Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
I see a lot of guys on here who are in situations where they have a chance with a girl, but they don't escalate with her due to some excuse they invent to make it a less than perfect experience for her. Alcohol is a common one, but there are others, like it being in a car, on a first date, after a breakup, whatever. Many guys are afraid of "taking advantage" of a girl.
This mindset shows a misunderstanding of how women think. Obviously, women don't like to be seen as slvts, thus all of what is on this site about "ASD" and getting around that. When you take advantage of her, it gives her an excuse as to why she is not a slvt. She will just put the blame on you, but surprisingly, not in a way that hurts your future chances with her. Women are actually flattered that you desire them enough to take advantage of them; it relates to the self-esteem issues that almost every women has.
The last time I went on a first date, the girl drank a pitcher of sangria then took me back to her place. She told me several times that we were not having sex because she was drunk and it was a first date...and then we did...a lot.
I made two posts about it on these threads:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showpost.php?p=1251118&postcount=99
She was not exactly holding back in the bedroom:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=133284
I "took advantage" of her, and she loved it. We went out a few more times, before I started seeing two other girls, and she also sent me a message on facebook yesterday asking how I was doing. Being "nice" to a girl, to me at least, means giving her what she wants. And a lot of women want you to take advantage of them. That's why they got drunk in the first place, or otherwise put both of you in that position.
Women like sex, but they don't like being seen as slvts. Having a scapegoat is an effective form of ASD. They blame the booze, the situation, their ex, you, or anyone else so that they don't have to admit that they simply wanted to get laid.
I said this in another thread in regard to alcohol and I need to repeat it here: obviously I am not advocating that you date rape some puking drunk chick. I have seen guys like that, and they are sad AFCs. Girls who are falling down, stumbling, puking, pissing themselves drunk should not be attractive. You have issues if they are.
But a moderate amount of alcohol is not the same thing. She had those drinks so that the next day she could save face with her friends by blaming her escapades with you on the drinking. She wants you to take advantage of her, and if you don't give a woman what she wants, she will find another man who will.
This mindset shows a misunderstanding of how women think. Obviously, women don't like to be seen as slvts, thus all of what is on this site about "ASD" and getting around that. When you take advantage of her, it gives her an excuse as to why she is not a slvt. She will just put the blame on you, but surprisingly, not in a way that hurts your future chances with her. Women are actually flattered that you desire them enough to take advantage of them; it relates to the self-esteem issues that almost every women has.
The last time I went on a first date, the girl drank a pitcher of sangria then took me back to her place. She told me several times that we were not having sex because she was drunk and it was a first date...and then we did...a lot.
I made two posts about it on these threads:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showpost.php?p=1251118&postcount=99
She was not exactly holding back in the bedroom:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=133284
I "took advantage" of her, and she loved it. We went out a few more times, before I started seeing two other girls, and she also sent me a message on facebook yesterday asking how I was doing. Being "nice" to a girl, to me at least, means giving her what she wants. And a lot of women want you to take advantage of them. That's why they got drunk in the first place, or otherwise put both of you in that position.
Women like sex, but they don't like being seen as slvts. Having a scapegoat is an effective form of ASD. They blame the booze, the situation, their ex, you, or anyone else so that they don't have to admit that they simply wanted to get laid.
I said this in another thread in regard to alcohol and I need to repeat it here: obviously I am not advocating that you date rape some puking drunk chick. I have seen guys like that, and they are sad AFCs. Girls who are falling down, stumbling, puking, pissing themselves drunk should not be attractive. You have issues if they are.
But a moderate amount of alcohol is not the same thing. She had those drinks so that the next day she could save face with her friends by blaming her escapades with you on the drinking. She wants you to take advantage of her, and if you don't give a woman what she wants, she will find another man who will.