spinaroonie
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Move to a college town.
Many men here have a distorted perspective of the sexual marketplace. An oft-repeated trope is that 20% of men are sexing 80% of the women. This is not true - the stats don't bear this out. (http://www.hookingupsmart.com/2010/09/14/hookinguprealities/sex-and-the-pareto-principle/)
The fact is every college has a surplus of girls. And for every attention-whoring sorority girl gyrating her booty at the local frat bar on Saturday night, there are three "nice girls" sitting at home watching Twilight, or nerding it up at the library, or hanging out with the sisterhood lamenting about how there are no good men left.
The truth is there is a huge reservoir of cute girls that don't get a lot of attention and don't get a lot of play. These are girls in majoring in 90% chick programs like psychology, sociology, education, nursing etc. These girls aren't used to getting a lot of attention from men because they're not meeting men. They're not meeting a quality guys. A lot of these girls are lonely. They WANT to MEET guys to date. They're not.
So what happens when these girls hit up what was USED TO BE the prime grounds for the mating dance - the local bar/club? They get hit on by douchebag roid monkeys. Or awkward dorks with bad game. Or wallflower creepers staring them down from the sidelines. And though they'd like to meet and get to know guys, the loud "ra ra" autotune crap blasting at high decibels makes conversation unbearable. And when she does start chatting with a quality guy - the guy with the professional career, the car, the pad - whom she feels she has a connection with, the mother hen shows up and her jealous friends invariably end up preventing her from generating any sort of deep rapport.
Bars were once the spots these single ladies would go in pursuit of men, but the bar scene has changed dramatically over hte last few years. With the evolution of Facebook/texting technology, bars have become social grounds for big, mixed sets of friends (guys and girls) to hang out, not find someone to date. I used to see tons of 2-sets and 3-sets of girls to chat up at bars and clubs. I seldom see that now. The bar and club scene is dead for pickup, and the experiences of the men here from places as disparate as NY, LA, and Miami corroborates with this view.
Most girls want to be in relationships, but think of the sheer number of single college girls out there. A lot of girls are too picky, but most are simply not meeting calibre men. And a lot of the quality cerebral guys whom these girls SHOULD be dating have dropped out of the game altogether, resorting to video games and porn as a quick fix.
Someone has to date these girls.
But most guys don't have the tenacity to tough it through. Most guys have way too much of a fragile ego to overcome the inevitable sea of rejections that will come when first starting out. And they're frightened by social shaming terms like "creeper" and "stalker" used by girls to scare off beta guys from approaching during the day. So there's no competition.
This is why for the enterprising DAY GAME PLAYER IN A COLLEGE TOWN, there's a bounty of dating opportunities to be had. Even moreso for a young professional man just out of school who won't need to worry about a bad rep scarring him on campus. College girls are impressed by mature guys with a stable career, car, pad etc. Just don't look old.
[Posted this on the General discussion forum, but it would be more relevant here.]
Many men here have a distorted perspective of the sexual marketplace. An oft-repeated trope is that 20% of men are sexing 80% of the women. This is not true - the stats don't bear this out. (http://www.hookingupsmart.com/2010/09/14/hookinguprealities/sex-and-the-pareto-principle/)
The fact is every college has a surplus of girls. And for every attention-whoring sorority girl gyrating her booty at the local frat bar on Saturday night, there are three "nice girls" sitting at home watching Twilight, or nerding it up at the library, or hanging out with the sisterhood lamenting about how there are no good men left.
The truth is there is a huge reservoir of cute girls that don't get a lot of attention and don't get a lot of play. These are girls in majoring in 90% chick programs like psychology, sociology, education, nursing etc. These girls aren't used to getting a lot of attention from men because they're not meeting men. They're not meeting a quality guys. A lot of these girls are lonely. They WANT to MEET guys to date. They're not.
So what happens when these girls hit up what was USED TO BE the prime grounds for the mating dance - the local bar/club? They get hit on by douchebag roid monkeys. Or awkward dorks with bad game. Or wallflower creepers staring them down from the sidelines. And though they'd like to meet and get to know guys, the loud "ra ra" autotune crap blasting at high decibels makes conversation unbearable. And when she does start chatting with a quality guy - the guy with the professional career, the car, the pad - whom she feels she has a connection with, the mother hen shows up and her jealous friends invariably end up preventing her from generating any sort of deep rapport.
Bars were once the spots these single ladies would go in pursuit of men, but the bar scene has changed dramatically over hte last few years. With the evolution of Facebook/texting technology, bars have become social grounds for big, mixed sets of friends (guys and girls) to hang out, not find someone to date. I used to see tons of 2-sets and 3-sets of girls to chat up at bars and clubs. I seldom see that now. The bar and club scene is dead for pickup, and the experiences of the men here from places as disparate as NY, LA, and Miami corroborates with this view.
Most girls want to be in relationships, but think of the sheer number of single college girls out there. A lot of girls are too picky, but most are simply not meeting calibre men. And a lot of the quality cerebral guys whom these girls SHOULD be dating have dropped out of the game altogether, resorting to video games and porn as a quick fix.
Someone has to date these girls.
But most guys don't have the tenacity to tough it through. Most guys have way too much of a fragile ego to overcome the inevitable sea of rejections that will come when first starting out. And they're frightened by social shaming terms like "creeper" and "stalker" used by girls to scare off beta guys from approaching during the day. So there's no competition.
This is why for the enterprising DAY GAME PLAYER IN A COLLEGE TOWN, there's a bounty of dating opportunities to be had. Even moreso for a young professional man just out of school who won't need to worry about a bad rep scarring him on campus. College girls are impressed by mature guys with a stable career, car, pad etc. Just don't look old.
[Posted this on the General discussion forum, but it would be more relevant here.]
