Yes, I will answer this, Blitz. Actually, I attempted to do that in my previous post but I guess I failed to make it clear.
First, I want you to consider the spontaneity and hoopla in the context of the woman already giving you good "signals' or "vibes." In this context, she is already attracted to you for whatever reason. If she is giving you the signal or feel that the feeling is right to kiss her, I say "don't ask for the kiss. "Just go for it." The signals she provides or the good vibes that you are receiving from the chic will be enough.
Asking tarnishes the romance of that first kiss more times than not. She knows it's coming and it not as natural as just reaching over and allowing it to happen. There is a lot to gain by taking control of the situation and taking the initiative. Your initial sexual impression is key for establishing long term sexual appeal.
Now, in no way I am implying that this is the case 100% of the time but I believe a man must treat it as if so.
Women just don't want to feel safe around us in that way. They don't want
us to be nice in that way. They are more attracted to the man who goes after what he wants and knows how to handle a "no." How many times have you heard the phrase "a woman likes a man who takes charge?" That phrase isn't a myth. Women digs a man who goes for what he wants.
What would I do in the situation with the fat chic? Well, first, I have never been attracted to fat chics but I would probably have let her kiss me for a second to save face then back off and tell her that I didn't feel for her in that way.
If I am attracted to her and she asks me for a kiss, then that would have changed nothing. I would probably still be attracted to her after she asked. I am very much like most men, into physical attraction and every thing else is a bonus. I don't need a woman to take charge, make me feel protected, radiate power and wealth, and all of that other stuff chics are attracted to in men. I will satisfy those needs within myself. Unfortunately, this does not work the same way with women.
By asking, you tarnish the mood, you seem unsure of yourself (are you afraid of her rejecting you?), you seem less sexually aggressive and spontaneous ( lacking traits most women admire in men). and you become more "sexually safe/ less sexually exciting" in her presence.
Sexually safe=short cut to friend zone.
Don't work against the spark.
Now, of course there are exceptions to this. I am sure that most guys know women whom this stuff simply do not apply to. Those women are the exception rather than the rule. Marry them.
Anyway, Blitz, it would be fine with me if it didn't make a difference but experience has shown me otherwise. If you are getting away with this consistently and can maintain a woman's sexual interest afterwards with similar "consideration" in other romantic settings, then by all means, continue it. But I must operate through the other route and encourage others to do also.
Blame it on the women, man.
First, I want you to consider the spontaneity and hoopla in the context of the woman already giving you good "signals' or "vibes." In this context, she is already attracted to you for whatever reason. If she is giving you the signal or feel that the feeling is right to kiss her, I say "don't ask for the kiss. "Just go for it." The signals she provides or the good vibes that you are receiving from the chic will be enough.
Asking tarnishes the romance of that first kiss more times than not. She knows it's coming and it not as natural as just reaching over and allowing it to happen. There is a lot to gain by taking control of the situation and taking the initiative. Your initial sexual impression is key for establishing long term sexual appeal.
Now, in no way I am implying that this is the case 100% of the time but I believe a man must treat it as if so.
Women just don't want to feel safe around us in that way. They don't want
us to be nice in that way. They are more attracted to the man who goes after what he wants and knows how to handle a "no." How many times have you heard the phrase "a woman likes a man who takes charge?" That phrase isn't a myth. Women digs a man who goes for what he wants.
What would I do in the situation with the fat chic? Well, first, I have never been attracted to fat chics but I would probably have let her kiss me for a second to save face then back off and tell her that I didn't feel for her in that way.
If I am attracted to her and she asks me for a kiss, then that would have changed nothing. I would probably still be attracted to her after she asked. I am very much like most men, into physical attraction and every thing else is a bonus. I don't need a woman to take charge, make me feel protected, radiate power and wealth, and all of that other stuff chics are attracted to in men. I will satisfy those needs within myself. Unfortunately, this does not work the same way with women.
By asking, you tarnish the mood, you seem unsure of yourself (are you afraid of her rejecting you?), you seem less sexually aggressive and spontaneous ( lacking traits most women admire in men). and you become more "sexually safe/ less sexually exciting" in her presence.
Sexually safe=short cut to friend zone.
Don't work against the spark.
Now, of course there are exceptions to this. I am sure that most guys know women whom this stuff simply do not apply to. Those women are the exception rather than the rule. Marry them.
Anyway, Blitz, it would be fine with me if it didn't make a difference but experience has shown me otherwise. If you are getting away with this consistently and can maintain a woman's sexual interest afterwards with similar "consideration" in other romantic settings, then by all means, continue it. But I must operate through the other route and encourage others to do also.
Blame it on the women, man.
