Ok. Since I have been married for 15years and live with a 15yo daughter, one of the best tips for success in your relationships with the women in your home is to assume they are all BPD. When you do this it takes the stress off your back when you get blind sided by their moodiness.
I am not saying here to constantly walk on egg shells but you should keep track of all their cycles. Many guys think that period week is the bad mood week. This is wrong! The bad week is the week PRIOR to the period. This is the week her bodys horomones go out of wack and anything you say or do can and will be used against you in some fashion. Its best to go work on your truck/car or shoot some guns or whatever you feel like doing and avoid them during that week or make little effort to engage with them.
Fortunatley for me, my wife likes me to warn her of her up and coming mood fluxuation (90% of the time anyhow or she often asks why she's feeling so irritated) so she can prepare herself to try her best to not let mole hills turn into mountains.
I now do this warning of her up and coming negative hormonal emotional state with a box of chocolates. This is her indicator that pms has arrived and I am aware. She usually laughs, rolls her eyes at me and says sorry for the up coming week. I then go out to my shop and do my own thing and let her come to me if she wants attention.
Most women will not listen when you tell them, so its often best to be covert about it (or do like I do with the chocolates) and shrug off her attitude because YOU know the real reason why she's moody even though she may not accept it because her PMS dictates her reactions.
My wife describes it like an alien or parasite takes over her emotional reactions.
Here's what ya do to track this (or what I do actually). On the day her period starts.. Count 21 days ahead and mark the calendar in your smart phone as PMS week. Maybe even back up a day or 2 since most cycles are 26-28 days. It sucks in a way because its like one of the weeks she can still have sex but if you have your wifes emotional state on your mind you can work around it and still be empathetic for her and not trigger her bad state to be focused on you. Ask her often how she's feeling during pms week also without taking offence.
When my wifes pms is over and she has her period. I begin to give her affection again even tho she wont/cant have sex and this sets the stage for the days when she can. This way they can't say "you only pay attention to me when u want sex!" Period week is bj week, pms week is give her space week and all the rest falls into place
I bet you everytime you have had some kind of conflict its been during this pms week (track pms and your conflicts and notice the pattern) as often men are confused and blindsided by the pms week because they often think pms week is period week.
Epi
P.s. Teenage daughters don't listen to the warnings either til after its done. My daughter usually appologizes for her bad attitude after the fact when she realizes I was right. Lol. But she fights it tooth and nail its not pms when in fact it is. Haha
I am not saying here to constantly walk on egg shells but you should keep track of all their cycles. Many guys think that period week is the bad mood week. This is wrong! The bad week is the week PRIOR to the period. This is the week her bodys horomones go out of wack and anything you say or do can and will be used against you in some fashion. Its best to go work on your truck/car or shoot some guns or whatever you feel like doing and avoid them during that week or make little effort to engage with them.
Fortunatley for me, my wife likes me to warn her of her up and coming mood fluxuation (90% of the time anyhow or she often asks why she's feeling so irritated) so she can prepare herself to try her best to not let mole hills turn into mountains.
I now do this warning of her up and coming negative hormonal emotional state with a box of chocolates. This is her indicator that pms has arrived and I am aware. She usually laughs, rolls her eyes at me and says sorry for the up coming week. I then go out to my shop and do my own thing and let her come to me if she wants attention.
Most women will not listen when you tell them, so its often best to be covert about it (or do like I do with the chocolates) and shrug off her attitude because YOU know the real reason why she's moody even though she may not accept it because her PMS dictates her reactions.
My wife describes it like an alien or parasite takes over her emotional reactions.
Here's what ya do to track this (or what I do actually). On the day her period starts.. Count 21 days ahead and mark the calendar in your smart phone as PMS week. Maybe even back up a day or 2 since most cycles are 26-28 days. It sucks in a way because its like one of the weeks she can still have sex but if you have your wifes emotional state on your mind you can work around it and still be empathetic for her and not trigger her bad state to be focused on you. Ask her often how she's feeling during pms week also without taking offence.
When my wifes pms is over and she has her period. I begin to give her affection again even tho she wont/cant have sex and this sets the stage for the days when she can. This way they can't say "you only pay attention to me when u want sex!" Period week is bj week, pms week is give her space week and all the rest falls into place
I bet you everytime you have had some kind of conflict its been during this pms week (track pms and your conflicts and notice the pattern) as often men are confused and blindsided by the pms week because they often think pms week is period week.
Epi
P.s. Teenage daughters don't listen to the warnings either til after its done. My daughter usually appologizes for her bad attitude after the fact when she realizes I was right. Lol. But she fights it tooth and nail its not pms when in fact it is. Haha
