Through The Eyes Of A Natural -pt#2

[organizedconfusion]

excersize no#1-
-seeing natural attraction in the process-




the next time you talk to a casier girl, banker girl,waitress
whatever. have an 'open' body stance, relaxed and at first
make no eye contact and look at something else dosen't matter
what it is,as long as it's aways and not downwards (this presents
meekness) when she looks away, make sure she can see you stillout of the corner of her eye.

look directly at her face, her neckline, her lips, her chest,
her shoulders, basicly obviously 'check her out'.
watch for the little suble cues if any- flushing may be one of them,
just notice casualy without looking like a psyhco!

now , turn as if you are gonna do something and guess
what happens? she will do the exact same thing to you-
i can almost guarntee it.
she will check YOU out now... notice your reactions.

and notice now the interactions during communication.
hold eye contact a little longer, blink slowly, breath slower,
move slower even with a sexual undertone to it-
those are ALL sexual cues. And they know this...
it's all a part of the 'mating' dance as you would call it.

this excersize is just to let you 'see' the process of natural
attraction and to open your eyes to it.
it may seem awkward and unatural at first but keep at it,
until you are confident that you can see all the little cues.

this may work on that girl if not keep on doing this excersize
til you get one that responds. the trick is to create that attraction
response repeatingly, and by creating it more often
you kind of get a sense of knowing who will and won't respond to you in the future.this builds 'attraction intuition'.
where you 'know' the girl you approach will respond positivly
and you simply avoid the ones who don't.
the cool part about this is that it's soo subtle and it's playbed
on a different level , that even if things don't turn out the
way you want them to...there no real rejection, because theirs
no real acknowledgement of it until you say something to
escalate it.



excersize #2 is the conditioned response attraction-






choose a girl at work or school, she will be the target.
now everytime you see her, you will do the following-

*give her a 'faraway' look,as if you really can 'see' inside her
almost peircing her soul

*have a blank expression,with a hint of despair,mysteriousness
and sexual undertones

* walk past her, hold eye contact,focus on breathing slowly,walking and keeping the thought ' you are SOO MINE'
as you walk by her

*blink sleepily/bedroom eyes

* have an upright, 'open' body language,display the
upper chest and shoulders as a sign of strong sexuality/vitality

*if sitting , lean back and have legs open


gauge her response to you-

not all will respond, but the ones that do here is what to look for-

*a natural flushing
*giddyness
*faster breathing
*touching ,caressing of the hair
*a smile
*Basicly,any kind of cue that she is responding positivly

this excersize is to develop a conditioned
response of attraction, soon enough the next time she
see's you the reaction will become a condtioned response
and everytime she see's you know she WILL FEEL ATTRACTION.

what you are doing is 'sending out interest' signals
and conditioning her to feel those impulses everytime in your
presence.

eventually you want to proceed and escalate the situtation and
take things further.


excersize no#3-
the sexual social matrix- telegraphing attraction


this one if done correctly will definetly open your eyes to
girls sexual cues almost immediatly.

go to a popular hang out spot, either a bar or a club
where theirs a lounge or pool tables, anywhere that there
is a high density of girls and people just hanging out.
Clubs aren't that good because it's soo busy and theres
soo many things going on..theres still ways to do it in a
club , but thats later.

anyways heres the excersize.

walk in the place and hold eye contact with no one,
pretend you are like the terminator and you own the
place and you could care less about anyone.

you walk into a bar/club any place for that matter.
all eyes are on you , as you enter and as you leave.
people are scanning you all the time. it's just a fact.

walk past the people at the gates, don't smile, have
open body language,walk past the bar, walk past the tables
with girls, check out the scene, slowly make your way around the
place and hold keep the frame of mind that you are
the man and that you own this joint.
no, don't strut around like a penquin or rooster with your
chest in the air. just have confidence is all i am saying and keep it
that way. just casually 'scope out the scene' , don't check
girls out or anything.trust me. just act normal.
why?

if you made it all around the place and back to the bar..
EVERY GIRL HAS JUST CHECKED YOU OUT.
i can almost guarantee it, from the first moment you walked in
people are sizing you up in a fraction a second, making
quick and snap judgements of you.Of course it dosen't really
matter what people are thinking, all it is are natural
reactions..so get over it.
but be carefull, you project exactly what you will get,
you project arrogance or sleazyness it will repell people
instantly. Imagine Brad Pitt of whomever you model or
look up to and see yourself as that person more or less and
carry yourself like them- just 'borrow' their confidence.
this is no time for moral debates about 'pretending' or not
wanting to 'be fake' just do it sparky..
trust me.

anyways , now that you made it back to the bar or whatever
neutral zone you plan on chillin' at, order a drink and let the games begin...

what you basiclly did by scoping the joint and making your
presence known is that you conciously put yourself on
display for all the single and availible ladies out there.
They are now conciously aware of your presence
and more receptive to your cues (or repelled if you did it
incorrectly!)

now, at the bar or table-
casually sip on your drink , sit back and take notice
in the people around you , the girls, the music etc.
and begin to start noticing girls more and more slowly.
make eye contact with one of them , and gauge the
results with the signals you get from them.
not all will respond but focus on the ones that do.

be carefull with what you project and always assume that
you are being watched by other girls in the place.
once one hones in on you they are like vultures.
this is coming from the view point that you already
esblished a strong presence.
anyways, keep on making and breaking eye contact
while looking for cues- and be carefull of girlfriends
with jealous boyfriends. people know what that look means,
it's telegraphing interest.
Mystery said that it's always a mistake to come in
telegraphing interest or opening with seduction,
but that's only a stand point from opening without attraction
in the first place.When there is mutual attraction ,the
rules are a little more flexible.
just keep on doing this and learning how to look for subtle
cues of interest.

i have had many times where i have gotten soo good at
sending and recieving signals that i would intentionally
flake them off-just because i knew i captured their interests
and that i could've gotten them if i wanted to.
much like how a stunningly beautyfull girl would put herself on
display just to get attention from guys that drool all over her
and then her acting snotty or plain out snubbing them,
it's about power and gaining that validation.
anyways , thats another trip altogether.

this last excersize is to demonstrate that even in a crowded
loud bar you can create attraction from across the room
and being out of her immediate area. attraction is a powerfull
force that brings people together and if you know
how to read and see the cues naturally you will automaticlly
attract the people in your life that you are right for.
almost totally on a sub-concious level..but you have to
at first be concious to that it even exists....


the only thing i leave you all with is to follow your 'gut instincts'
on the chick...it's usually right on.

i'll be back in a few weeks for further updates on this subject-
depending on the level of interests and positive feedback...
i ain't gonna give out any free lunches.

i understand that not everyone will see eye to eye on this
subject, some might see it as fluff or plain out BS.
whoops!
your loss! i'll be at the ranks of Mystery , TD and doing my edition of Interviews with Dating gurus by then :crackup:


...i'll be out in the field if anyone is looking for me :cheer:

 

[tmpgstx]

I've pretty much mastered the body language interpretation (unconscious signals) and can identify with some of the things you speak of here (sometimes think i should work for the CIA -lol).

Sometimes it's really flattering providing the attraction is mutual. I think you make a good point about many DJs getting caught up with the verbal portion of things when really it is mostly non-verbal. If you can send a receive the messages through body language, you're light years ahead of most guys. Most girls have it mastered as they can be very subtle with their gestures.

One of my favorites is the quick glance back (completely turning around to look). It's done so quick and subtle you wonder did i really see what i just saw (when in effect you know you did)? Good stuff.

 

[The Juan and only]

great post organizedconfusion

Body language is a huge part of human communication and I think a lot of DJs/PUAs/etc don't even consider it.

Obviously becoming more confident mentally will automatically alter your body language in a positive way, however I still think guys should take notice of what they're saying with their bodies.

 

[SuPaF1y]

good sh*t but still know this stuff to bro suprise me with some new stuff i dont know! like some stuff on "indiffrent" or somthing.

 

[Duke]

I'm enjoying your posts. As you mentioned, these posts focus on stuff that isn't talked about often, but these are the things that happen when you're out in field. Nobody talks about it much, but it is nevertheless palpable.

Good stuff, man. Very fresh.

 

[Boner da Stoner]

Good post confucion

I use this stuff when I'm next to dance floor... I generally don't dance unless I'm with a group and not lone sarging. When I'm alone I like to watch and study people dancing, with my body signals I get girls coming up to me all the time and initiating conversations... Most of the time I forget that I am sending out signals when I want to be alone, I pick up on the girls quick glance and I give em the lookdown while they are dancing, they get jiggy with it and give me a quick show, I smile, and they come over to me.

Thought it only works in a social scene for me, when it comes down to one on one, I feel the need to speak, and that's where I **** up!

 

[SuPaF1y]

lately ive been really intrigued about being "INDIFFRENT" and how nuts it is. i noticed that:

with girls: you need attraction+indiffrence but i never tried it with guys.

now doing that sh*t with guys they allmost are in awe of you and look up to you all the time.

when you talk and are indiffrent you get a lot of respect real fast. i'd like to hear your opinion on it organizedconfusion because im sure your past that or far into it on your level. for me i just started toying with it a few days ago but its def a keeper for who i am as a person.

o yea. and what are your thoughts on moving slower then everyone else. that seems to add to the "greatness" factor. also i think i might have found a way to make people nevous and to make me appear tottaly calm with body language.

thoughts???

 

[brosnake]

Pleasantly surprised. Excellent content dude. I'm going to try these exercises this week.

 

[SuPaF1y]

lets see part#3 G.

 

[avrilishot]

I like the tips. Ill try them as soon as I go out.

 

[organizedconfusion]

'JEDI-MIND TRICK'

not only can body language , send & recvieve appropriate signals.
you can actually alter someones emotions completly with body language alone.
this is a phenomenon i stumbled upon on accident when working
at a book store. i would'nt talk to anyone and i'd gauge their
reactions to me BUT the unique thing i did was transfering my
emotions through unconcious mirroring.
i used the emotions, anger,sadness and anxiety just to
see if i could do it-being that those feelings are powerfull.


within a weeks time there i could completly alter the way people
felt around me. i noticed it was automatic and instantanious.
i also noticed that when i wasn't 'projecting' on some days
people would be in a state i may have projected the day before.
i basicly conditioned the people around me to feel like $hit
consistantly and then conciouslly pull myself out of state and
then control the situation once everyone was under a 'spell'.

i figured if i could completly alter my own emotions and thought
patterns i could influence people while not being influenced
myself and i could gain full control of a situation-ANY SITUATION-
not just with woman.

i want to be able to be at a point where anyplace anywhere
anytime in any situation i could conciouslly manipulate the
emotions and reactions from people automaticly and to my
advantage-this sounds like some kind of mind power jedi
knight $hit ..i know.

but all it is mastering your own emotions and then allowing it to
conciously manifest itself to unconciously influence others.

the truth about seduciton is that all you need to do is
allow yourself to become completly sexually attracted and
aroused right when you see her,thus (thus? how do i think i am? a freakin college professor?!) when becoming engaged during interactions everything will flow naturally... the body language, the suble cues, everything will come out on it's own without any effect.

much like when you get angry or sad...did you conciouslly
have to go through the motions? of course you didn't.
my only advice now is to just let those feelings arise,
the sexual excitement and energy when first visual
contact with a girl..no , don't oogle her...just let the
feelings arise and manifest itself naturally and the actions
take care of themselves.

sexual attraction, fear, sadness...all the emotions we feel
are right brain hemisphere functions.there are not conciouslly
controled, but by conciouslly thinking thoughts we can in
that way control them. the emotions itself are a reaction.

and you know what they say about emotions being
contagious? well it's true. if you are in an emotional
state and you talk to someone else , the feelings you are
feeling will most likely be telegraphed to the other person
automaticly.

now here is the good part, like i said before,
sexual attraction is a right brain function, emotions are
transferable, when the emotions are present all the other
little things that occompany it arise without effort ie;
the movements, the sublet cues,the right signals that
communicate that feeling without verbal expression
of any kind,therefore if one could master one's own
emotional responses one could communicate almost
completly on a totally different level-
on a level that uses exclusivly non-verbal communication.

could you imagine walking into a room full of people and
instantly command respect?

or walk into a packed club and have all the woman foaming
in their panties?

this is all possible only through non-verbal communication.
alot of people may already know this stuff...
but how many have mastered it?
i for one am working to master this area not only to conquer the
seduction scene,but to rule the world..
okay maybe not the world...maybe just Canada or something..
eh?!-



this next excersize may sound a little gay, but it invloves porn
so don't worry...
anyways.
this one is to boost your sexual energy and response.
almost like a work out for your libido.

get anything that wets your willy, gets you off,
gets the shuttle ready for take off, floats your boat,
tickles your fancy..
could be porn could be a cuccumber , who am i to judge..

anyways, get the right materials and get ready,
i'll use porn for example...say..a playboy mag.

now, all you do now is allow yourself to become aroused
natrually and on your own. just enjoy the process
of being aroused and horny , don't wack it or anything-
thats not the point of this excersize.
the point of this excersize is to work out the arousal
muslces and building a tree trunk like anchoring
state so that the next time you see a girl you are
attracted to , this same feelings arise automaticlly
and those feelings thus get transfered.
and what do we all already know?
girls are emotional creatures, you trigger those intense
emotions of attractions,sexual arousal,excitement, you are
in!

plus the more in a sexual state you are in the more readily
availble that state is to be accessed and utilized.
in time and with active excersize you become more and more
and more into a sexual being and that energy becomes
a part that you radiate and gets transfered automaticlly on
it's own.

a sexually aware man is universally attractive to ALL woman.
except lesbos of course-
when you are in a consistant sexualized state you automaticlly
attract poeple to you that are also sexually aware.
ie;nerds attract nerds, jocks attract other jocks,sex freaks
attract other sex freaks..same phenomenon here.



why is this soo important?
because unlike pick up techniques and routines,
this technique really does guarentees you results
almost everytime and without effort. because it's not
about what you say or do, it's about who you are as a
person and by developing the correct mindset and
personality traits as well as the correct emotional
states...you can most likely attract anyone , anyplace
anytime..within reason of course. and it all happens
almost naturally on it's own.

you have indeed become..
a natural seducer.



imagine the power of this scanario...

you walk into a crowded bar.
you walk past the crowds of people,making your way
to the bar. you order a drink and from the corner of your
eye you see a georgeous red head, you see her,
she dosen't see you , you look at her she blinks,
she looks up, you smile and so does she.
she tosses her hair and she turns around,
and so do you , you feel an urge to look back and
your eyes meet again. she looks down and looks back
up , slowly blinks and flushes,she smiles and turns
around. you know the cues, so you make your way over
right next to her, but you say nothing...
you just stand right next to her totally relaxed and
unhurried... your eyes meet again. this time you go up
right next to her and smile again..
you try to get a word in but it's far too loud.
finally you give her the ,'lets get out here' look.
she follow you to a more quiet place in the bar so you
to can chit chat and the rest is history....

of course this is the perfect scanario-
but it is all possible through mutual attraction in the beggining.
there is no creating it through pick up lines or techniques
or value building. all it is an initial interest, folowed by
almost a ritualistic transaction that takes place
and there you have it!

unfortunantly building ones intuition and emotional mastery/receptivity is not something that one decides to
just wake up and 'learn' one day and i understand if these
concepts may be compelty far out and eccentric for
peoples tastes..it's all good.theres always DYD and pick up lines to learn.

 

[organizedconfusion]

a shortcut to 'indifference'

Originally posted by SuPaF1y
good sh*t but still know this stuff to bro suprise me with some new stuff i dont know! like some stuff on "indiffrent" or somthing.

watch the movies-
SPARTAN-val kilmer
FIGHT CLUB-brad pitt
OCEANS 11- brad pitt

watch these movies and study their characteristics
and behaviors of the main characters.
focus on but don't try to conciouslly take note of anything,
just focus intently while keeping your mind free
to interpret the meanings anyway your psyche chooses to-
*their facial expressions
*their body language
*the way they respond to people

watch these movies over and over and over and
over again.like i said , put a strong emphasis on their
overall characteristics and behaviors.

now imagine yourself behaving in the same way...
don't mimic or copy in anyway, thats just unoriginal...
but instead, actually see yourself in your mind acting and
behaving in the manner that you have been modeling.

continually see yourself this way,over and over and over again...
over and over and over and over again..
over and over and over again. no , not all day..but say
before bed and upon awakening for about ten minutes or so.
just keep doing it.

i could tell you things to do like slow gesters and struting around
with your nose in the air and 'act' indffiferent..
or i can show you how to change yourself at the source
and actually 'become' indifferent genuinly...


this technique can be applied to any type of personality trait
one desires


..just remember, indifference and the coquette is my natural
archtype it's not to say that everyone is the same.
you may be a charmer or rake, who knows... it's best to
discover your own natural seducer type.
(the art of seduction by robert greene)

 

[SuPaF1y]

what i have been wondering for a few weeks now bro is:


there seem to be 2 mindsets.

INDIFFRENCE - best with guys

and

the ATTRACTION MINDSET - for the ladies

but i cant seem to PUT both togeather at the same time.

when you are indiffrent, you really dont care about if a girl is flicking her hair or whatever.

and the attraction mindset, when you see her flick her hair you do things that make her go more crazy over you but you cant seem to be indiffrent with "guys".

u see what im saying?

i want it to be on the same level.

or should i just keep the attraction mindset on and say F*** what the guys think because when you have that mindset on they dont really see were you are coming from because 90% of them dont even know how to attract girls.

thats my biggest question.

 

[SuPaF1y]

basically what im saying, is when i am in the ATTRACTION state, i literly can get any girl and every girl to fall head over heals for me, this includes moms teens older ladies whatever. but in this state i feel very suseptable to other guys.

 

[organizedconfusion]

Originally posted by SuPaF1y
basically what im saying, is when i am in the ATTRACTION state, i literly can get any girl and every girl to fall head over heals for me, this includes moms teens older ladies whatever. but in this state i feel very suseptable to other guys.

thats a mighty bold statement and i highly doubt it's validness.
not saying that it isn't possible,it is..but i just don't think that
you are at that level.

also- i don't deal with 'queer issues'... sorry



just fvcking with you-
please elaborate
..if you feel as if it puts you into a position for other
guys to 'hate' on you, who cares?
you are focusing way too much energy into it...
there will always be 'haters' lurking around.
if you can't beat them..have them killed...JK
if you can't beat them..

ignore them.

i am sure that there will be plenty of guys hating on me
for gaming on girls in front of them that they themselves
wanted,but i could care less. i am in it for me and my own
pleasures, i really don't care about stiring the waters around me.

it sounds to me what you are trying to say is that when you
are in a 'attraction state' you are intimidated by other guys?
if so..why?

 

[SuPaF1y]

well lets see... when im in the attraction state, i basically CONNECT with all the girls on the attraction level but, it goes unseen to most people. I am also very quiet and tomyself in this state in a way. so when guys see me in this state, i get mistaken for shy timed ect ect ect like u were talking about in that last post.

basically what im saying, is when i am in the ATTRACTION state, i literly can get any girl and every girl to fall head over heals for me, this includes moms teens older ladies whatever. but in this state i feel very suseptable to other guys.

thats 100% true bro, somtimes its more intense then others but alltogeather its true. I dont bring it up a notch though i leave it at this level.

"up a notch" by i mean saying:

like i KNOW this girl is just going nuts over me and like, slowly walking over to her, looking in her eyes and telling her sweet nothings till she cums her pants. because i havent found a girl thats worthy of that yet yea i know im terrible i mess with girls heads... but anyways

i stay in that mode when guys try to talk to me im so into my head and stuff that they prob just think like "what the **** is up with him" and it doesnt seem natural talking to guys in this state. trying to figure out a way to get around this while keeping that attraction level at the way it is.

thoughts??

 

[organizedconfusion]

Originally posted by SuPaF1y
what i have been wondering for a few weeks now bro is:


there seem to be 2 mindsets.

INDIFFRENCE - best with guys

and

the ATTRACTION MINDSET - for the ladies

but i cant seem to PUT both togeather at the same time.

when you are indiffrent, you really dont care about if a girl is flicking her hair or whatever.

and the attraction mindset, when you see her flick her hair you do things that make her go more crazy over you but you cant seem to be indiffrent with "guys".

u see what im saying?

i want it to be on the same level.

or should i just keep the attraction mindset on and say F*** what the guys think because when you have that mindset on they dont really see were you are coming from because 90% of them dont even know how to attract girls.

thats my biggest question.

the problem is that you are tyring to figure this out logically..
you MUST use your imagination to 'see' the desired results
first. in your case,
how would it look like?
being indifferent while creating attaction at the same time.
you actually have to 'see it' first in order to get a feeling of it
physically. it seems like you are trying to figure it out 'backwards'
through the actions first at the core,second. when you
go directly to it's source it's easier to change the desired outcome.
the source being -inside you- the outcome being the actions.

indifference + attraction?
watch those movies and model their behaviors.
i could explain it to you but it won't be as effective as you
actually 'seeing it'.

somewhere along the lines of childhood, we developed
character traits and behavior patterns through modeling and
mirroring of the people around us and the images we see on tv..
i am showing you the same way to develop these skills throught
the same process.

trust me-i could tell you the things to do so you can 'cover it up'
or 'fake it' for now, or i can acutually show you how to become
that way and actually develop the traits that you are looking for
and are after.

this is the way-
write down your questions- then don't think about them til later
watch those movies
always keep how you 'see' yourself in your mind as
already possessing those traits (indifference/attraction)

why do you concern yourself with what guys think anyways?

 

[SuPaF1y]

"being indifferent while creating attaction at the same time.
you actually have to 'see it' first in order to get a feeling of it
physically. it seems like you are trying to figure it out 'backwards'
through the actions first at the core,second. when you
go directly to it's source it's easier to change the desired outcome."

I love the way you think!

you can put into words what i cant, and you have a way of putting down on paper feelings and ideas. thats truly a gift.

and as for caring what guys think, again im going for that thing i told you about earlier for: every and any situation im in im allways on top and the guys want to be me and girls want to be with me.

and everyone is in awe and respects me all the time.

your right about thinking logically though. i do that a lot. so basically what ill try to do now is SEE what i THINK would happen if i was indiffrent and attraction state at the same time. and do it that way insted of thinking on HOW to get that way.

good **** man i really enjoy your thoughts, and like i said you have a gift. but goahead and tell me those coverup things anyways, i'd like to use them untill i am at peace with this inside myself

thanks again bro

 

[Boner da Stoner]

wow, you know your stuff confucion

I commend you on how well you can teach this to others... on my own I have it perfected, than I find somebody who "get's it" and they are naturals... I know a natural is not a natural, just somebody who has more experience and has the system programmed into his mind until they don't even notice it anymore(like breathing)

I consider myself to be a natural at it, since I can laugh and joke with people when I can read their emotions from my actions... I throw words in to contradict my movements... If they are smart, they get confused... IF they are not smart, they get angry... If they are still learning, they don't get put into the "see ya later" file, and we have fun and laugh about it.

There are people who body movements don't work on, they get nervous and are not attracted to my vibe. like you said jocks attract jocks(what is a jock female?) nerds attract nerds(is a fashion model a nerd?) goth attract goth(what is goth?) and they are repulsed by your behaviour. Like a slob can be anything he wants, unless what he wants warrants him not being a slob... being suicidal can get you what you want as well.

Body language is universal, but as always, there are negative associations made with certain forms... closed body language versus open body language... of course you know which one you want and you focus only on that aspect, you noted you want to take over canada... not everybody in canada uses open body language and enjoys seeing it... some people like to be *****es

Thank you for explaining something that has been burning in the back of my mind for a long time, now I can finally lay it down with the rest of my abilities...

MORE GIVE ME MORE!!!!

(nerds are nerds because their lives focus on a single subject... literotica.com has an excellent database of stories that get peoples juices flowing(pun intended)... there was an excellent how to for nerds about picking up women that I read a few years back that described this perfectly, check it out)

 

[organizedconfusion]

Originally posted by SuPaF1y
well lets see... when im in the attraction state, i basically CONNECT with all the girls on the attraction level but, it goes unseen to most people. I am also very quiet and tomyself in this state in a way. so when guys see me in this state, i get mistaken for shy timed ect ect ect like u were talking about in that last post.





i stay in that mode when guys try to talk to me im so into my head and stuff that they prob just think like "what the **** is up with him" and it doesnt seem natural talking to guys in this state. trying to figure out a way to get around this while keeping that attraction level at the way it is.

thoughts??

..simple.
don't talk to guys.

you say that you could be mistaken for being shy & timid?
how is this sub-communicated ? thats all you need to
overcome if thats the case.

you can actually just 'freeze out' other guys by completly
ignoring them and focusing all on the girls.

it sounds as if you have issues with gaining respect from guys
while at the same time wanting to have attraction with the girls(?)

why not just be 'one of the guys' while still sending out
signals at the same time. much like being in a group of
guys joking around while still making and breaking eye contact with girls while reading cues or IOI's at the same time.
then when the time is right, excuse yourself from the group
change your state, slow it down a little and then approach the
girl? this way you are being adaptive to the situation and not
soo 'in your mind'.

i fully understand that when you are in your mind you are
more aware of the little things and you are highly receptive and
projective to emotions,thus making it easier to deal with females and attraction...the only drawback is that it pulls you
out of the moment sometimes and you are almost like in your
own world. good for one on one seductions with a girl ,but
could be horrible when trying to deal with alot of poeple or
anything that requires quick thinking or fast reactions-
your such in a semi emotional state that it's hard to think straight.