tips for college

[L Duke]

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=16550

In College, it's easy as hell. I'm a frosh and it's easy as hell to talk to chicks in your class. It's even easier when it's early in the semester. Here are some real life examples of some of my situations..

(During Class after students were called up to get tests, girl sitting behind me is sexy as hell)

After she gets her test and sits down....

Me: How did you do? (really enthusiastic like I already know her

Her: I got an A, what about you.

Me: I got a C, I see you must have studied hard huh..

Her: Yeah, I was up all night bla, bla, bla

(We ended up studying together for the next test)

Asking how a girl did on her test is a great Ice breaker b/c it's so harmless. No girl has ever gotten mad at me for asking how she did on a test and I always ask that to break the ice.

Or..If it's you walking real fast after class and you sense that you're gonna pass the girl up, just ask how she's doing.

then you can follow up with....


"Excuse me, can I walk with you?"
or "can I walk with you to your car?"

How are you doing in the class so far?
What's your name? Do you wanna know my name?Where are you from?
Where do you stay?
So what are you about to do?
How did you do on that test?
Talk about the teacher, like say stuff like, "he's cool" or "he's strict" or whatever.
How was your weekend?
I bet you didn't even study this weekend huh?
"hey what's up"
"how are ya"
"have you started studyin' for the final"
"how did you do in psychology"
"What's your name by the way"
If she looks foreign, "What nationality are you"

Or on the first day of class after the weekend, you can "accidentally" sit by her and say a casual "what's up girl", "How was your weekend", "did you go to that frat party, MAN IT WAS TIGHT" (show emotion when you say that, even if you didn't even go to the party.

Heres a funny one that you have to have some guts to pull off

Walking behind her, go up to her and put your hand behind her back and start talking like you know her, then as soon as you look at her say
"Oh $hit, my bad, I thought you were my girlfriend, my fault" and look really sincere too. They usually giggle at that.

I'll make that a separate tip.

If the conversation ever starts to go dull, just say "I'm about to head on out, so I'll talk to you later", "well, I'll see you later"

And these are just Ice breakers, you can take the conversation in any direction you want to after that.

 

[L Duke]

inner game for college

There are 5 steps to building your inner game.

1. Create an Empowering Mythology
2. Cultivate Your Presenece
3. Shift Your Referential Index
4. Destroy Your Limiting Beliefs.
5. Adopt Delusion Confidence

Ok, it sounds scary but its not.

Lets hop right in.

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CREATE AN EMPOWERING MYTHOLOGY
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Think of your life right now and be honest with yourself. That story
you tell yourself in your head...are you the victim? Or are you the hero?

Are you the little piece of **** that gets kicked around - the guy
that can never get ahead - the guy who has to settle for what life has
to offer?

Or are you the underdog hero? The guy who can't be denied. The guy who
had sand kicked in his face when he was little but is now on the path
to greatness.

In the story of your life, you get to decide your role. And how you
think about your role affects everything that happens to you.

So it's time to make up your mind; what's your mythology?

What character are you playing?

My advice to you is to play the hero, who is on a journey. View all of
your past experiences as incredibly helpful. Don't victimize yourself.
Don't feel bad for not being "not popular" in high school.

All of that bad stuff - all of the negativity - it was just fuel for
your engine.

Wear your scars with pride.

Don't be bitter about women, what people have done to you, or how
the world works. It has led you to THIS PLACE.

What didn't kill you has only made you stronger. And that will
continue to be the case.

Resolve in your mind to play the hero, on a journey. Instead of the victim.

This one simple shift can change it all and inspire you. It's the
difference between the guys who make it and the guys who don't.

Decide today to be a hero. Someone who is on a journey. Someone who
has a purpose. Someone who has a path.

And refuse to give into that stupid, bull**** victim thinking stuff. Kill it.

Ok, that's what I mean by creating your mythology. When it's time to choose
the character that you play in this life, choose the hero.


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CULTIVATE YOUR PRESENCE
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Ok this one sounds all spiritual and stuff but it's really quite
simple. And the difference that it makes is huge.

Basically, in a sentence here's what it's all about....

STOP WAITING TO BE GOOD AND JUST *BE* GOOD

So many guys view success as something that's far out in the future.
Something that will arrive one day, but that they're not yet entitled
to touch.

Well let me tell you something, that's bull****. You start having
success when you believe you are entitled to have success.

And even though you are commited to a journey of improvement, your
success starts right now.

That's why the Conquer Your Campus program is so powerful. Because it
combines this insight with actual proven roadmaps and techniques to
get you results fast.

But I digress..

You see, when you feel entitled to success RIGHT NOW. And you don't
view it as something that's far off in the future, than a shift occurs.

You start living in the present moment. And you start to become aware
of opportunities as they arise.

You realize that you can have fun in the moment now, becuase you have "arrived".

You realize that "the now" is all there every is and you seize the moment.

Tomorrow isn't a given, any day could be the last (for all of us) so you.

Seriously think about that one. Lights a fire under your ass, doesn't it?

Good. It should.

Stop wanting to be good with women and just accept the fact that with
a loving mentor like myself, whose been where you've been, with a
resource like the CYC handbook, and with strong desire, you can
acheive success. You are entitled to it.

And your success will come, literally, when you allow it too.

And it could be as early as the very next time you go out.

So be present. Realize that the now is all there ever is. And stop
putting off this "becoming good with girls" thing like its something
that is gonna happen in the future.

When you accept that you are entitled to have girls in your life, you
stop thinking ahead.

You stop second guessing yourself. You stop trying...and you just...have fun.

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SHIFT YOUR REFERENTIAL INDEX
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This is another major one. Maybe even the biggest.

Basically, you need to stop looking toward others to give you feedback
on how you are.

Take ownership of yourself. Become your o wn man. And march to the beat
of your own drum.

From now on, you are the most important person in your life.

Does that mean to be a douche? NO. Not at all.

But it does mean to have RESPECT for yourself.

Do you want to make a joke?

MAKE IT if you are going to enjoy it.

When you respect yourself as the ultimate authority in your life,
things begin to change.

Stop worrying about what other people think, after all, they aren't
the authority: YOU ARE.

Stop giving other people more power over you than you give yourself.
The world is run by people who value their own counsel.

Seriously, you're in a conversation...WHO CARES WHAT SHES THINKING?

As long as YOU are having fun, then it's game on.

And if you're not having fun, then you aint doing your job.

Because NO ONE can take away your own ability to have fun. It's your
right as a human.

So exercise it, and stop giving your authority away to your girls,
your guys, and even to random strangers who you will never see again.

When you say something, don't wait to see how its received. Just keep
moving forward.

Treat others with love and respect. But come... understand that
YOU are the authority in your life.

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DESTROY YOUR LIMITING BELIEFS
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I like to focus on positives, but everyone's got insecurities.

There's some excuse in your head as to why you're not good with girls.

And it's utter bull****. So you need to find a way to get rid of it.

The way you do this is by ruthlessly questioning the false belief
until you start to realize how stupid it is.

So like, lets say you have a belief "I'm ugly, I can't get girls!"

Ok nice .

Now think of all the guys who are wayyyyyyyyyyyy uglier than you who
are getting laid like rockstars.

Now, after you think of those guys, your brain is gonna come up with
excuses for each one of those guys...

So like....yeah, hes ugly but he's tallllll.

Ok, so now you've revealed that you think you are too short for success.

NICE.

So let's go to work on that one.....

Think for a minute, who's a short guy that's good with women?

Your brain will figure out an answer.

And then, it will try to sabatoge you again.

Just go through this exercise, and eventually you will realize that
all of the stuff that your brain is throwing at you is just 100% BS.

You can literally find a counter example to anything your brain throws at you.

And it's just proof that it's all nonsense.

Now, there's a ton of other ways to blast away limiting beliefs.

I recommend you check out "Mind Lines" by Michael Hall.

Or anything that deals with "sleight of mouth" which is basically,
just picking apart beliefs and objections, and questioning their
truth.

Resolve to attack your insecurities head on.

The moment you release them...you instantly feel the weight of the
world lifted off your shoulders.

And remember: they are all in your head, so you've got to go in their
first, dig them out, and smash them.

And they WILL be gone.

And finally

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ADOPT DELUSIONAL CONFIDENCE
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This is what it's all about, friend.

Confidence.

What the hell is confidence?

Who cares.

All I'll tell you is this - it's 100% arbitrary.

The key to getting it?

BLINDLY BELIEVING IN YOURSELF

You see, confidence is all about KNOWING that you are the ****..deep
down inside...even when NOTHING in your environment supports it.

It's just a feeling.

It's in your gut.

And whether or not you FEEL CONFIDENT, well, it's up to you.

That's the coolest thing about it.

Your brain will say WHY?

And when it does, you say back to it "WHY THE F****K NOT?"

And that's all there is.

Your ability to have insanely delusional confidence, even when there
is no evidence that supports that thinking is what will take you
futher than any other piece of advice.

And girls can literally smell it. A mile away.

You don't need to DO anything to be confident. It's a simple mental shift.

REALIZE that confidence is itself completely arbitrary.

Either you got it, or you don't.

So just "got it". End of story.

And notice the bs lies your brain will try to tell to you, and
politely say "no thanks".

Ok, there you have it man.

That's inner game 101.

I want you to work on this stuff this summer.

Take some time to really go over this.

And change you life.

mark

enjoy the updates guys I know I am cant wait fo college

 

[Ultrafine]

Damnnnnnnnnnnnnnn

L Duke are the ****ing best thenk you for all this!!!!!!!

You rock mate:cheer:

Imma be King on campus when I start college

WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

 

[DJVladdy]

good thread!

I'll be in my 4th year in 2 months, living in apartment with 3 random people who i dont know yet.

REMEMBER:

people have said join a cool frat.
COOL is the key word here - because there are some really LOW status frats, and alot of them. Be careful.

for example:
If they invite you into something called
sigma alpha mu "sammy"
or kappa sigma..

RUUUUUNNNN far away from them.

 

[L Duke]

bump college starts ~3 week

 

[L Duke]

bump 13 days

 

[falcon814]

bump 3 days for college.

 

[L Duke]

bump~9 days

 

[alphamailman]

5 days for me, living in my own apartment, no roommates. I've been hitting the gym already, getting comfortable with a routine there. Exploring town, trying to meet people.

 

[GQ_Confidence_1]

I'm 4 years now out of college.

You've got ridiculous opportunities. No exaggeration, opportunities of a lifetime with women in college.

-You're in close quarters with women every day, every week

-You have ample opportunity to talk to them (study, ask question, class participation, group partner, etc).

-There are TONS of women there. Tons of variety.

I talked to more girls in one week of college than 4 years of highschool.

As far as tips...

-Be prepared. This can be hard when you've been use to no girls, or no opportunities in highschool. Be prepared, with your wardrobe, hygiene (cologne, keeping your car neat and presentable). Every day, always be able to take her back to your car, or your dorm. Or somewhere.

Always have some money on you. Again, sounds small and basic. But you'll never know when you'll meet someone, or when an opportunity will pop up.

-You need a sense of independence, and comfort. You need an empty seat in your car. Metaphorically. This is different than just EC, or DHV or routines. You need a comfort level with where you are, and being able to take her places.

-Absolutely, game every girl you can. When I think of college, its just an endless stream of girls.

-Look at girls and enjoy them.

Get out everyday for lunch, just look at the girls walking by, soak it in. Especially in spring, early summer, if you're in a state that's hot. And girls running around in nothing.

-Be prepared to take a girl somewhere. Scope out the coffee shops, snack bars, Starbucks, etc for a place to go.

-Play it very relaxed and casual.

-Look at girls and enjoy them.

You have tons of opportunity, just sick. You should have, at a minimum, dozens of different stories about girls. At least kino, or some escalation, above the basic (what's your homework, or what'd due today).

The trap that most people fall into is just trying way too hard. If you know 20% of whats on this site, you'll be ahead of the game. Just EC or Kino.

The social proof opportunities are sick. In some of my classes, if I was talking to one girl, her friend, or the girl in the row in front of us would perk up.

 

[L Duke]

Wooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooot

moving to college in 8 hours and 37 minutes