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This is gonna be about the last time I lose sleep over a chick who has proven herself unreliable.

This is the one that was on her last strike for standing me up. Called her back a couple weeks later and ended up going out/ sexing her a few times. Since she was warned she hasn't pulled any sh!t.

Until last night. She calls me up to see if I will meet her at a club a few blocks from my house. Told her I was meeting some of our other friends at another bar but if I got done early enough I would meet up with her.

So it gets close to closing time, and she starts texting me that she wants to meet up after the club closes. I told her to stop by my place when she gets done. This is about 1:50.

I'm walking home and she calls me, again saying she is going to stop by as soon as she's done. This is about 2:10.

I get home and kick back in front of the tube, wanting to go to sleep but thinking I was going to get laid. I'm getting tired, and my phone rings at 2:30. She says she is walking back to her car, blah, blah, and again confirms that she is headed to my place (a few blocks away).

So here I am ready to pass out, and my phone rings at 3:10. "Hey, I'm headed home, I'm following my friend, I'm pretty drunk"

Chick is drunk and instead of driving three blocks to my place she's driving 10 miles home.

I wanted to keep my cool but I couldn't help the sarcastic tone when I told her to have a good night and I would talk to her later. B!tch.

Sorry for the rant, but women really suck sometimes.
 

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backbreaker said:
she probably found and old friend and went and got some D!cik..
You are probably right.

You know my favorite saying "If she isn't fukking you, she's fukking SOMEONE". It's fine and all, but it really pisses me off when I have to work 7 days a week and I make special arrangements to stay up and someone ditches me like that. I mean, if a guy friend did that to me I would chew him a new one. It's just disrespectful.

It goes back to my post about how much sh!t you put up with from chicks you don't want a relationship with. It's my way of thinking that to a point it just part of the game. You gotta take it in stride. But this one is about a hair away from losing all privileges.

Eh, she's moving in a month anyway, who cares. Still pisses me off though.
 

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backbreaker said:
lol, and sometimes when you are fvcking her she is still fvcking someone :)
It's funny cause no matter how little you care about the girl you are always at least going to wonder what else is going on in her life.

I have to admit that although I know unequivocally that she's bad news and that I could never in a million years have a relationship with her I do have this weird attraction to her (mostly physical I suppose) and it does make me even more curious as to her bizarre actions.

The thing is with this chick I know a lot of her friends (male and female) and they don't give me any indication that they know of anyone else she's doing. Women are good at keeping secrets but I have some solid connections in the group who would tell me if they knew anything. I was at the first bar with all of our mutual friends and they were like "You wanna go to X to see your girlfriend" and they seemed to be only half kidding. I gave them a look and they said "oh, sorry, I mean FUKK buddy"

I'm too fukking analytical. Not enough plates going I guess. Wish I had a little more time to dig up some decent prospects....
 

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Oh yea, and from what she says she masturbates a lot (it's even listed as one of her favorite activities on her myspace, lol) and I know she fukks chicks too so who knows what she's up to when I'm not around.
 

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backbreaker said:
I think someone here said something about taking a blue pill, and once you take it you can't go back. you see everything in a new light.
No, that would be the red pill :D The blue pills are to get it up for your saggy old wife.

btw, nice signature.
 

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backbreaker said:
do what I do in thoose situtations.... go to sleep, expecting to wake up in the morning alone. I don't care if a woman is calling me 3 blocks from my house stopping for gas.. I will go to sleep, or attempt to go to sleep, thinking she isn't coming.. if she does, she does, great.. if not... it's not like I lost any sleep or anything

i couldn't complain about my ex GF.. it's not like i wasn't getting ass on the side either, and I am pretty sure she knew it. that relationship wasn't going to work
Nice mind set you have there! well said.:up:
 

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STR8UP ....

not to start ...would you really chew a mans A** for pulling that ...or are you just disappointed she did not show ? ?

I am pretty hard on chicks I wanna bang ...usually I don't really care if someone show's or not ..unless I want to get in her panties ...then I am pissed ....

just wondering ....

:rockon:
 

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If you mount the bull, knowing full-well its going to throw you, and its going to hurt; but ultimately you are going to be all right: then I say: Why not ride the bull?
 

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Metro3pilot said:
STR8UP ....

not to start ...would you really chew a mans A** for pulling that ...or are you just disappointed she did not show ? ?
No, that was just a figure of speech.

As a general rule I don't hang out with people who do that kind of sh!t. What really pisses me off though is the fact that I have a couple of people I deal with on a business level that feel that it's ok to tie up my time like that, and I have to bite my tongue most of the time cause I can't rock the boat.

If I set aside a time to do something, I expect to do it. Otherwise I could be doing about a thousand other things. Flaky people suck.
 

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MacDiddy said:
Whenever we acquire high expectations of people we get close to, it hurts bad when those expectations are not met. The trick is to live with no expectations from other people.... hey great if it pans out, but hey no sweat if it doesn't...
I'm not that kind of person. I hold myself to a high standard. I'm reliable, dependable, and honest. I know others can't necessarily be held to the same standard, but it irritates me when they don't even come close. Guess I need to figure out a way to get over it cause the world isn't going to change any time soon!
 

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WTF happened to backbreakers posts???????
 

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I understand what you're saying STR8UP ....

I get annoyed ..I'm pretty busy and someone calling saying they are on the way then not showing ...that pisses me off as well ......common courtesy is not that common these days....
I mean come on ...you can't make a 20 second phone call ..... don't give me that crap ..it's DISRESPECT plain and simple ......

I had a chick one time ..talk about big balls ..we were out and she was like ahh " I was supposed to go out with Brian tonight, Oh well I will just tell him something came up, sorry "..then she went on to tell me " how boys were so stupid all you have to do is laugh and they will forgive you " ...that irritated me beyond belief that she had such an disrespectful attitude ... well needless to say instead of taking that red flag as is ..... it was not long before she pulled that crap on me ..then she did not understand why I told her to go to hell ......

it shows you what we have to deal with on the front lines ....thses biyatches are ruthless ... now I don't let the crap bother me ..... stand me up ...within reason ..I understand things happen ...it's bye bye baby ..you had your chance

. Macdiddy has a good point . in the expectations thing and I find myself more annoyed and having higher expectations of chicks I wanna bang ... than say a long time friend where, I must just blow it off and not be bothered ....

solution drop the expectations and don't give too much to a chick untill she proves herself ...

sorry for the rant ...did not mean to hijack your thread ...just venting

:rockon:
 

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MacDiddy said:
Whenever we acquire high expectations of people we get close to, it hurts bad when those expectations are not met. The trick is to live with no expectations from other people.... hey great if it pans out, but hey no sweat if it doesn't...
This is one of life's hidden secrets, no expectations... :up:

Now before someone posts a cracked rebuttal, this doesn't mean believing that nothing will ever pan out. It just means don't put so much value on the hopes that someone will do something.

You have no control over that and basing your happiness on it is like playing the lottery in hopes that you will will. It would be great that you did but I bet you're still going to find a way to pay your rent regardless of whether you win or not.
 

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This is good advice something I learned a long time ago.

LoneSilver:up:

Francisco d'Anconia said:
This is one of life's hidden secrets, no expectations... :up:

Now before someone posts a cracked rebuttal, this doesn't mean believing that nothing will ever pan out. It just means don't put so much value on the hopes that someone will do something.

You have no control over that and basing your happiness on it is like playing the lottery in hopes that you will will. It would be great that you did but I bet you're still going to find a way to pay your rent regardless of whether you win or not.
 

If you want to talk, talk to your friends. If you want a girl to like you, listen to her, ask questions, and act like you are on the edge of your seat.

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And to make matters worse, this chick is the antithesis of what I would want in a g/f. She's pretty hot, yea, but she smokes, has a "habit" that just caused her to lose her job, and has some deep rooted psychological issues. For a chick like that to stand ME up....makes it all the more insulting.

Like she has anything to offer me other than what's between her legs....
 

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MacDiddy said:
This is where you start swallowing some humble pie and cross her off your to-do list.
Already done!

I won't say that I will never see her or fukk her again, but I can guarantee it will be on MY terms and I won't let myself get stood up again.
 

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grinder said:
If you mount the bull, knowing full-well its going to throw you, and its going to hurt; but ultimately you are going to be all right: then I say: Why not ride the bull?
I guess I need to explain this one.

Chicks like this (broken, yet fun things) are all over the place. As a DJ you are able to spot the red flags and, with some excellent advice from your DJ peers, are made aware of what a total pain in the a$$ women like this are and WILL BE in the future.

But, if you are a DJ with many options, other women to play with, then you can allow yourself some un-guilty pleasure in playing with these types. Why, because you wont get hurt because you are not focusing all your energy on this ONE.

Sounds like you may have lost your frame (a bit) and entered her world. Perhaps you allowed yourself to feel something for this total dead-end head-case because she is hot, and perhaps, you got nothing hotter on the back burner.

This is not AFC at all. An AFC would dive head-long into this chick’s world completely unknowingly. He would try to fix her, try to help her, end up molding himself to her world and rationalize to himself that somehow she needs him and really loves him because she fvcked him. An AFC would orbit around her in mindless agony at each new curve, disrespect, flakey behavior she throws to him. An AFC would end up ejected at high velocity from this chick’s world a broken and bitter man who blames her (maybe even all women) for his problems.

I’m not dissn you at all as we all can relate. Hell, even when you have other options, even fairly hot women, if the nut-job flake-queen is super hot, she can still fvck up your world.
 

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I'm with Grinder on this one. Especially knowing your skills ST8UP. However it seems like you've been running into some bad luck lately, maybe its time to take a break.
 

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MacAvoy said:
I'm with Grinder on this one. Especially knowing your skills ST8UP. However it seems like you've been running into some bad luck lately, maybe its time to take a break.
:yes:

I need a freakin break from life in general!

Maybe that's why I'm taking on all of these wacked out chicks. They at least take my mind off all of my other problems!

I'm already over this particular wack job. If she calls I'll take it as it comes, but she isn't getting any more calls from me. I don't need pu$$y that bad.
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

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