Thoughts on Co-Workers

[bachelor]

I wanted to know everyones opinion on this. I have been involved with co-workers in the past but alot of the time it didn't work out well if we broke up and were still working together. For example, I was dating this hot italian waitress (HB 9.5) when I worked at a restaurant in college. After we broke it off, she was a b**** to me at work. I have been attracted to a new co-worker (different job though) who is an HB 9.5 and we have been catching more interest at work. Today, she asked me what I was up to after work and I kind of blew her off. (not in a bad way I just told her I was busy after work.)

My question for you guys is what do you think about going after co-workers and if it's a good idea? I'm considering going after this one so I'll let you know what happens if I pursue it.

 

[tick37]

Don't date or fvck co-workers. It's not good for either of you.

 

[randalll]

i'd go for it if i were you.. whats the worst that could happen, she's *****y to you at work as well?

one of my mates met his gf through work

he got fired from the place too, and theyre still going out now, so nothing bad came of it.

 

[ShortyMac]

STAY AWAY.....end up with harrassment suits and everything else

 

[Tomatoes]

Dont dip your pen in the company ink



Thats the standard rule. Things get stressful or complicated.


Being a total hypocrite. As im sleeping with someone who works for the same company as i work in. They dont work in the same location as me thow so we dont see each other day to day. We only see each other out of work.

That kind of work relationship can work but i couldnt work with her all day and the fvck her in the evening.

 

[reset]

This is the conclusion, I have personally come to.

Dating at work puts you at a disadvantage. You are at the advantage when you are in control of your time, and can choose if you want to see the girl, or not.

At work, you lose that upper hand. For awhile it's exciting, but when and if things go "bad", in a traditional relationship, you would next the girl and that's it. Never see her again, and there's your power. But at work, she can and will get in your face and annoy the hell out of you. This makes it more likely that you'll fall for her games, and it makes it very hard to "move on".
Out of sight out of mind never comes into the picture, she'll be there, and she'll let you know she's there.

Now, much of my experience has come from co-workers, but this is what I think now. You're at an advantage if you're with girls you don't work with, and use girls you do work with, for practice.

 

[dannyegg4575]

girls at work are hard to go after because they too are afraid that things might not work out. there are too many things that will get in your way of a relationship. If things don't work out, she and you still have to see each other everyday. I hit on my coworkers all the time. I made a crucial mistake in my old job of dating one and paid dearly for it after the breakup. It takes years to build a great image in front of your other colleagues... it literally takes seconds to lose it by one person.

 

[AmIAFC]

It's not the harassment suit you should really worry about, because I've worked in a few jobs where the women allowed for some sexual flirtations from their male counterparts, and it was never really a big deal.

What should concern you is your possible susceptibility to oneitis in the event that your co-worker becomes disinterested after a while. I, myself, suffered through this after sleeping with a co-worker once, and she made work virtually unbearable for me.

 

[Blackmm]

How much do you value the job you work at? Are you a fry cook at Burger King or work as a middle manager in some prestigious firm? If its the former, who cares, you probably won't be there in 2-3 years anyway.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Dont dip your pen in the company ink



Thats the standard rule. Things get stressful or complicated.

Yes, no need to do that, specially if your pen still has plenty of ink!

 

[dopexile]

If you value your job, then don't go for it. If you have a McJob that is easy to hop between... then who cares. Bottom line.

 

[FoolsCause]

The workplace is a common place for people to hook-up. I don't know where it ranks versus bars and churches, but it's high on the list.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

I don't think I'll ever go after a co worker again. Like everyone above said, I dated a coworker, it was fun for about 1 month. It went to hell, she hates me now. I don't believe she really does, but she acts that way.

And thankfully my company is 24/7 so I escaped to the graveyard shift.

I couldn't work with her anymore. Apparently she is a player and dated another guy in the office before me. He was AFC and showed up drunk one night jealous she was talking to someone else @ work. LOL!

And reset is right, even though she stated she never wanted to see me again, she would still go out of her way to get my attention @ the office and make my day hell. The b!tch!

 

[reset]

And reset is right, even though she stated she never wanted to see me again, she would still go out of her way to get my attention @ the office and make my day hell. The b!tch!

Drama is a drug for girls. This is why you changed your shift (quickest route you saw to solving the problem--rational), and she kept her shift. As much as she "hated" you, the drama fulfilled a need for her.

The nutcase I worked with... for awhile there she did avoid me for a long time and never came into my office, while we were having our "battle of wills". The only time I saw her was after work, walking to our cars, because she made a point to park her car next to mine. I'm pretty sure that as I was leaving my office, she had a little place she concealed herself behind the trees... because it didn't matter if I left at 457, 500, 505--- whenever I would walk out I'd see her at the same time (and of course she would walk ahead of me, never turning around, because of course she couldn't see me).

During the time she never came into my office, I saw her a few times... when my car was in the shop and I had borrowed my Dad's. She had to come in quick to make sure I was still there. Didn't say anything, just popped her head in to make sure I was still there and left.

Man, I'm glad I made it through those months. One day she was walking with another co-worker, passed me, and said to the other person (so as I would hear) "yeah I turned in my two week notice today" and it felt as if the governor had just given me a pardon.

But.... as far as being a bytch, the thing here is to learn. And maybe you won't be in situations like this again. Then you'll find less reasons to say "that bytch!". You'll see it coming and know what to do before-hand.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

Drama is a drug for girls. This is why you changed your shift (quickest route you saw to solving the problem--rational), and she kept her shift. As much as she "hated" you, the drama fulfilled a need for her.

The nutcase I worked with... for awhile there she did avoid me for a long time and never came into my office, while we were having our "battle of wills". The only time I saw her was after work, walking to our cars, because she made a point to park her car next to mine. I'm pretty sure that as I was leaving my office, she had a little place she concealed herself behind the trees... because it didn't matter if I left at 457, 500, 505--- whenever I would walk out I'd see her at the same time (and of course she would walk ahead of me, never turning around, because of course she couldn't see me).

During the time she never came into my office, I saw her a few times... when my car was in the shop and I had borrowed my Dad's. She had to come in quick to make sure I was still there. Didn't say anything, just popped her head in to make sure I was still there and left.

Man, I'm glad I made it through those months.

But.... as far as being a bytch, the thing here is to learn. And maybe you won't be in situations like this again. Then you'll find less reasons to say "that bytch!". You'll see it coming and know what to do before-hand.

Well I was a fukking prick too and I deserved what I got. I didn't cheat ON the girl from work, I cheated WITH her, remember? And then my ex got in her face after we were leaving my place that day. Even though I had been trying to get rid of my ex forever and my ex knew it. But I kept being AFC and let her back around.

It was bad, plus the girl from work just got divorced from a cheating hubby. She must think I am a scumbag lol.

I tried to play it like I had already broken up with my ex and she was stalking me which wasn't really true. I don't think work girl bought it.

But, at least she served her purpose and got rid of my ex forever and I am free again.

 

[reset]

Good, stay free, lol. Keep listening to Francisco and that magic word, "QUALIFY".

 

[My Name is Nobody]

Good, stay free, lol. Keep listening to Francisco and that magic word, "QUALIFY".

yeah, plus work girl is on the rebound in the worse possible way. Horrible marriage. She wasted her youth on some jerk husband who treated her like crap.

She wouldn't have a made a good girlfriend. In fact, I would probably be on here right now asking how to get rid of the crazy, clingy divorcee that I work with.

 

[reset]

yeah, plus work girl is on the rebound in the worse possible way. Horrible marriage. She wasted her youth on some jerk husband who treated her like crap.

She wouldn't have a made a good girlfriend. In fact, I would probably be on here right now asking how to get rid of the crazy, clingy divorcee that I work with.

Yeah, probably. The girl I'm speaking of was on the rebound as well... it's like she had me lined up. The guy dumped her, then BOOM! "hey reset we've never really talked before at work, but now I'm going to start sending you emails every day and coming down to say hi then calling you if you ignore me and ask why you didn't say hi back".

Invasion of the body-snatchers.

But, again, I had no clue what was going on. No so suave.

Think of all the great learning experiences you've had dude! You had a nice crash-course educational session there, and unlike math skills, you're not likely to forget these lessons, lol.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

Yeah, probably. The girl I'm speaking of was on the rebound as well... it's like she had me lined up. The guy dumped her, then BOOM! "hey reset we've never really talked before at work, but now I'm going to start sending you emails every day and coming down to say hi then calling you if you ignore me and ask why you didn't say hi back".

Invasion of the body-snatchers.

But, again, I had no clue what was going on. No so suave.

Think of all the great learning experiences you've had dude! You had a nice crash-course educational session there, and unlike math skills, you're not likely to forget these lessons, lol.

Sure, lesson learned. So what would we do if work hired a new HB9 and she starts showing us interest? Just ignore her right? LOL sure...

 

[reset]

Big picture, no rush.

Self-control. Let the other guys jump all over her. HB9 does not equal "special". You're surrounded by HB9s (go with me here). You enjoy a hot chick as much as the next guy but you're past the point of it having any major effect on you, either way. If you see her, that's cool, if not, that's cool too. Hell, for you to really get worked up, she'd have to do a lot of qualifying herself to you. She'd really have to show you that she's worth something, and she'd have to take a personal interest in you. She done that yet?

That is not the mindset of 99% of the guys in your office.