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[NativeNorth]

ALRIGHT, here's the situation *I'm 15*:

me and this girl, let's say her name is Mindy . .

i've known Mindy for a while now but we're not the best of friends. not that we hate each other or anything, but we're friends, we're cool and all, but we never really hang out.

*oh yea, i want to get something goin between us*

she called me last night, out of the blue, to see how my summer's been and we talked for a little bit, so of course i was excited. i let her do the talking and i told her about a lil club i'm going to this weekend with some friends of mine, and i told her to come along with some of her friends. *i did that jus so we can have some time to hang out together, cuz i havent seen her since summer began*

she agreed to come along . .

now, what should i do to help to change my "friend' status into possible "boyfriend" material.

i will still try and meet some girls at the club, but she will likely become my main focus . .

any advice on what i should do . . .

 

[SnatchJP]

Watch yourself for oneitis. It doesn't sound like too bad a case... *yet* I think you've handled things well so far.

Just show her (at least give her peek) of your "DJ" side, a part of you she hasn't seen before. The dance floor is the perfect place for this. If you're good with freaking, for example, that can be a perfect way to get a "distant friend" to be your gf. If you haven't freaked before, don't make her your first freak, you'll probably embarrass yourself. instead, get her for a slow dance. even if you never done that, you can still make a good impression with it.

One thing you have going for you already is that she's not a close freind and as such she probaly hasn't sealed you inot the freinds zone in her mind yet. (In fact it sounds like her interest level is pretty high if she called you and agreed to meet you at the club!) So don't think of it as turing a friend into a gf, think of it as turning a hot girl you've just met into a gf.

Once again watch the oneitis. Remember you may find a girl you're even more interested in than her. Keep your eyes open and moving.

Good luck!

 

[NativeNorth]

thanks, any more advice?

 

[unknowntim3]

i dont know, but i want some advise on turing my Girl-Friend into my "Girlfriend"

plz help me on that too!!!

 

[516]

For NativeNorth, I think that Snatch has very good advice, just follow that. As for UnknownTim, it can be quite difficult to take a chick who is very much a friend of yours, and turn her into your gf, although it can be done. There are tons of threads in these forums, and also in the Bible and HS Bible on this very topic. Its a pretty well covered topic. Just look around a little bit.

 

[NativeNorth]

k, thanks

 

[Iv4]

I'd use a few standerd paterns NN.Just treat her like any other chich except you know her a bit begter so it can be faster.Maybe talk to her about being htre with the ideal BF and link it with yourself.If she populer you should probably make a sharp comeback,as if your not interested(neg hit works like a charm for em).

Sorry I have'nt slept much lately(major life chages coming up) so I fergot to add this the first time.

Unkowntim13,I'm guessing that you know her prety well.Perhaps a discusion of discuion of her dream BF.Then anchor the values to you.I'd sugest a 'gradual relaisation'so it's not just a spur of the moment thing(which will be forgoten and your friendship disolved).I'd start out with you'r own idea GF and then ask about her.

 

[El Campeon 56]

With the girl that called you up out of the blue, the one thing i've noticed that works wonders with girls in this situation is intense kino and making sure that a sexual vibe is shared between you the entire time. Usually the reason girls don't end up feeling anything for a guy and view him as a friend is the guy never made her feel anything sexually for him. There are a million ways to do this, you can be subtle or obvious yet playful, bust on her for wanting you and trying to seduce you by taking you out on a date, literally many. But this still remains key that you hold this sexual chemistry between you. This is the one thing that will change a girl thats a friend into your girlfriend.