Time for us to become Alpha.

[Bossa]

There's so many tips and techniques and quick fixes on this site here. They're all cool just so you can sort of taste the alpha mindset, but that's all it really is. All you're doing is sampling the lifestyle of an alpha, but not really living it. I've been visiting this site for quite a few years already and throughout all of the strenuous efforts of techniques and pickup lines and NLP and call three days later and kino this and kino that and play with her emotions and protect your heart and don't put her on the pedestal and blah blah blah; not one of those really had sh*t to do with how I've changed.

But I guess techniques have their usefulness, as they sort of give you a clearer understanding of the basic idea of how you should handle your interactions with women. Also, there's a lot of motivational masculine posts that basically list the qualities of the masculine alpha: confident, commanding, daring, direct, fearless, physically strong, etcetera... all the qualities of quite an amazing man.

But how does one become that amazing man? Because despite the fact that there's so many great and superb posts in this forum, a lot of us keep coming back here for reinforcement. Reinforcement of the natural man's mindset; the reason why we even breathe in this god forsaken world.

Everywhere I go, everywhere I look, there's nothing but a bunch of AFC chumps around me. God forbid, I tried to give one of my not-so-manly friends a quick lecture on masculinity and he suddenly labeled me as a misogynist. WTF?. Mind you, I didn't force this information unto him as he came to me for advice; he wonders how a guy who's got so much sh*t to worry about could keep his cool and eventually get what he wants.

Anyways, he hasn't spoken to me much since and I don't really care if he ever does.

But I'm not surprised because he's the victim type of person who thinks everyone's out to get him, so automatically he's placed himself under just about everyone, so oh well. I guess the path of the true man is not for every "man."

It just goes to show how society as a whole has already proved itself to be an enemy of masculinity. Even one of my other really good friends who's physically macho and a little hot-headed thinks I have problems for thinking that every guy on that bullsh*t MTV show called Real World is a pansy. I mean not all the time, but when one sits down in the confession room, calls his mommy and daddy, and then starts crying about how he can't handle it because some guy's always playing pranks and the girls are always fighting...I don't know man.

Society as a whole. Yes. We're all so brain-washed that we might as well just cut off our testicles right now. I tried an experiment with a few of my male acquaintances. I'd talk to them about true love and their spiritually united other that will make them whole and we'd have some pretty good conversations (them talking and me listening while trying not to throw up). They would then ask me my opinion on the matter and within minutes their faces would light up with disbelief. Even the more masculine meat-headed guys I know have that hidden belief of that one true perfect love.

Once I find the one who's right for me, I don't have to be so hard anymore. *sniff sniff*

Yup. That's society for you. Our views on the natural male have been skewed so badly that any form of masculinity is automatically labeled as OMG misogyny! OMG playa-pimp! You're baaaad. Stay away from my little son! I don't want him to be like you! I guess it's understandable for a woman to react in this way, but when a god damned biological MALE says this to me, I know for sure society has lead us men in the wrong direction.

When I talk about business and being your own boss, when I talk about going out on a limb for your own freedom, when I talk about taking what you want unapologetically, when I talk about speaking your mind, when I talk about keeping a sexual state of mind with women, they all look at me with utter disbelief.

Oh, you wanna start a business. That's good......but don't you think you should work hard for about 8 years until you have a fool-proof secure little job?

Oh, you want your own freedom...I see. But you have to be realistic. We all have to work hard and we all have to pay our dues to society. This life isn't an easy life.

Oh...that bully was picking on you in school? Let me call your teacher so that she can move you to a different table. Oh, he'll pick on you anyways? Okay well let's call the principal so we can move you to a different teacher.

Is that your girlfriend? Wow. Treat her like a queen! Girls like that don't come by often! You're one lucky guy.

I guess that's why it's so hard for some of us less experienced men to suddenly just become our natural masculine selves out of nowhere. Too many
people trying to tell us what's right for ourselves. Too many people blaming this and that and him and her. I've met a lot of quite successful people
who have said Life is what you make it. I worked hard to get here and now here I am! But, I've never met anyone who's said Life is what you
make it. I'm not in good shape right now, but that's because of how I've been living. I have been the controller of my own life this whole time. Don't fool yourself. You're where you are because of the choices you make. You're where you are because of what you bring to life.

Nobody wants to admit that they're the diggers of their own pits. I mean, obviously nobody's going to be perfect and not one day dig a pit for themselves. But who's choice is it to sulk around and give up on your goals and values when one little thing goes wrong? Yeah. Teach our kids how to give up at the first sign of failure and to be afraid. That's how things seem to go nowadays.

Some guys such as the guys I've spoken about earlier are just unfortunate and there's nothing anyone can really do for them. They're going to live their lives the hard way and get heartbroken (not only by women but also by life) and never understand sh*t about anything. I don't blame them. I guess not all of us men are destined to be men.

I should probably stop venting about society now since I'm sure you all get the point. Earlier I gave a few qualities that described the masculine alpha. And then I asked the question: How does one get to become that amazing man?

 

[Bossa]

First off, I'm totally for all of this charlatan-type speaking Jesus-of-Masculinity pep talk. But don't think that by just envisioning yourself as a man and constantly looking at yourself in the mirror and then going out to the club has any life lasting effect. Motivation is great, but the problem is that motivation won't always be there. So you can't depend on "talking yourself up and making yourself feel good for the night" as a way of keeping up with that masculinity juice. In my prior post, I spoke about sincerity in your life, and I preach the same thing here.

You have to work hard in all areas of your life in order to truly and naturally project a dominant state to all who happen to step into the glory of your commanding presence. Like I said, motivation is good in the beginning, but later on you won't need any of it.

Every part of your life must be played dominantly. The way you interact with your acquaintances and the way you act with strangers should all have a dominant feel. The same goes with obstacles. Everything that should ever come by you is to become engulfed in your power.

When speaking with someone, what is the conversation like? Is he the one asking you questions in order for you to validate yourself to him, or is it vice versa? Do you ever find yourself explaining yourself to him? Do you ever find yourself trying to prove yourself? Do you do things just to make the tension easier between you and him or to win a bit of his favor?

Think of all the people you talk to that end up with you not being the dominant one. Why do you feel that way? Probably because you know those people have something over you.

FIX IT.

Work hard towards your dominance and gain control. There should be no one in this world that intimidates you. That is the mindset of the Alpha.

But being a masculine Alpha isn't easy. You will bust your ass and you will have to be creative with your time and learn how to manage every aspect of your being in order unleash your inner masculinity. Alphas don't get lazy and say f*ck it, I'll do it tomorrow. They're powerful and focused. They don't blame lack of time, resources, or luck for any of their short-comings. They know that what they get is what they put in.

Probably one of the most important things you'll have to realize is that:

AN ALPHA DESERVES TO BE AN ALPHA.

If you're the type of man who has his **** together and struggles for himself, you're the type of man that others will follow just because they know you're already the dominant sh*t of these parts. Whether you like it or not, if you're masculine, you will have followers. But if it were that easy, all men would be masculine alphas. So yes, that's right, you have to work for it.

Read these forum posts once in awhile for motivation, but in the end, it's the hard work that you commit to when you're alone that pays off. All the time that you spend doing pointless sh*t and indulging in your petty desires is you reinforcing yourself to be a p*ssy. Every second of your life is some sort of reinforcement. Either you're becoming more of a p*ssy or more of a man.

So if ever you're in a social situation and you don't feel quite up to it, well then maybe you shouldn't have eaten that ice cream that one night, or maybe you shouldn't have jacked off to that porn, or maybe you shouldn't have skipped that workout session.

WORK HARD TOWARDS YOURSELF. And not for anyone else nor for anyone else's cause, but for your own cause.

This may be what differentiates the Alphas from the normal man.

In my experience, the harder you work towards yourself, the more fearless you become. Work hard for yourself, stay focused, and become more fearless than you have ever imagined. A lot of people try to just fight through their fear at the given moment, but it's so much easier when you have hours of already spent will power to back yourself up with. And it is true that the more risks you take, the easier it becomes to take even more risks. But, a lot of people only take a few risks and then back away because it's too overwhelming. Remember, as an Alpha, you don't get overwhelmed. You do the overwhelming.

As you can see, I didn't say anything about how an Alpha acts in front of a crowd or in front of a group of people. That's because it will all come naturally from knowing that you deserve the pedestal that these people put you on. And that's what's important. This site stresses confidence because it plays perhaps the biggest role in masculinity. And that's what building yourself is all about. Your confidence is your power and your masculinity.

When you're ready to retire and give up, your will power is what kicks in and says F*CK YOU and keeps on going. That's what builds confidence. That's what gives you the god damned right to tell people what to do because they don't have what it takes. But guess what, you do.

So you can pretend all you want that you are an alpha and that you are masculine, but that will only work for so long. Build your foundation with hard work and aggressiveness and you won't even have to try to amp yourself up as an Alpha. Because with all of those sore muscles and sweat and tears that seep through your skin, your essence will be crying out ALPHA.

The important thing is to know that you deserve this. Everything that comes to you is what you deserve. And when you're an Alpha without even trying, you deserve it.

EVERYTHING ELSE will come secondary as an extra spice of life. Respect, women, followers, money, whatever. But the real reward should be the new gained respect you have for yourself, and the new completely earned confidence for you to know that you can overcome ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING in your path.

Take responsibility for your life and don't whine about anything. When you find yourself whining about something in your head, just stop; you're turning yourself into a pansy. Work for your own goals and for no one else's. Listen to yourself and to no one else. WORK HARD. You will find that you have become naturally aggressive, dominant and you will always want to hold your ground. Those are all natural. Natural to men.

EMBRACE IT.

 

[Connect4]

First off, I'm totally for all of this charlatan-type speaking Jesus-of-Masculinity pep talk. But don't think that by just envisioning yourself as a man and constantly looking at yourself in the mirror and then going out to the club has any life lasting effect. Motivation is great, but the problem is that motivation won't always be there. So you can't depend on "talking yourself up and making yourself feel good for the night" as a way of keeping up with that masculinity juice. In my prior post, I spoke about sincerity in your life, and I preach the same thing here.

You have to work hard in all areas of your life in order to truly and naturally project a dominant state to all who happen to step into the glory of your commanding presence. Like I said, motivation is good in the beginning, but later on you won't need any of it.
Every part of your life must be played dominantly. The way you interact with your acquaintances and the way you act with strangers should all have a dominant feel. The same goes with obstacles. Everything that should ever come by you is to become engulfed in your power.

When speaking with someone, what is the conversation like? Is he the one asking you questions in order for you to validate yourself to him, or is it vice versa? Do you ever find yourself explaining yourself to him? Do you ever find yourself trying to prove yourself? Do you do things just to make the tension easier between you and him or to win a bit of his favor?

Think of all the people you talk to that end up with you not being the dominant one. Why do you feel that way? Probably because you know those people have something over you.

FIX IT.

Work hard towards your dominance and gain control. There should be no one in this world that intimidates you. That is the mindset of the Alpha.

But being a masculine Alpha isn't easy. You will bust your ass and you will have to be creative with your time and learn how to manage every aspect of your being in order unleash your inner masculinity. Alphas don't get lazy and say f*ck it, I'll do it tomorrow. They're powerful and focused. They don't blame lack of time, resources, or luck for any of their short-comings. They know that what they get is what they put in.

Probably one of the most important things you'll have to realize is that:

AN ALPHA DESERVES TO BE AN ALPHA.

If you're the type of man who has his **** together and struggles for himself, you're the type of man that others will follow just because they know you're already the dominant sh*t of these parts. Whether you like it or not, if you're masculine, you will have followers. But if it were that easy, all men would be masculine alphas. So yes, that's right, you have to work for it.

Read these forum posts once in awhile for motivation, but in the end, it's the hard work that you commit to when you're alone that pays off. All the time that you spend doing pointless sh*t and indulging in your petty desires is you reinforcing yourself to be a p*ssy. Every second of your life is some sort of reinforcement. Either you're becoming more of a p*ssy or more of a man.

So if ever you're in a social situation and you don't feel quite up to it, well then maybe you shouldn't have eaten that ice cream that one night, or maybe you shouldn't have jacked off to that porn, or maybe you shouldn't have skipped that workout session.

WORK HARD TOWARDS YOURSELF. And not for anyone else nor for anyone else's cause, but for your own cause.

This may be what differentiates the Alphas from the normal man.

In my experience, the harder you work towards yourself, the more fearless you become. Work hard for yourself, stay focused, and become more fearless than you have ever imagined. A lot of people try to just fight through their fear at the given moment, but it's so much easier when you have hours of already spent will power to back yourself up with. And it is true that the more risks you take, the easier it becomes to take even more risks. But, a lot of people only take a few risks and then back away because it's too overwhelming. Remember, as an Alpha, you don't get overwhelmed. You do the overwhelming.

As you can see, I didn't say anything about how an Alpha acts in front of a crowd or in front of a group of people. That's because it will all come naturally from knowing that you deserve the pedestal that these people put you on. And that's what's important. This site stresses confidence because it plays perhaps the biggest role in masculinity. And that's what building yourself is all about. Your confidence is your power and your masculinity.

When you're ready to retire and give up, your will power is what kicks in and says F*CK YOU and keeps on going. That's what builds confidence. That's what gives you the god damned right to tell people what to do because they don't have what it takes. But guess what, you do.

So you can pretend all you want that you are an alpha and that you are masculine, but that will only work for so long. Build your foundation with hard work and aggressiveness and you won't even have to try to amp yourself up as an Alpha. Because with all of those sore muscles and sweat and tears that seep through your skin, your essence will be crying out ALPHA.

The important thing is to know that you deserve this. Everything that comes to you is what you deserve. And when you're an Alpha without even trying, you deserve it.

EVERYTHING ELSE will come secondary as an extra spice of life. Respect, women, followers, money, whatever. But the real reward should be the new gained respect you have for yourself, and the new completely earned confidence for you to know that you can overcome ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING in your path.

Take responsibility for your life and don't whine about anything. When you find yourself whining about something in your head, just stop; you're turning yourself into a pansy. Work for your own goals and for no one else's. Listen to yourself and to no one else. WORK HARD. You will find that you have become naturally aggressive, dominant and you will always want to hold your ground. Those are all natural. Natural to men.

EMBRACE IT.

Great post Bossa.

This is kind of off topic but just a tip:

Make yourself a commitment: FROM NOW ON I am going to live my life to the fullest. I am going to make the most of every single day.

I don't care if your washing the dishes, or mowing the lawn, or studying, you do it with all your heart. Put your heart and mind into everything that you do.

When you say this out loud to yourself and truly make a commitment to doing that, it can be very powerful. It's really made a big difference in my life

Whenever you find yourself those moments or days where you're not working on your goals or dreams, feeling unproductive, and feeling lazy, ask yourself this question several times.

"What am I doing right now to feel alive and to better my future?"
"What am I doing right now to feel alive and to better my future?"
"What am I doing RIGHT NOW to feel ALIVE and to better my future?"

This will kick you back into gear and help you refocus your energies.

Also, before you go to bed at night, reflect. Ask yourself, "did I do my best today?"
"Did I do everything that I wanted/needed to within my capabilities?"

And if not, promise yourself and follow through with making the next day that much better.

"Tomorrow is another day to get it right"

 

[Garand]

This is possibly one of the best posts on this site, focusing on yourself and your masculinity is where all your effort should be going into and not directly into women - they will come as a by-product of the correct alpha mindset.

 

[Jon55]

Fvck yes.

That was some SPARTA sh!t. Bossa, I'm gonna start calling you King Leonidas.

This is the last tip you'll ever need.

 

[Key Mister]

Great post!

But just got a quick question... are u implying in your post that you should stay away from the things that you are not good at and instead focusing on what you're good at ( which gives you the aura of confidence) in front of other people?

then again, wouldnt there always be someone out there who's better than you in everything that you do? what do you do in that situation?

 

[Jon55]

Great post!

But just got a quick question... are u implying in your post that you should stay away from the things that you are not good at and instead focusing on what you're good at ( which gives you the aura of confidence) in front of other people?

then again, wouldnt there always be someone out there who's better than you in everything that you do? what do you do in that situation?

Wait, where did he say that?

 

[Evolution]

Ultimately, you want to be become a natural. This is when you no longer need dependence on cute lines, tactics, etc. You let the most powerful tool in your arsenal, the self, shine through. When you reach this level something amazing happens, you'll be having the time of your life, its like you don't even have to think about what to say, or what to do next.

Everything you do will flow with authenticity, ease, comfort, and naturalness. You know you gotta go for the # or the kiss, because its the only right move. Because when you do go for it, its won't be like its forced, but rather natural, and easy.

 

[Jon55]

My biggest issue that I have with this is that I start to get too involved in myself; rather I start taking myself too seriously.

I've been focusing on myself for a while now and it's occurred to me that I have a hard time being playful/flirty like I once was.

 

[Evolution]

My biggest issue that I have with this is that I start to get too involved in myself; rather I start taking myself too seriously.

I've been focusing on myself for a while now and it's occurred to me that I have a hard time being playful/flirty like I once was.

You have to gradually start letting go, and don't sweat the small ****. The moment is now, and its perfect as it is. Don't think about whats gonna happen 2 hrs from now, start thinking about the right here, right now.
Once you do that, everything will come naturally, words will magically come out of your mouth, and girls will love everything you say.

 

[Mistic]

This should help
http://youtube.com/watch?v=FMjvY2fi4Fc&feature=related

 

[Jon55]

This should help
http://youtube.com/watch?v=FMjvY2fi4Fc&feature=related

Wow do not watch that. Fvcking nasty.

 

[PrinceKong]

This right here is the end result of the change from the afc to the don juan. This is the enlightenment. It amplifies the fact that this site was meant for improving your overall life, not just love life. I give major props to this guy.

 

[Lanceroni3]

/bump

This post needs to be read by everyone. Great job, no joke

 

[Jon55]

Bumping this thread for pure the awesomeness of it.