Three TENS I've DATED...The RESULTS and LESSONS

[blayde]

Since we're on the topic of looks, and you guys have strong opinions (that i respect either way), let me add my story of dating tens.

A bit of background: I'm a seven guy, tall, muscular, not handsome but fairly so. I see WHY you guys want to chase models but through experience can guarantee that it will end in waste of time:

1. Dayna....A ten but an airhead. Self involved. I actually dumped a much better woman to date her. SHe wasted literally 7 years of my life. Still won't settle down. Gets by on her looks. Guys buy her stuff all the time. She doesnt know how to give. She's a taker. Not exactly what youre looking for in a person.

2. Lynn. Very gorgeous girl but never developed her own personality. She actually was NICE but boring. Doesnt have to work at much. Gets by on looks. Cannot hold a conversation.

3. Yvetta. Is relatively available but absolutely cannot commit to anything. Always has three guys (in the wings). Takes phone calls during dinner.

SEE?????? What you get:
1. Someone who has so many options theyre NOT GOING to commit to you.
2. Self involved and usually boring. Never had to develop any character.
3. Basically is a prostitute. Uses men without realizing it.

4...YEAH, one good thing...you get an EGO BOOST. But it becomes pain in the end.
5. The fantasy that youre in her league.

 

[drixsa]

this seems to be yours and most people's problems

you rate a girl too much based upon looks (now dont i sound like a female )

but the truth is that looks fade the fastest and your post proves that point very well

to me some girls that are 7.5 maybe 7's , in my book, turn out to be 8.5 or 9's, to me b/c one i get to know them and am impressed by more than just what meets the eye it turns me on even more.

the truth is though that you need to be attracted(by looks)
to the girl in the first place or it will never work.

ive said it before and ill say it again:

"its come to a point where a girl is good looking, but i ask myself whatelse is there?"

 

[divega]

Following on the previous post.
I think attractiveness goes beyond than what is seen. There's also the way the other feels, smells, etc. You get where I'm going. When looks become the only defining factor than there could be a personal prob.
People's obsession with looks probably comes from the desire to be seen with a really hot girl, as a thing of ego boost. Compensation for a lack of self worth. And to whoever, to see your motivation, when you do envision yourself with this girl, who is present? Is it just you and the girl? or are there others there watching? And what is being done? And the resulting feelings associated? Do you feel more like a man or humbled? etc. Just some questions to discover true intents.

I think we all fall prey to the desire to make ourselves appear better than what we feel.

 

[cynetix]

Silly rabbit...

Not only is the entire "Let's generalize to all the hot looking women based on three of them" idea completely ludicrous and rationally unsound,

the attitude behind this kind of thinking, the desire to generalize, is counterproductive and ultimately unattractive.

Case in point:

5. The fantasy that youre in her league.

Obviously if one never believed that he was "in her league" to begin with, then he didn't deserve to be anywhere near her.

Human beings will treat you how they feel you deserve to be treated. Treatment from hot women are no exception. If you don't love yourself, others will not either.

cynetix

 

[Julian]

Blayde your posts suck.

 

[Paid Laid & Made]

Amen to that, stop wasting our time with your dillusional ratings scale.

 

[Ice Cold]

blayde 0 you just failed to attract either of them. Had they been attracted to you they'd behaved differently.

Change your tactics.

 

[MickoZ]

Keep yourself BUSY to be a DJ, to quote some tips I just read not long ago.

And they KEEP THEMSELF BUSY, some are maybe the DJ Playa of the chick, and ... what is wrong with that? You are just frustrated!

if you wanted 3 of those tens, it is normal that they also want more than one guy, that is the reality about most people. Do not be an hypocrite and do not be blind and stupid, the girls might talk about monogamy and stuff, but they are human just like us. Hard to accept because you have been educated that way, but thinking it is not the reality and treat it like it was something bad won't help any of you.