Tight Situation Pt. 2 (confused need advise plz)

[RonnieColman]

Hey guys. I'll make this short.

I was dating this girl for a year.
She loved me ( i felt like she loved me more than i loved her, that's not the point though ) anyways, not too long ago she started acting very strange towards me. Check out my post on that topic "tight situation" for details on that problem.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&postid=673721#post673721

anyways...soo...about a month ago, we broke up, she needed space, some time to herself blah blah blah.... I actually broke up with her at 11pm and the next day it was her 20th birthday damn...but she left me no choice, i was pissed. So haven't seen her in a while. I know she's tryed to contact me, but i just ignored. Told her to ****off and don't even speack to me, she may say hi, but that's as much as she would get out of me, cauze she's dead to me...(maybe that was too much, but again i was hurt and pissed)

So now after a while, i ran into her at the beach this passed Sunday. She spots me near the cantine and comes up to me gives me a hug and says
"hay baby" i didn't say much i said "hey"
she replyes with "who r you here with?"
...then she sees my friend (male) and says "oh ok cool"
so then i just complitely turn around and started talking to my buddies,
then she asks, "so what? you don't even talk to me anymore"?
I turned around and replyed with "is there someting you need, what do you want"? she just had this look on her face, and walked away.

well today she contacts me again, on MSN and starts telling me that she misses me, she loves me, she made a mistake, the biggest mistake of her life blah blah blah, i played it cool.

so my question is: She asked for me to call her sometime tomorrow so we can talk about things, and she also mentioned maybe seeing me sometime this weekend if i have time so we can sit down and talk. So what should i do guys?

remember I've knows her for a while, about 5 years, dated for 1 year, always though she was hot, she always found me atractive i know that. I do love her, and i would love to have her back, but i just don't want to be a puppet on a string! I want her to see that I am the man, and that i'm in control.

I don't want to mess this up please. If it was up to me, i would call her tomorrow, keep the conversation short and just tell her i'm busy over the weekend maybe we can meet up on monday, i'll have some time then.

what do u guys think?

thanks

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Why would you go back? This girl is a control freak!!! She didn't like it once you started standing up for yourself, but now she's up to her old tricks again. And it looks like your ready to play the role as well.

Answer me this: How many girls have you met since you broke up with your girl? That's the whole problem, your not meeting new girls, so obiviously your minds going to be left on your last chick. The mind works in funny ways, weird how you only remember the good times you two had when you think about her, rather than all the bullshyt she put you through.


I'd move on bro, you haven't even been broken up for a 5 weeks and you want her back. Can you trust her? Is she willing to compromise, does she really love you? Answer those questions with honesty, rather than desperation.



PIMP

 

[JPR]

Well you've known her for 5 years, we don't. So what does your gut say about her character and her latest intentions? You don't have to be intimate with a person to get a feel for how they behave and interact with other people, surely in 5 years you'd have spoted some clues about her being a bit of a control freak, attention ***** or a plain biatch.

I dunno I seem to trust my gut feeling a and you know most of the time it's right. I am the one who often might not listen to it and do the opposite but that's another problem

 

[Lost In Translation]

She asked for me to call her sometime tomorrow so we can talk about things, and she also mentioned maybe seeing me sometime this weekend if i have time so we can sit down and talk. So what should i do guys?

this is the meat and potatos

she should be calling you she is trying to TEST you here

after you blew her off at the beach she was ATTRACTED to you

who is this MAN who dosn't take $hit

has he changed ? the phone call scenario is your first $hit test

DON'T CALL HER

she mentioned maybe seeing you this weekend so you can sit down and talk ?

thats just ******** for i am sussing out this new HE_MAN who blew me off at the beach and i need the time to maybe to flake and feel better or sit and talk and watch you revert to an AFC before my eyes so i have closure

i would be like " look chicky babe i am a very busy man. i got no time for these games and my back is kinda sore. so unless you are coming over saturday at 3 to give me a full body massage DON'T BOTHER talking to me !

but i just want to talk says the girl

B*TCH YOU CAN TALK TO ME WHILE YOU MASSAGE THE KINK OUT OF MY BACK !!!

but how did you get a kink says girl ?

this chick that likes me offered to give me a back massage at johns place so i said ok. 2 minutes into she does something. i dunno what. and damn it hurt. i told her to stop. she said sorry. i told her to f* ck off. ever since then it's been alittle sore.

why can't i find a chick that knows what the f* ck she is doing ?

there's a few ideas to get you started


Lost In Translation

**AUSTRALIAN STREET PIMP**

 

[RonnieColman]

Guys so is this all a game?

I feel like she just feels safe with me, she knows i wont go anywhere and she can run back to me just like that. She knows she can trust me. I know that i'm diff from any other guy she's ever dated, i don't put up with **** and it drove her crazy. She's telling me she's all depressed, misses me and all that crap. What if she really does, and she feels like she did make a mistake?

I would like to talk to her, and tell her all that sh*t, u know just to set it all straigh....so should i, or should i just leave this whole thing alone?

Is she a Control freak ? umm she likes to be in control yes, but hasn't had much luck with me. And i did change her in a good way during our 1 year of relationship, opened up her eyes a bit.


Or go back out with her but show her that i've changed and that i will not take sh*t from her. I do care about her and i would like to get back together but i need to set things straigh i guess. So should I call or wait on that? cauze she did try to contact me a few times but i never got back to her. exept for last night for the 1st time in about a month.

I guess i just want to know what would be the best way for me to approach this, i said i will call her sometime today, so when? should i meet up with her and talk about this maybe sometime next week. Tell her that i think that she's just attached to me and that she feels safe with me, and that i don't think that she truly loves me. and see how she reacts to that? I'm not good at this stuff. So just shoot guys!

thanks alot for your advice!

Man i'm just waiting for someone to say
yea man, go for it but....approach it this way hahahaha it's funny and sad at the same time.

 

[RonnieColman]

haha i forgot to mention this part of our conversation lat night...
she kept on askin me if i've been seeing anybody else or if i have found a new g/f? so i didn't even bother saying anything just changed the subject.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Originally posted by RonnieColman
haha i forgot to mention this part of our conversation lat night...
she kept on askin me if i've been seeing anybody else or if i have found a new g/f? so i didn't even bother saying anything just changed the subject.

You say you don't take her shiat??? Welll.........YOUR TAKING HER SHIAT RIGHT NOW!! She knows how to control you ooh so well and your falling for it hook, line & sinker!!! Hey its very apparent that your going to get back together with her. Nearly everyone that's responded has told you not to go back and your asking us when you should call her, so why are you asking us these questions anyway?


The honeymoon phase will last for a short time and then your in for the same old bullshyt. There are too many guys out there like you, afraid to TRUELY move on, find someone new, someone who treats you the way you deserve to be treated.


I'm disappointed in you bro.




PIMP

 

[christz]

this shyt always works out the SAME in EVERY case.

you get back with the girl, and everything is all good and you guys are happy and all lovey dovey. THEN (depending on how bad it was in the past) a few weeks later you guys will be RIGHT back in the same boat with her breaking up with you or you breaking up with her.

and "Teh cycle" will continue

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Dude, she said she needed "Space" - this means she is sexing another dude!!!! Did you do reconnaissance like I told you in the other thread?

She was horing with another guy and he tired of her easily and now she feels lonely and seeks your company!!! She does NOT want to see you because she desires you!!!! Don't be a fool and think such!!!

Maybe this dude had a small 2 inch penis and she now wants your massive 3.5 incher!!!! OHHH, how she misses your pile driver!!

 

[Jake-inator]

Originally posted by PRL
Maybe this dude had a small 2 inch penis and she now wants your massive 3.5 incher!!!! OHHH, how she misses your pile driver!!

:crackup: :crackup: :crackup: