Times I had successful approaches

[Vice]

Here's a little text file I have to keep track of my approaches over the span of about a year. This isn't ALL of them, but only a handful. My definition of a "successful" approach is just doing one. Some I bombed out on, but whatever.

1. When I went to the mall and approached that chick from LA by following her into a store and saying "I saw you walking and I just

wanted to find out if you were single", and then having her invite me out right then and there!

2. When I went into Hollister and started talking to the sales girl, and then asked her if she was single and she said yes!

3. At the art museum, when I was walking out to my car and saw a beautiful girl walk past me, and I ran back in and found her after

going through the whole museum. I found out she was engaged after asking her if she was single; it was worth the walk in the cold!

4. At the coffee shop, the cute blonde barista and I always flirted, and I eventually asked her if she was single, but she said no. But at least I asked her! She even admired me for my forwardness. A success either way!

5. At the sub-ivy league college when I approached four stunning girls in peacoats and asked them where a certain building was on campus. The next thing I

knew I was talking to ALL of them! It went very well! I didn't close though, but it was a learning experience. Got one of the

girl's phone numbers!

6. At the the mall, when I got off the phone with Alec and approached a woman and said "Hey, I saw you and I just wanted to

meet you". She ended up having a boyfriend, but she was very friendly regardless! Got her phone number!

7. Again in the mall, when I approached a girl at Barnes & Noble, who was wearing a University t-shirt. It didn't go

well, but at least I approached!

8. At the airport, I saw this cute tall girl in a turquoise dress and said "Whats going on dude?" and we ended up having a

conversation before she caught her flight. I got her Facebook.

9. When I was walking in Oyster Point, I saw a beautiful girl working in a jewelry store that was close, so I went up to the glass,

tapped on it, motioned her to come over, asked her if she was single, and got her phone number!

10. At Starbucks, I made a comment on something a pair of girls near me said, and I ended up talking to them for half an hour, got

their Facebooks, and had a date with the better looking of the two (The other was a cow) and ended up ****ing her on the first

date!

11. The two seperate girls I approached at the ivy league college asking if they were single. They weren't but they appreciated my boldness.

12. All those girls at the big mall near downtown that I asked for their opinion on a better cologne, including a stunning blone and her

friend.

 

[Galactus]

This is cool. I think it's a good way to improve. Keeping notes keeps you focused. A few thoughts I had while reading this:

1. I never ask a woman if she's single, because I just don't really care. If she wants to have sex, her other possible relationships are for her to deal with. If she loves her man and doesn't want me, she'll let me know soon enough. But by asking her, she could say she's taken, just as a sh1t test, to see if you have the balls to keep gaming her. Some women will do that even if you don't ask. They'll say "My boyfriend always does that..." or whatever, just to let you know. A lot of guys will just think "Damn! Well, I guess I'll have to try some other chick." That's not what she wants. She just wants you to be Alpha. To me, starting off with that question is kind of Beta. However...

2. I think the question does serve to immediately show her your intentions. She knows you are interested in her sexually, and aren't going to waste her time acting like you just want someone to go to the movies with.

3. You seem to have exactly the right attitude. Have fun with it. Rejections don't matter, they're learning experiences. Too many people internalize stuff like that. Stay out of your head and keep enjoying yourself, and you'll get better and have more success.

Inspiring.

 

[Vice]

This is cool. I think it's a good way to improve. Keeping notes keeps you focused. A few thoughts I had while reading this:

1. I never ask a woman if she's single, because I just don't really care. If she wants to have sex, her other possible relationships are for her to deal with. If she loves her man and doesn't want me, she'll let me know soon enough. But by asking her, she could say she's taken, just as a sh1t test, to see if you have the balls to keep gaming her. Some women will do that even if you don't ask. They'll say "My boyfriend always does that..." or whatever, just to let you know. A lot of guys will just think "Damn! Well, I guess I'll have to try some other chick." That's not what she wants. She just wants you to be Alpha. To me, starting off with that question is kind of Beta. However...

2. I think the question does serve to immediately show her your intentions. She knows you are interested in her sexually, and aren't going to waste her time acting like you just want someone to go to the movies with.

3. You seem to have exactly the right attitude. Have fun with it. Rejections don't matter, they're learning experiences. Too many people internalize stuff like that. Stay out of your head and keep enjoying yourself, and you'll get better and have more success.

Inspiring.

I haven't been consistent with my approaches, I have very long lapses of time where I have no female contact.

But in my experience you're absolutely right; asking them if they're single is a little beta, and I think just saying that I "saw them and wanted to meet them" will go over alot better, because you don't hand them an opportunity to tell you that they're not single.

Today I have a goal of approaching TEN girls that are out by themselves and just saying that I saw them and wanted to meet them. I don't know what I'll say right after (something they're doing/wearing/saying, or the environment). I keep having the feeling that I need to say something of super slick, but I've found that the best results come from something simple and not playerish.

I shouldn't have read The Game as a teenager, I can still sense false expectations that I got from that book. and porn.

ahh, the fragile male psyche

 

[zekko]

Today I have a goal of approaching TEN girls that are out by themselves and just saying that I saw them and wanted to meet them.

Let us know how that works out for you then. I can understand not wanting to do the "are you single?" question but it did seem to work out pretty well for you. Although if you don't ask her the question about being single, you're liable to be wondering about it probably.

Another thing, at your age the girls you are gaming are not as likely to have strong commitments, so you may be able to skip the "are you single" question more easily.

 

[Vice]

Let us know how that works out for you then. I can understand not wanting to do the "are you single?" question but it did seem to work out pretty well for you. Although if you don't ask her the question about being single, you're liable to be wondering about it probably.

Another thing, at your age the girls you are gaming are not as likely to have strong commitments, so you may be able to skip the "are you single" question more easily.

It works out well, but at the same time it always seem like they AREN'T single just because I gave them the option.

Either way, I'm still learning what works.

And for now I am limiting myself to approaching girls that are walking around by themselves, which is a huge handicap, but I need to build my confidence back. Usually that only takes a few approaches, but my big problem is consistency.

But an advantage of approaching girls that are by themselves is that I have a better chance of becoming their "dirty little secret"