Throwin' me for a loop...

[Walking Anomaly]

Hey all... Been a loooooonnnnggg time since I've posted, haven't really needed to, which is a good thing...

Anyway, I've had a few interests lately, and some "encounters," but I must admit this one is throwing a monkey wrench in my momentum and I just can't keep it quiet. So heres the scoop...:woo:

I'm 24, and out this past weekend on the 12th with the guys. This one interest begins texting me about 1 a.m. randomly (last time we spoke was the previous weekend, mostly bantering/flirting). Through these texts she is asking me where I am and what I am doing. After some flirting she sends me a provocative photo and basically starts "sexting" me and tells me to come home. I was having a great time with the guys and was playing a bit of hard to get, saying things like I might, or maybe I will etc.

After some more flirting, she sends ANOTHER. So at that point im on my way home as it is and I say screw it, lets go. She even gives me her address, because i didn't friggin' know it haha.:yes:

So all the while on the way home we're still texting and the next thing I'm almost there and soon after let her know Im outside. Then all of a sudden I get a new text from her saying "Y I'm asleep" - so after all that talk about coming home and even giving me her address, I'm wondering why she is sending this message. Very soon after that one though, she texts me to come in, so I do. I get in there, and she is not asleep, she has friggin people over! some of whom I know... awkward haha. So now they all definitely know It was me that she was texting all night, because why the hell would I show up there otherwise. In shock, I chill for a while...

All this time I am given the impression that she is home, alone, and naked (yes she texted me that). But I see this and it clicks. This girl was hanging out with these people, and all the while "sexting" me - And when or how did she take the photos she sent me? She must've already had them on there, which means who knows how long ago they were taken, or what other guy has gotten em.

So after a while of chilling, everyone starts to leave, and I'm guessing in order to keep herself from looking like a slut, she gets up, gives me a peck on the cheek and tells everyone there she is going to bed. I'm saying what the f*ck inside my head. So to not make it obvious, instead of pursuing her, I txt her saying "what was the deal with that?"

No response.... So I bounced.

How ridiculous is that story haha. I do have other interests, but I must say this one is particularly sexy, and I want to see how far i can take it. I was kinda put off when this whole thing happened so I have simply been ignoring her since, not communcating with her. I've heard nothing from her either.

I totally think I was NOT WRONG AT ALL for going, considering she told me several times to come, took time to convince me to do so, and even sent me her address!

I got this thought in my head... you guys think she just did it to see if I would actually come? like say as an ego boost?

I mean why tell me to come home if she knew that by me doing so I would see that she had people over?
Did she expect me NOT to come after all the blatant (to say the least) signals she was throwing my way?

I'd like some objective opinions, so shoot!

 

[pinhas]

Should have asked to use the restroom, waited for everyone to leave and did your thing.

This is a weird situation; I think she wanted you to come over, but was hoping you would have done something to stay.

Send her a ****ture.

 

[Walking Anomaly]

Should have asked to use the restroom, waited for everyone to leave and did your thing.

This is a weird situation; I think she wanted you to come over, but was hoping you would have done something to stay.

Send her a ****ture.

Haha, I actually did use the bathroom and chill in there for a bit when I sent her the text asking what the deal was, but after a few minutes when I got no response I just bounced. I mean, she had some of our mutual friends there as well as her brother too haha. Wasn't too sure about doing something to stay that night, or going after her when she went upstairs with family being there n whatnot hah

 

[Badmannaz]

she has a low-self esteem....did it to boost it..

 

[Walking Anomaly]

she has a low-self esteem....did it to boost it..

Thats what Im thinking, but I mean, she was laying it on pretty thick haha.

 

[MusicMan450]

Or maybe someone stole her phone, that's happened to me before when I thought a girl was displaying really high IL. It was just her friend messing around. When she got the phone back she was just like "what the hell?" and never texted me back.

 

[Walking Anomaly]

Or maybe someone stole her phone, that's happened to me before when I thought a girl was displaying really high IL. It was just her friend messing around. When she got the phone back she was just like "what the hell?" and never texted me back.

That was a possibility I considered too, but after that night I have hung out with others who were there, and they told me that she was indeed the one on her phone all night.

Regardless of how it came to be that night, I'm just wondering how I should go about keeping the game going.

Let me know all

 

[Walking Anomaly]

Haha been there, done that. Its a creepy feeling.

haha, indeed it is.

She's one of those chicks whose hot and knows she is, and has normally had men tending to her every need. Then we met and hit it off, and i do nothing of the sort.

She was actually buying ME drinks a couple weeks ago lol. Oddly, I felt uncomfortable about that

 

[Alanswer]

I got this thought in my head... you guys think she just did it to see if I would actually come? like say as an ego boost?

It seems so...

And also, the first time you went over her place and said she was sleeping (difficult to text when u're sleeping), what did you say to her afterwards? Nothing?
I would have been pissed off... And made her know I was.

Then, maybe you lack of info on the why this happened in the first place. Maybe someone you both know depicted you as a player or something and she played around with YOU.
What I mean is that there may be some private joke (at your expense) goin on... Be cautious from now on.

She even did it twice now... But you still wanna see her? Some dignity man...

YOU should play with her now. But won't be easy since she'll expect it. Just forget her and don't be nice with her anymore (don't be an ass either, just try to make fun of her.)

BUT DON'T pursue her anymore, you'll loose any value you have left in her eyes (and others since 'they' know).

She'll have to do real good to get you now. You'll have to reject her at least once.
The next time she tries (if she does), tell her to prepare herself, to meet you somewhere or something... And don't go.

And if something happens, keep on not caring and MAKE HER come to YOU. Never go somewhere she wants you to go again.

 

[neghitzbrah]

There's this chick who I had some chemistry with a few years back. Sent her a text, we texted back and forth. Then she called, we talked. Then she said we should chill again. Now this happened about 2 months ago before I read into this DJ stuff and went out trying to rid of my AFC days.

So she texts me saying she wants to chill but our schedules keep conflicting and there is no way I'm traveling an hour out of the city to meet up with her. Now she texts me at night asking what I'm doing and saying we should chill. I play with it but I don't stick my head out to schedule a time anymore. If she REALLY wanted to chill with me then she would make herself available.

This may not have been as bad as your situation, but all HBs are the same. Just that some are more drastic and crazier than others.

Definitely an ego boost. Listen to Alanswer, don't pursue her anymore because she totally fvcked with your head that night when all you wanted was to fvck her pvssy.

By the way, if she ever brings this up or whatever, act like it never happened. Don't have an argument with her and get all AFC.

 

[Walking Anomaly]

It seems so...

And also, the first time you went over her place and said she was sleeping (difficult to text when u're sleeping), what did you say to her afterwards? Nothing?
I would have been pissed off... And made her know I was.

Then, maybe you lack of info on the why this happened in the first place. Maybe someone you both know depicted you as a player or something and she played around with YOU.
What I mean is that there may be some private joke (at your expense) goin on... Be cautious from now on.

She even did it twice now... But you still wanna see her? Some dignity man...

YOU should play with her now. But won't be easy since she'll expect it. Just forget her and don't be nice with her anymore (don't be an ass either, just try to make fun of her.)

BUT DON'T pursue her anymore, you'll loose any value you have left in her eyes (and others since 'they' know).

She'll have to do real good to get you now. You'll have to reject her at least once.
The next time she tries (if she does), tell her to prepare herself, to meet you somewhere or something... And don't go.

And if something happens, keep on not caring and MAKE HER come to YOU. Never go somewhere she wants you to go again.

Hmm. I was thinking by my bouncing and ignoring her would send the message that what she did wasn't cool and I wasn't going to put up with it.

Its funny, because I had most of what you say worked out in my head already, just didn't want to accept it haha. It's something I've learned. Asking for advice is for when you ALREADY know the answer but don't want to come to terms with it.

Not sure what you mean by the statement that she did it twice?

This is the only time this has happened, it was all in one sitting. Not sure if maybe you misread. We haven't had enough meetings for such a situation to arise more than this one time.

As for there maybe being an inside joke, that I don't care about.

 

[Alanswer]

Ok, I thought she told you to come once and then told she was sleeping. And that she asked you to come a second time but this time she was with her friends... My bad.

It doesn't change the fact that she played you. But with less 'intensity' than I thought.

And of course you had the ideas I expressed in the back (or front...) of your mind already. Still, it's good to 'hear' them from someone else to add some weight to them.

 

[Walking Anomaly]

And of course you had the ideas I expressed in the back (or front...) of your mind already. Still, it's good to 'hear' them from someone else to add some weight to them.

Exactly bud. Thanks a lot

 

[Deadly_Ripped]

Haha, I actually did use the bathroom and chill in there for a bit when I sent her the text asking what the deal was, but after a few minutes when I got no response I just bounced.

So you didn't ask her directly... you texted her to ask her while you were in HER HOME. That's AFC man. You must've assumed she was just f-ing with you at that point and it showed by that extremely ball-less act.

I would have just chilled until it was only us two and then asked to use the bathroom or something. Either she'd make it clear -either subtly or explicitly - by the end of the night that she had no intention of me staying, or I'd stay.

I definitely would have brought up her sexts in a funny way early on in the night to see her reaction. If it's a party, she'd definitely have a moment where you could whisper something to her without people hearing. If she denied it to my face in a non-playful way, or acted like a BTICH, then I wouldn't have even stuck around to the end of the party.

 

[Walking Anomaly]

So you didn't ask her directly... you texted her to ask her while you were in HER HOME. That's AFC man. You must've assumed she was just f-ing with you at that point and it showed by that extremely ball-less act.

I would have just chilled until it was only us two and then asked to use the bathroom or something. Either she'd make it clear -either subtly or explicitly - by the end of the night that she had no intention of me staying, or I'd stay.

I definitely would have brought up her sexts in a funny way early on in the night to see her reaction. If it's a party, she'd definitely have a moment where you could whisper something to her without people hearing. If she denied it to my face in a non-playful way, or acted like a BTICH, then I wouldn't have even stuck around to the end of the party.

Hindsight is 20/20. I disagree with the afc comment. Thats just it, we wouldn't have ever been completely alone, unknown until I got there, this was at her parent's house and they along with her brother were there as well and I was not about to blow up her spot. Thats just manners... And at that point, seeing it was her parent's house and they were there, it was a pretty safe assumption that she was messing with me. Doubtful that she'd want to get busy while her parents are in the next room thinking "who is this strange kid plowing our daughter." She could have said something about it when she made me a drink or maybe whispered something in my ear when she gave me the peck. But her not doing so, to me, spoke volumes and I was not about to sit there like a chump waiting out on a limb for her response - I think that would've been afc.

Other than that, this is not a thread asking what I should've done, but what I should do now. Appreciate it.


I like this, didn't think this topic would get this many responses

 

[Walking Anomaly]

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