This Thing Called Risk!!!!!
What’s up fellas!!!
I haven’t read many post lately but the ones I’ve read are a little disturbing. “Will she like me?” or “What can I say to make her like me?” or the biggest one “I’m just too scared to go up and ask her.” (Sighs) I really cant get mad at you guys because I was the same way. In fact my first post I think when I first got here was “How do I ask for her number?”. There is really nothing I can say to convince you to change your AFC ways. YOU have to change. On the contrary, I can enlighten you on why you should change.
First of all, one of the main reasons why a guy cant go up to a girl is because he is taking a RISK! When you think about risk, it’s something we take every day. When you drive to school, there is a risk you could get in a car-accident and actually get hurt. The stock market is a big risk. In the casinos people take risk. Going to a party is taking a risk, actually when you think about almost every thing you do in life is taking a risk. Some are bigger risk than others but it still is a risk. If you look risk up in the dictionary, it defines it as: possibility of loss or injury. Hmm, Possibility of loss or injury. People don’t like the possibility of losing. You know why? BECAUSE THERE IS THAT CHANCE THEY COULD POSSIBILY LOSE!!!! Guys don’t be afraid to fail, because if you do, you are already a failure.
You have to learn from you’re mistakes. This might be a bad analogy but I compare this to my cousin. He was playing some video game and got to the last stage. He had to fight the boss who he never beat or played against before. He had one weapon left and we told him to wait before he used it. He decided to use it now and took a risk on losing. So what happened? HE LOSS! Man he was mad too. But guess what, a couple of weeks later he was back to where he was and this time he waited to use the weapon and he won the game. He learned from his mistake, yea he was disappointed for awhile but he didn’t quit and throw away the game. He just learned from his mistake and tried it again. “Mishaps are like knives, that either serve us or cut us, as we grasp them by the blade or the handle”.- JAMES RUSSELL LOWELL:
Alright, this might be a bad comparison to life but you get the idea. What is life without risk, or obstacles? I’m aware you also need confidence but that’s what a risk is. You’re taking a big chance on something and you can come out big or you can lose. What if Martin Luther King didn’t take risk or anybody who ever has made a difference in this country? So, what does this have to do with talking to girls? Everything!! Don’t be afraid to lose my brothas!! Just have a little courage and take the risk and be done with it. Whether she likes you or not at least that’s a problem you won’t have to worry about any more.
This is a quote from Thomas Paine: “The harder the conflict, the more glorious the triumph. What we obtain too cheap, we esteem too lightly; it is dearness only that gives everything its value. I love the man that can smile in trouble, that can gather strength from distress and grow brave by reflection. 'Tis the business of little minds to shrink; but he whose heart is firm, and whose conscience approves his conduct, will pursue his principles unto death.”
Very true Mr. Paine.
Back in my AFC days, I was shy, timid, and underestimated myself. There were these group of girls who every day I would sit at the cafeteria. One day I just did it. I cant explain it or describe it. I didn’t do any special rituals or preparations, I just did it. What did I do, you ask? I walked over there and started talking to the girls. All three of them. I was so nervous and knew I could risk looking stupid but I really had nothing to lose because they probably thought I was a loser anyway. My palms were sweaty and my stomach in knots. But I did it. Turns out they were pretty cool and they told me they had a hard time getting boyfriends cause they were shy. After that day I changed tremendously. I started lifting weights, talking to girls, and the rest is history.
My advice to you AFC’s are to just do it!(Like Nike!). “The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs and comes short again and again, who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, and spends himself in a worthy cause, who at best knows achievement and who at the worst if he fails at least fails while daring greatly so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat.” -THEODORE ROOSEVELT: ALSO VERY GOOD MR. ROOSEVELT
As I close guys just remember, the bigger the risk the bigger the reward!! There is no way to escape it either. Go big or go home.
I’ll leave you with one more quote before I go.
B]“Only when we are no longer afraid do we begin to live.” – Dorothy Thompson[/B]
Later guys,
Jay 83
What’s up fellas!!!
I haven’t read many post lately but the ones I’ve read are a little disturbing. “Will she like me?” or “What can I say to make her like me?” or the biggest one “I’m just too scared to go up and ask her.” (Sighs) I really cant get mad at you guys because I was the same way. In fact my first post I think when I first got here was “How do I ask for her number?”. There is really nothing I can say to convince you to change your AFC ways. YOU have to change. On the contrary, I can enlighten you on why you should change.
First of all, one of the main reasons why a guy cant go up to a girl is because he is taking a RISK! When you think about risk, it’s something we take every day. When you drive to school, there is a risk you could get in a car-accident and actually get hurt. The stock market is a big risk. In the casinos people take risk. Going to a party is taking a risk, actually when you think about almost every thing you do in life is taking a risk. Some are bigger risk than others but it still is a risk. If you look risk up in the dictionary, it defines it as: possibility of loss or injury. Hmm, Possibility of loss or injury. People don’t like the possibility of losing. You know why? BECAUSE THERE IS THAT CHANCE THEY COULD POSSIBILY LOSE!!!! Guys don’t be afraid to fail, because if you do, you are already a failure.
You have to learn from you’re mistakes. This might be a bad analogy but I compare this to my cousin. He was playing some video game and got to the last stage. He had to fight the boss who he never beat or played against before. He had one weapon left and we told him to wait before he used it. He decided to use it now and took a risk on losing. So what happened? HE LOSS! Man he was mad too. But guess what, a couple of weeks later he was back to where he was and this time he waited to use the weapon and he won the game. He learned from his mistake, yea he was disappointed for awhile but he didn’t quit and throw away the game. He just learned from his mistake and tried it again. “Mishaps are like knives, that either serve us or cut us, as we grasp them by the blade or the handle”.- JAMES RUSSELL LOWELL:
Alright, this might be a bad comparison to life but you get the idea. What is life without risk, or obstacles? I’m aware you also need confidence but that’s what a risk is. You’re taking a big chance on something and you can come out big or you can lose. What if Martin Luther King didn’t take risk or anybody who ever has made a difference in this country? So, what does this have to do with talking to girls? Everything!! Don’t be afraid to lose my brothas!! Just have a little courage and take the risk and be done with it. Whether she likes you or not at least that’s a problem you won’t have to worry about any more.
This is a quote from Thomas Paine: “The harder the conflict, the more glorious the triumph. What we obtain too cheap, we esteem too lightly; it is dearness only that gives everything its value. I love the man that can smile in trouble, that can gather strength from distress and grow brave by reflection. 'Tis the business of little minds to shrink; but he whose heart is firm, and whose conscience approves his conduct, will pursue his principles unto death.”
Very true Mr. Paine.
Back in my AFC days, I was shy, timid, and underestimated myself. There were these group of girls who every day I would sit at the cafeteria. One day I just did it. I cant explain it or describe it. I didn’t do any special rituals or preparations, I just did it. What did I do, you ask? I walked over there and started talking to the girls. All three of them. I was so nervous and knew I could risk looking stupid but I really had nothing to lose because they probably thought I was a loser anyway. My palms were sweaty and my stomach in knots. But I did it. Turns out they were pretty cool and they told me they had a hard time getting boyfriends cause they were shy. After that day I changed tremendously. I started lifting weights, talking to girls, and the rest is history.
My advice to you AFC’s are to just do it!(Like Nike!). “The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs and comes short again and again, who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, and spends himself in a worthy cause, who at best knows achievement and who at the worst if he fails at least fails while daring greatly so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat.” -THEODORE ROOSEVELT: ALSO VERY GOOD MR. ROOSEVELT
As I close guys just remember, the bigger the risk the bigger the reward!! There is no way to escape it either. Go big or go home.
I’ll leave you with one more quote before I go.
B]“Only when we are no longer afraid do we begin to live.” – Dorothy Thompson[/B]
Later guys,
Jay 83
