time-sensitive situation - timing is everything

[ogre]

here's the sitch:

met a nice girl on wednesday eve. told her I'd call her saturday re: plan for saturday. I did. she was in. she said "I gotta call you right back" she did. (yeah-surprised me too!) so far so good, in SPITE of the 5-day rule.....

I had to nix plans for saturday but we rescheduled for sunday (today) plan was to pick her up at her home and go to concert. (gave me her address) she seems very agreeable and interested in me and my plans. so far so good..... only problem is, just when getting off the phone I said "thanks". this is out of habit, as I am a polite person and say "thanks" a lot. I am afraid that I may have sounded like a wuss or a loser. Ooops.....

today she calls to say she wasn't feeling well. Can't see me. Since I don't know how to handle this situation AT ALL, I just said ok, no prob, I'm just gonna go [to concert] without you. but thanks for calling and letting me know. I believe she mentioned something about getting back to me later, dunno if that was sincere or of that was the usual ******** B.S.

there is another event which I'd like to take her to, she'd love it, but it's thursday, only 4 days away. I did not mention this to her since I don't want to ask her out immediately after being turned down or any time within a 1-week period, for fear it would make me seem like a loser.

so.... the questions are......

did I screw anything up or should I just be patient?

OK to call re: thursday or better off not to?

 

[Dherios]

Forget her. If she was into you, you would know, trust me. They want you to know. She is trying to be polite by what she said. In her eyes at least.

So: Don't call her. Stop thinking what she could possibly like. Find another girl to practise on.

The only thing you could do with her is: If she is REALLY into that other event, take another girl there. If she is there, make sure she sees you. If she is not, tell her afterwards what a nice time you had with the other girl. Don't fool yourself. This will not make her interested. It is just so you can see her reaction.

 

[check_mate_kid_uk]

you should not have siad thank you, thta was bad, never say it, obvouslt its been siad, you cnt take it back, be carefull next time, im sure that 1 incident should not cause to much problem, as for her being ill, she may not have wnated to go with you on a date, or was mayeb really ill, you handled the situation fine, i would give ehr the benefit of the doubt but if she cancles agina then next her.

hope iv been a help

 

[Caveman]

Not all women are the same. By saying thank you, you did not screw up. Especially if you are like this, she must have noticed that it is just a saying for you.

It could be true she wasn't feeling well so you could call her up one of these days and ask her how she's doin. You might crack a joke on whether or not you should pop round with a fruitbasket or whatever. Go ahead and ask her if she wants to come.

If she comes up with an excuse again you could tell her: You know if you aren't interested it's okay to say so.. I can handle it, I do know other girls.. Her reaction to this will make everything clear. One way or the other.

 

[TooColdUlrick]

forget her. given what has transpired, it is very important that you DO NOT call her or contact her in any way. you have played the situation well, thus far. don't FVCK IT UP!!!

bottom line is that she broke a date with you. she actually broke TWO dates. that means 1) she isn't interested in you, 2) she's a flake, or 3) she's sh!t testing you.

if it's 1 or 2, you don't want her anyway.

if it's 3, PASS THE TEST!!! in other words, make HER submit.

it COULD be that she wasn't feeling well. how convenient, huh?she didn't give you any firm counter offer. she didn't explain herself. did she apologize? did you pay for these concert tickets?

your "thank you's" have absolutely NOTHING to do with this situation. if she dogged you because of this, you don't want her anyway.

if your "thank you's" were accompanied by other AFC stuff, that's a different matter, however.

 

[TooColdUlrick]

Originally posted by check_mate_kid_uk
you should not have siad thank you, thta was bad, never say it, obvouslt its been siad, you cnt take it back, be carefull next time, im sure that 1 incident should not cause to much problem, as for her being ill, she may not have wnated to go with you on a date, or was mayeb really ill, you handled the situation fine, i would give ehr the benefit of the doubt but if she cancles agina then next her.

hope iv been a help

are you tying with boxing gloves on? how can you expect anybody to take you seriously with grammar like that?

 

[check_mate_kid_uk]

sure TooColdUlrick i made a few spelling mistakes, because i choose to type fast, but its what you say not how you say it, if i wanted to i could type with no spellign mistakes like i am now, but aslong as its readable, which it is, then thats good enough for me, and just to throw this back at you, think of it this way, your 36, women your age are all dried up, im 16 i can get much better pu$$ey then you can, i hope that shut you up, this forum does not need people like you

i hope iv made my point