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Don Juan
I've had stopped from logging to the forum for some time, partly to sleep on some of the feedback I've gotten here.
@Gamisch , I do realize that women seem to be thinking less about the nuclear family. I agree 100% with you, the woman I try to apply this to, have to have good mother potential. And this could be another topic on itself.
@Bingo-Player Points taken. In my case, I do want to have kids and simply do not want to wait too much time. Mind that this comes from someone with a low "bodycount" number. I've had my ups and downs, lost someone I cared a lot for during a bunch of years, and at this point (Im 30yo), it is just not that important.
@Kotaix Point taken. That is just a possibility, down the road, who really knows how many years I will be able to put up with this.
@ThisIsSparta Your experienced feedback as a father means a lot. I do agree with you on most points. Yes, this "plan" I referred to, it is theoretical in the sense that I haven't seen it through yet. However, this is something I've started doing a few months before my first post on the topic. Some days are harder than others, in the sense that some times I feel somewhat empty about it. But then again, other days I remind myself that I should know better.
I havent cross the Rubicon. Kid is not present yet, but I am trying. I do want to be present for my kid, at least for a few years where development is critical. I will say thought, I wont expect the kid to look after me. I do have a small piece of land in the middle of nowhere that I can go and just die there if things go wrong. And I think everyone should have a place like this, just in case.
Anyways. back to lurking in the forum. I will try to add more to this thread as things develop or more people comment on it
@Gamisch , I do realize that women seem to be thinking less about the nuclear family. I agree 100% with you, the woman I try to apply this to, have to have good mother potential. And this could be another topic on itself.
@Bingo-Player Points taken. In my case, I do want to have kids and simply do not want to wait too much time. Mind that this comes from someone with a low "bodycount" number. I've had my ups and downs, lost someone I cared a lot for during a bunch of years, and at this point (Im 30yo), it is just not that important.
@Kotaix Point taken. That is just a possibility, down the road, who really knows how many years I will be able to put up with this.
@ThisIsSparta Your experienced feedback as a father means a lot. I do agree with you on most points. Yes, this "plan" I referred to, it is theoretical in the sense that I haven't seen it through yet. However, this is something I've started doing a few months before my first post on the topic. Some days are harder than others, in the sense that some times I feel somewhat empty about it. But then again, other days I remind myself that I should know better.
I havent cross the Rubicon. Kid is not present yet, but I am trying. I do want to be present for my kid, at least for a few years where development is critical. I will say thought, I wont expect the kid to look after me. I do have a small piece of land in the middle of nowhere that I can go and just die there if things go wrong. And I think everyone should have a place like this, just in case.
Anyways. back to lurking in the forum. I will try to add more to this thread as things develop or more people comment on it