but I think that's kind of stupid because it's waaaay different. There is a time span involved from the time you jerked off and the time you will be having sex. If you *** while having sex, then a few minutes later start having sex again it's just better, she gets more pleasure and you last looooonger!

Another tip, is have her on top facing you, or her on top facing away, this lets me last longer, I find this especially useful the first time, especially after lots of foreplay when I'm ready to burst, this keeps me from cumming, dunno why, will prolly work for you
Have fun.

Woops didn't know it used stars for that word, the *** = c4m.

 

[Austin Allegro]

Yeah don't worry about not lasting too long. I think I went off after about two pushes on my first time.

I personally think it's better though to come during foreplay, then you can just keep going with more foreplay until you're ready to go full on, and since it's second time around you'll last a lot longer.

 

[CantGetADate]

Originally posted by Austin Allegro
Yeah don't worry about not lasting too long. I think I went off after about two pushes on my first time.

I personally think it's better though to come during foreplay, then you can just keep going with more foreplay until you're ready to go full on, and since it's second time around you'll last a lot longer.

Really good idea also, maybe let her give you a bj