This one will stump you

[jamesdevo]

Here's the deal: I'm in college and met this girl back in September. I really did not know her at all and asked her out the second day I saw her. She was hard to read and seemed interested. She took my phone number but she didn't give me hers (I didn't ask for it). She never called me back, and I then I ran into her the next week in class again. It was a little awkward at first, but in the months since then, I have been talking to her a lot more. I'm not sure if she's interested in me, but she's not giving me any negative signals either.

That brings me to my question. Do you think I should ask her out again? Or do you think I should avoid making it a possibly uncomfortable situation since I will have class with her next semester again, and it is a small class so there will be no way to avoid her or her friends who will probably hear about me asking her out again?

Thanks for the help.

 

[Julian]

You should ALWAYS get the girls #, that was your mistake.

 

[Ice Cold]

She doesn't like you. Stop talking to her.

Hit on some other girls.

 

[Chewy Bagel]

If she were interested she would mention how you two should have gotten together and suggest that you go out some time.

It shouldn't be awkward for her if she likes you.

The girl already knows you dig her.

 

[Big Pappy]

This one doesn't stump me.


Not everything is about getting the number. However, the number is seen by some as a "token" of the girls interest. It also lets the girl know that you are going to call for a reason. If she has any sense at all, she will know it's because you want to spend some time doing something with her.

You didn't ask for her number. She got yours. This puts her in the driver seat. This is the best kind of rejection, really. She gets your number, putting you at ease. Then months go by, she doesn't call. Now, she shouldn't have to say "Sorry, not interested." You should already know this.

She talks to you because you're in her class. Have you made her laugh? Have you ever put your hands on her in any non-threatening way (kino) ?

You should not ask this girl out, unless you want to hear her say no, or string you along some other way.

For right now, you need some social proof and some disdainment.
Fortunately, another girl would give you both.

Just my opinion, I could be wrong.

 

[penkitten]

find a stage girl.

stage girl = one to hang out with to make another chick a little jealous

 

[blienk]

Big Pappy hit this nail on the head. Girls will often fake "interest" (read: make idle conversation) because it is more friendly than ignoring you, which is probably what she wants to do.

 

[jamesdevo]

But...

But don't you think that she might not have called me back when I first asked her out because she had no clue who I was? Now she knows I'm not just some creep.

 

[OpenMind]

Here is my take on this: you never asked for her number.... so what i would do is go back and ask her for it.. if she gives it you call her up and set up a date... if she doesnt give you her # and or wont go out on a date with you, then take this rejection as a learning experience for the next chick.. rejection is the path to acceptance..... hopefully she will still be interested.. next time you will look back and not make the same mistake! good luck!

 

[Big Pappy]

Somewhere within this forum lies my best rejection, back when I was 15 or 16. Jennifer was her name. We worked together. I got her number of the employee phone list and asked her out to go roller skating or some other activity.

She told me that she really would like to, but with work, school and her extra-curricular activities, she would have to get my number and call me when things slowed down. Excited by this, I gave her my number, even did one of those "Yes" gestures!.

Naturally, she never called. I was so busy with my own life, I didn't even think about it until 3 or 4 months later! naturally, I took it well. I learned though. Never give your number to a girl. They just aren't action people, as a rule.

She probably didn't call you because she didn't have a clue who you were as a person. I can applaud the initiative on the approach, though.

Now that you're talking to her a bit, you want to ask her out again. No one on this site would tell you not to. You won't know unless you ask. I just wouldn't ask now. I would ask after some kino, flirtation and humor, along with some social proof.

Best of luck

 

[shyguy]

read the bible

read the bible and learn. this is afc stuff, stuff that still gets me, but im learning. if she didnt give you her number, that is a bad sign. almost every girl is not going to make the first call. just forget about her and move to the next chick. if she was really interested, she would have gave you her number and would have went out, or called you. a confidence booster is all that was. NEXT!

 

[jamesdevo]

Thanks everyone for the advice. It makes sense. So I'll see what happens.

If anyone else has any insight on my situation, it would be great if you could add to what has already been said.