this works, trust me, I`m serious and if you are too, you should read it, you owe it to yourself
I was constantly afraid of being judged by the women or the people who see me do the approach. The general advice for it is to get out of your head and just go with the flow, take things as they arise aka "be present", you know it`s easy to recommend this, but without finding some training wheels first is hard to apply, yes, meditation is good, becoming physically active also helps and you should do these activities, but there`s something even better, you can`t fail with it, you don`t need to memorize stuff or do some "mind magic" on you or other people, making you feel that you somehow cheat and of course you won`t find this in a stupid ebook
are you ready? here is it
JUST TAKE DANCING LESSONS
well let`s see, twice a week for 2 hours for 3,5 months, you are put to be in close physical contact with at least 20 to 40 different women, you have to look into their eyes, you have to lead them, you must interact with them as a men to a woman, you are basically learning to escalate the natural a way and there`s no pressure from the environment
relax, 70% of people suck at dancing, 20% are average and 10% are really-really good, so most of the people there are going to suck it, or probably be even worse than you and nobody is watching, because everybody is busy not to step on the other persons toes
what I`ve learned there:
1. lots of women are not that good at dancing, they just shake their asses in the clubs and we are horny
2. women don`t bite and if you aren`t afraid to take the first step (and you can let go of the bull**** society given you), they are going to help you, they also want you to succeed, they want you to be a man
3. there`s no such thing as a perfect woman, a perfect 10, you think you like the big breasted tall blonde and are intimidated by her at the same time, just wait until you see her without makeup and smell her unwashed teeth, yes that happened a few times
4. what you see the first 5 seconds, is what you get, the girls that are *****y are actually single, frustrated and have more emotional issues than you do, only talk to them if you want to punish yourself, the male counterpart of them would be an overly fashion conscious, airheaded guy, who drives a car he can`t really afford, brags about everything and poses on fb like a prince, posts regularly which clubs does he attend on which day, these type of people belong together, let them have each other
5. you don`t need to be imposing, you don`t need a lions confidence, you can have simple clothes, you can be unshawen (just don`t smell) a girl can still like you, if you can be genuine, if you accept yourself first as you are, than just keep building on that
6. no matter wtf you do, people don`t see you and even if they look at you, they don`t care, they are busy enough doing their own stuff, just like you
you do this, you`ll actually have something to do with women socially, something that they like, no more butterflies in the stomach if you see someone in the mall or the street or the club
and how much did this cost me? 14 weeks and 20% of the purchase price of the cheapest iphone 4S, but if you think that saving up for an iphone to impress others with it, while you feel miserable is worth for you, just go with it, who am I to stop you
yes, a bonus lesson
7. nobody is going to stop you, ever, nobody cares that much about you, to be so envious of you or what other bs you are thinking before initiating anything, do wtf you want to do, do whatever makes you happy, just don`t break the law
if you still don`t like this "solution", let me remind you of Einstein`s quote, that the problem can`t be solved, by the same mind or way of thinking that has concieved it, this means, ask yourself, would a frustrated, nerdy guy do this? no?! than just do it
I was constantly afraid of being judged by the women or the people who see me do the approach. The general advice for it is to get out of your head and just go with the flow, take things as they arise aka "be present", you know it`s easy to recommend this, but without finding some training wheels first is hard to apply, yes, meditation is good, becoming physically active also helps and you should do these activities, but there`s something even better, you can`t fail with it, you don`t need to memorize stuff or do some "mind magic" on you or other people, making you feel that you somehow cheat and of course you won`t find this in a stupid ebook
are you ready? here is it
JUST TAKE DANCING LESSONS
well let`s see, twice a week for 2 hours for 3,5 months, you are put to be in close physical contact with at least 20 to 40 different women, you have to look into their eyes, you have to lead them, you must interact with them as a men to a woman, you are basically learning to escalate the natural a way and there`s no pressure from the environment
relax, 70% of people suck at dancing, 20% are average and 10% are really-really good, so most of the people there are going to suck it, or probably be even worse than you and nobody is watching, because everybody is busy not to step on the other persons toes
what I`ve learned there:
1. lots of women are not that good at dancing, they just shake their asses in the clubs and we are horny
2. women don`t bite and if you aren`t afraid to take the first step (and you can let go of the bull**** society given you), they are going to help you, they also want you to succeed, they want you to be a man
3. there`s no such thing as a perfect woman, a perfect 10, you think you like the big breasted tall blonde and are intimidated by her at the same time, just wait until you see her without makeup and smell her unwashed teeth, yes that happened a few times
4. what you see the first 5 seconds, is what you get, the girls that are *****y are actually single, frustrated and have more emotional issues than you do, only talk to them if you want to punish yourself, the male counterpart of them would be an overly fashion conscious, airheaded guy, who drives a car he can`t really afford, brags about everything and poses on fb like a prince, posts regularly which clubs does he attend on which day, these type of people belong together, let them have each other
5. you don`t need to be imposing, you don`t need a lions confidence, you can have simple clothes, you can be unshawen (just don`t smell) a girl can still like you, if you can be genuine, if you accept yourself first as you are, than just keep building on that
6. no matter wtf you do, people don`t see you and even if they look at you, they don`t care, they are busy enough doing their own stuff, just like you
you do this, you`ll actually have something to do with women socially, something that they like, no more butterflies in the stomach if you see someone in the mall or the street or the club
and how much did this cost me? 14 weeks and 20% of the purchase price of the cheapest iphone 4S, but if you think that saving up for an iphone to impress others with it, while you feel miserable is worth for you, just go with it, who am I to stop you
yes, a bonus lesson
7. nobody is going to stop you, ever, nobody cares that much about you, to be so envious of you or what other bs you are thinking before initiating anything, do wtf you want to do, do whatever makes you happy, just don`t break the law
if you still don`t like this "solution", let me remind you of Einstein`s quote, that the problem can`t be solved, by the same mind or way of thinking that has concieved it, this means, ask yourself, would a frustrated, nerdy guy do this? no?! than just do it
(applies mainly to solo dance)