Timely responses needed: how to respond to time-sensitive sh!t test

[Masculinity]

Hey, guys. Long story short, an HB7 and I met on a airplane. I spit my game for the hour of our flight and ended up kiss and number closing. She initiated contact a few hours later wishing me well, saying it was nice meeting. We have been texting for a few days and she is super cool, showing a multitude of IOIs. Hence, I booked a flight to come see her (1000) miles away, which would be my mini vacation. We've been flirting back and forth and I kept C&F and the prize mentality going. Great right?

Now, out of nowhere comes the sh!t test:

HB: Haha, what would you like when you arrive at the airport?
Me: I need you to make make up for the bad kiss from last time
HB: Ummmm I don't kiss friends...And I don't do [the ]friends with benefits thing hugs???
HB: Even though I kissed you in Las Vegas airport...What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas!! Haha
Me: Haha, I highly doubt you'll be able to keep that.
HB: Lol oh yeah?! Well just so you know before you come, I only want someone who is serious about me and a relationship...I am tired of crying and hurting over guys.

She told me she broke up with her ex a month ago. I am assuming she is really into me and wants something more serious or some of her female friends are feed bullsh!t into her head.

Thus far, my plan is to go NC until she texts again. How would you guys respond to his? If it comes down to it, I can cancel my trip and lose some money--no big deal. Please, no oversimplified or thoughtless responses.

 

[Chamber36]

I see you averted the whack friend-zone attempt.

I don't know your style of game but I would say something like this:

"Don't worry baby I'll take good care of you"

 

[gravityeyelids]

You've met this girl once in person and you're flying 1000 miles to see her?? Unless you were already planning on flying to this place for other reasons and she just happens to live there....this is kind of ridiculous.

And she's already giving you sh!t... saying she only is looking for serious relationships?

If you're just looking to get laid...save your damn money and game girls in your area.

If you're looking for a serious relationship... this is not your girl.

 

[Masculinity]

I see you averted the whack friend-zone attempt.

I don't know your style of game but I would say something like this:

"Don't worry baby I'll take good care of you"

Thanks, man. I like this approach (minus the baby part, ).

HB: [image of a fortune cookie message saying "A smile is your personal welcome mat"]. So this is what my fortune cookie said today I am gonna give you a smile when you come

You've met this girl once in person and you're flying 1000 miles to see her?? Unless you were already planning on flying to this place for other reasons and she just happens to live there....this is kind of ridiculous.

This would have been a SNL if we had more time at the airport stop. I wanted to take a vacation, so going without her or just canceling are not huge problems. I'm not really worried about the sh!t test. She's driving 3 hours to pick me up from the airport, wants to take me out to a baseball game, food, etc. We're staying together at a hotel. Most likely, I will get laid. It's just been a while for me.

Any other input will be appreciated guys!

 

[Masculinity]

double post

 

[gravityeyelids]

Thanks, man. I like this approach (minus the baby part).

HB: [image of a fortune cookie message saying "A smile is your personal welcome mat"]. So this is what my fortune cookie said today I am gonna give you a smile when you come



This would have been a SNL if we had more time at the airport stop. I wanted to take a vacation, so going without her or just canceling are not huge problems. I'm not really worried about the sh!t test. She's driving 3 hours to pick me up from the airport, wants to take me out to a baseball game, food, etc. We're staying together at a hotel. Most likely, I will get laid. It's just been a while for me.

Makes sense. Then yea, you're probably fine. She just wants to set it up in her mind (or if she has to tell friends) as you just being a friend thats coming to visit so she can feel like less of a slvt when she gets a hotel room and fvcks some dude she met at an airport. Girls....gotta love em :crazy:

Do what you gotta do. Just dont bank on everything going off the way you plan...have a backup plan in case she gets cold feet. It's happened to guys on this forum before...guy flies out planning on meeting a girl and getting laid...she gives a lame excuse and bails last minute and he's stuck paying for an expensive trip.

 

[Masculinity]

Makes sense. Then yea, you're probably fine. She just wants to set it up in her mind (or if she has to tell friends) as you just being a friend thats coming to visit so she can feel like less of a slvt when she gets a hotel room and fvcks some dude she met at an airport. Girls....gotta love em :crazy:

Do what you gotta do. Just dont bank on everything going off the way you plan...have a backup plan in case she gets cold feet. It's happened to guys on this forum before...guy flies out planning on meeting a girl and getting laid...she gives a lame excuse and bails last minute and he's stuck paying for an expensive trip.

Exactly ^

This is the same girl who asked me these things:

HB:Okay, is that a date?
HB: Haha, I don't get drunk that often so when I am I try to have fun like dress up nice and make myself pretty haha
HB: lol I am more fun when I am drunk bc my shyness goes away
HB: Lol okey, so [what] kind of clothes you think look attractive on a girl?
HB: Lol okey, I will keep that in mind

An IL that has been consistently through the roof over four days is not likely to flip flop for no reason whatsoever (although it is possible). I think she is looking for reassurance that I won't pump and dump, which I was not looking to do anyway. She mentioned several times that she's not a slvt, a vvhore, that she is actually conservative and "usually does not do thing like this but that she would like to see me again, so why not." She travels to CA from time to time, so I want to keep her in the back burner for the future.

I admit I'm not the best at texting game. I was thinking to say ":trouble: ultimatums don't work on me" or "I have enough friends already" or "Relax, I'll take care of you. It will be fun."

Obviously, committing to her would be an AFC move. I just have to sweet-talk my way to her 'gina. How would you guys reply to her this text?

HB: Lol oh yeah?! Well just so you know before you come, I only want someone who is serious about me and a relationship...I am tired of crying and hurting over guys

 

[spiegel549]

I think your playing it fine bro. I am actually in a somewhat similar situation. Met a girl through a mutual friend but she lives back east where I am from. Living out in LA now I just so happened to be flying back to visit next month and I will be seeing this girl for the first time..she has been face timing me, sending me flirty as hell texts, and she just broke up with her ex a month ago...so almost the same situation...this visit back east should be fun

Honestly since you are committed to a plane ticket just play the texting easy bro...tell her what she wants to hear, play her game, go along with it. If she asks say you are looking for something REAL, your not into the one stand thing, its not your game...even though she is GOING to bang you when you visit lol...just play along and play it smooth. Blowing money on a plane ticket sucks....

You got this bro! Keep us posted.

ADDED NOTE:

Just thinking about it again....I would not over do the texts...I get where your coming from and I do the same thing but you don't want to fly there and she flakes..tell her what she wants to hear, play along, and have fun!

When are you going???

 

[cordoncordon]

I would keep things fun and lighthearted. Don't get bogged down in serious relationship talk. After all this is a person you don't know at all and whom you have only seen in person once.

As for her text, just say something like this. "Oh so you are already talking relationship huh? You must really like me! I'm honored! And I'll keep that in mind."

And leave it at that.

 

[Masculinity]

I think your playing it fine bro. I am actually in a somewhat similar situation. Met a girl through a mutual friend but she lives back east where I am from. Living out in LA now I just so happened to be flying back to visit next month and I will be seeing this girl for the first time..she has been face timing me, sending me flirty as hell texts, and she just broke up with her ex a month ago...so almost the same situation...this visit back east should be fun

Honestly since you are committed to a plane ticket just play the texting easy bro...tell her what she wants to hear, play her game, go along with it. If she asks say you are looking for something REAL, your not into the one stand thing, its not your game...even though she is GOING to bang you when you visit lol...just play along and play it smooth. Blowing money on a plane ticket sucks....

You got this bro! Keep us posted.

ADDED NOTE:

Just thinking about it again....I would not over do the texts...I get where your coming from and I do the same thing but you don't want to fly there and she flakes..tell her what she wants to hear, play along, and have fun!

When are you going???

Thanks for the advice, man. It's really interesting how similar our situations are, so hang in there too!

I've turned down the texts significantly by taking my time to respond, as she writes back literally seconds afterwards. I'm going to respond as if I was not fazed by her message.

I would keep things fun and lighthearted. Don't get bogged down in serious relationship talk. After all this is a person you don't know at all and whom you have only seen in person once.

As for her text, just say something like this. "Oh so you are already talking relationship huh? You must really like me! I'm honored! And I'll keep that in mind."

And leave it at that.

As always, thanks for the good advice, CC. I was thinking about saying "Ohh la la...she wants me to be her bf This is kinda fast, but I'll consider it!"

 

[spiegel549]

Thanks for the advice, man. It's really interesting how similar our situations are, so hang in there too!

I've turned down the texts significantly by taking my time to respond, as she writes back literally seconds afterwards. I'm going to respond as if I was not fazed by her message.

Yeah bro. Listen when I am texting a typical LA girl that I met in a bar, or met off Tinder, pof, w.e. I apply my regular rules. I tease her a bit, I challenge her, I don't agree to everything she says, I take my time responding, I act as if I couldn't care if she ever hit me up again.......but....

In this specific scenario...since you have a few hundred dollars invested, and a plane ride, you HAVE to play her game. She says I don't want you to hurt me blah blah you say "of course not, I'm looking for something real..lets just hang out and see where things go, I think we would hit it off." you know what I mean? I wouldn't tease and shoot back to much of the confident I don't give a sh*t responses because if she flakes......your not exactly a cab ride away from home...

Play it cool, play it smooth, tell her what she wants to hear, go have fun and get laid! Keep me posted.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Exactly ^

This is the same girl who asked me these things:

HB:Okay, is that a date?
HB: Haha, I don't get drunk that often so when I am I try to have fun like dress up nice and make myself pretty haha
HB: lol I am more fun when I am drunk bc my shyness goes away
HB: Lol okey, so [what] kind of clothes you think look attractive on a girl?
HB: Lol okey, I will keep that in mind

HB:Okay, is that a date?.......

Can we make this a little more official by classing it as a date so i can deactivate my anti sl*t defence

HB: Haha, I don't get drunk that often so when I am I try to have fun like dress up nice and make myself pretty haha

I haven’t had a bang in a while and im horny (hinting at role play)

HB: lol I am more fun when I am drunk bc my shyness goes away

Im more than capable of doing bad things in bed

HB: Lol okey, so [what] kind of clothes you think look attractive on a girl?

A funny one but i would of asked in what kind of circumstances were talking about
(again Funny feeling she could be into role play)

HB: Lol okey, I will keep that in mind

whatever you said in reply to the last text wasn’t the answer she wanted

Be careful going down the route of sexting especially one that hasn’t had time to expreience your personality properly and lives a 1000 miles away

women are so temperamental and read so deeply into things

 

[JoeMarron]

I wanted to take a vacation, so going without her or just canceling are not huge problems.

Lol...suuure bro. You know damn well you're taking this trip because of her. Plus you said you could cancel it and lose some money, you've already invested too much in this chick. Anyways I'd just agree and amplify.

"Yes of course! I've already picked out an engagement ring that'll look awesome on you!"

 

[SgtSplacker]

She just doesn't want to commit herself to blowing you on arrival dude. No easy answer here, she might decide to blow you on arrival or not it's just as easy as that.

I would apply all game practices and teachings on this one.

 

[jurry]

Dont understand what the question is or how this is a sh!t test, she couldnt have been any more clear with her intentions. She wants someone who is serious and you are obviously serious since you wouldnt be taking a plane ride for a booty call (hopefully). So... Yea have fun she is definitely into you!

 

[Masculinity]

Yeah bro. Listen when I am texting a typical LA girl that I met in a bar, or met off Tinder, pof, w.e. I apply my regular rules. I tease her a bit, I challenge her, I don't agree to everything she says, I take my time responding, I act as if I couldn't care if she ever hit me up again.......but....

In this specific scenario...since you have a few hundred dollars invested, and a plane ride, you HAVE to play her game. She says I don't want you to hurt me blah blah you say "of course not, I'm looking for something real..lets just hang out and see where things go, I think we would hit it off." you know what I mean? I wouldn't tease and shoot back to much of the confident I don't give a sh*t responses because if she flakes......your not exactly a cab ride away from home...

Play it cool, play it smooth, tell her what she wants to hear, go have fun and get laid! Keep me posted.

I know what you mean. I have tried to keep it light and playful without making fun of her too much. She is super responsive and I have been able to maintain the high IL, so that's good! Thanks again, mate.

HB:Okay, is that a date?.......

Can we make this a little more official by classing it as a date so i can deactivate my anti sl*t defence

HB: Haha, I don't get drunk that often so when I am I try to have fun like dress up nice and make myself pretty haha

I haven’t had a bang in a while and im horny (hinting at role play)

HB: lol I am more fun when I am drunk bc my shyness goes away

Im more than capable of doing bad things in bed

HB: Lol okey, so [what] kind of clothes you think look attractive on a girl?

A funny one but i would of asked in what kind of circumstances were talking about
(again Funny feeling she could be into role play)

HB: Lol okey, I will keep that in mind

whatever you said in reply to the last text wasn’t the answer she wanted

Be careful going down the route of sexting especially one that hasn’t had time to expreience your personality properly and lives a 1000 miles away

women are so temperamental and read so deeply into things

These are pretty good translations. I am impressed by how you are right on the money about sexting. I asked her for a pic, which she interpreted as sexting. I was able to flip it around on her and say she was already thinking about having sex and how I wanted a pic, haha. She sent a nice picture and her IL is still high.

 

[Masculinity]

Lol...suuure bro. You know damn well you're taking this trip because of her. Plus you said you could cancel it and lose some money, you've already invested too much in this chick. Anyways I'd just agree and amplify.

Of course I am taking the trip because of her. I have not traveled in three years of college, so this was also my escapade from every day life. Money is not everything...she treated me like a king!

She just doesn't want to commit herself to blowing you on arrival dude. No easy answer here, she might decide to blow you on arrival or not it's just as easy as that.

I would apply all game practices and teachings on this one.

Yeah, she definitely didn't want to kiss right off the bat. In fact, she was a little uncomfortable giving me a hug when I arrived. Of course, your buddy Robyn immediately engaged her in kino. I hugged and rewarded her for taking time off work and driving three hours (~125 miles) to come pick me up. I kissed her on the cheek for a few seconds and gave her attention while she was driving. It was smooth sailing from there on.

Dont understand what the question is or how this is a sh!t test, she couldnt have been any more clear with her intentions. She wants someone who is serious and you are obviously serious since you wouldnt be taking a plane ride for a booty call (hopefully). So... Yea have fun she is definitely into you!

She was! I later found out that her sister (age 16) was texting me through her phone. In essence, it may have been her who was playing hard to get because my plate was more welcoming of my moves.

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In summary, the trip was amazingly fun. She took me to places, paid for a lot of stuff, treated me like a king, and completely submitted to my will in bed.

Just a teaser: her hoohah was so tight that I could barely fit my middle finger inside--use your imagination for the rest

Thanks to all of you who provided me with great feedback! I will write a full field report (FR) for the community later today.