This one has absolutely knocked me for six

[LuisGarcia10]

Been friends with this girl a few years, not amazingly close or anything, just used to chat to her in class and meet on nights out occaisonally etc.

Anyway, recently we've been talking a lot more and she's started phoning me saying I miss you, love you etc etc. She was also telling me to stay away from this girl she thinks I like, and has been coming on pretty strongly. You can tell she doesn't like me talking about her because when I mentioned she was going on holiday she replied with "so you know her every move eh?"

Thought I was in with her and I do actually like the girl as a person, kind of would like a relationship now with the right person and I thought someone I've known for a few years would be a reasonably good bet for someone who isn't going to mess me around.

We arranged to go to some gig together and she was going to come to mine a few weeks later (I live away at college) So everything seemed like it was going well.

Then it just happens we'll both be back at our hometown at the weekend and we arranged to meet up, go round town and watch the match. She then, totally out of the blue says, "I've got to be home by 8 because I have a date."

I mean WHAT THE ****.

I think I'm reasonably experienced with girls but this has just blown me away. She obviously likes me with all the calls, texts saying I love you, bit of jealousy with me and this other girl etc etc. Then she comes out with this?

I'm a bit gutted to be honest, I mean yes it's not the biggest deal and you move on and deal with it. The thing that topped the lot was when the cheeky ***** said "I'll phone him and see if I can meet him later, I'll see what I can do." I don't know who she thinks I am but I'm not taking her round town all day and watching the football with her when I could be with my mates so she can go and shag some **** later on.

Any advice, is this some extreme ****ing mind-game or something? Either way I'm sacking it off because the girl clearly is ****ing mental.

 

[Rhizzle]

WOW........i got nothin.

 

[cordoncordon]

Well I agree with you that if a girl I liked told me that before our date, any inclination or motive I would have had for making it a fun date would have flown out the window. I mean if she had a ton of interest in you romantically I just cant see her saying that.

You have 3 options in my mind:

1) just go out, have the best time you can, and ignore what she said
2) tell her ahead of time that you planned on this being a romantic date, so if she doesn't feel the same, it might be best to just cancel.
3) just cancel without telling her why and forget about her

To be honest, I don't know what is the best option right now. Let me think on that one.

 

[LuisGarcia10]

I've been trying to nicely tell her I'm not interested by saying "don't be late for your date for a football match, we'll just catch up another time." And she hasn't bitten, she keeps saying "he'll just have to deal with it etc etc."

I am so confused by this one, I wouldn't mind but 2 ****ing weeks have been wasted on this.

The only thing I can think of is this date is fictional and this is some sort of **** test or she's trying to get me to make a move quicker or something.

The stuff I've posted above is 100% true, there is no way I was reading those signals wrong, is there? It's not like she's trying to use me for anything, she has plenty of friends and plenty of AFC ex's who want her back that she could put through this ****- why choose me?

Pissed off to be honest.

 

[KneghtRyder]

i would be as confused as you are.

 

[LuisGarcia10]

I really hope someone can give me some sort of insight into this.

She has even been joking about us getting married before, going quite in depth about where we'd go for a honeymoon.

She text me to say happy birthday when I was out drinking and said "happy brithday, don't pull any mingers with your beer goggles on and don't forget about the wedding."

Which in my mind translates as "don't **** anyone."

Madness, I'm really annoyed about this.

 

[cordoncordon]

Honestly dude, I have no idea.

Only thing that comes to mind is maybe she thinks, because of somethings you have said to her, that you aren't all that serious about dating her? So this is her way of coming back at you the same way. Maybe if you were clear and concise about what you want, that you would like to try something on another level romantically, she might return in kind. I'm not saying you profess your everlasting love for her, but just say something like, "ya know, we've been friends for a few years now, and because of that I feel comfortable in telling you that I wouldn't mind trying something out romantically with us, and see where it leads. If it does go somewhere great, and if not, at least we know we tried and we will always be friends".

At this stage with being friends for so long I don't think that is going to hurt you.

I mean really at this stage what do you have to lose?

 

[Mex]

Are you sure she really had another date? Maybe she did this to make you jealous. I mean, all of the guys on this forum discuss how to confuse women. Maybe she is just trying to confuse you? I would not rule this out quite yet.

How you should go about finding out the truth I do not know. Maybe someone with more experience can help here.

 

[LuisGarcia10]

Are you sure she really had another date? Maybe she did this to make you jealous. I mean, all of the guys on this forum discuss how to confuse women. Maybe she is just trying to confuse you? I would not rule this out quite yet.

How you should go about finding out the truth I do not know. Maybe someone with more experience can help here.

I'm thinking like that.

Maybe it sounds like wishful thinking but honestly I can't think of any other reason. We were just a couple hours ago having a discussion about annoying girls who leads blokes on, surely she is not stupid enough to not believe the way she's been acting might possibly be leading me on?

 

[LuisGarcia10]

I can easily play her at her own game here and mention that I saw the girl she seemed to be jealous about last night and hung out with her for a bit. This is actually true by the way but I'd previously held it back because I didn't want another interrogation.

 

[LuisGarcia10]

Right.

I was saying I should have got this girl she doesnt like to come to this gig we're going to but can't now because I've got the tickets then get this:

"would you have wanted her to come?"

I mean you can see she doesn't like it, so why go on a date with someone else? Without bending over and sounding like an AFC I've given her all the signals she needs, asked her out to a gig and into town etc and yet she throws this out?

Honestly no clue here, pure madness.

 

[young_gun]

LOL... WOW!!!! What a confusing bytch. On one side, I can see her telling you she has a date to make you jealous (even though she really doesn't have one) so you'll commit to her or something. On the other side, I can see her being a really stupid sunshine girl (a girl who has to have every guy's attention, usually a big c0ck tease) and she's just dragging you - and this other dude - along for a ride.

Either way, she sounds like she's crazy. If you two were to ever get serious, she'd probably be the one who would go nuts if she found out you were talking to other girls (while at the same time she's off screwing around with other guys. Ha!) Probably best to stay away from this one.

 

[venser]

I know a girl who sounds alot like this girl you know. Ive known her pretty much all through high school and we were relatively good friends. hung out on occasion, talked alot. Hookedup once or twice but never went out.

Both of us would just date otehr people and yet continue to sorta be flirty with eachtoehr. i imagine that you are in the same situation. we also had the marriage jokes and whatnot. i used to be really confused about it but my theory on this is that shes really just treating you as a side dish.

I imagine that you dont have 100% of her attention but yet she likes you enough that she wants to keep stringing you along just in case things dont work out she always has a fallback back home.

with girls like this, i think you should treat her the way she treats you. shes just a fallback, a friends iwth benefits. when the weekend comes along, think about hanging out with your mates, shes welcome to go along but i really wouldnt reccommend any exclusivity.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

I think I'm reasonably experienced with girls but this has just blown me away. She obviously likes me with all the calls, texts saying I love you, bit of jealousy with me and this other girl etc etc. Then she comes out with this?

You definitely don't have enough experience with women if you've never encountered the run of the mill AW. Remember never ever judge a girl based on what she says, her words truly don't mean $hit!!! Instead watch what she does to get the real picture of what she's thinking.



PIMP

 

[Grizou]

My first thought when I read your post was alike some of the others "well, this girl tries to make you jealous, she ain't got a date at all!". This behaviour - in my opinion - would go for a rather shy and insecure girl. Judging by your previous post I cannot tell what kind she is, never mind anyway. If you want to find out what's behind it, just ask her some subtle questions about how her evening was, what they did. Either she told you the truth, in which case I'd say she sees you as a friend, or she may as well tell you a story like "ooh it was all boring / after all he isn't my type.." which rather suggests her story was fake or just a move to make you jealous.

 

[LuisGarcia10]

It's definately true.

She has said she can't stay out to watch the football because she won't make it back in time so she'll just come round town and go home earlier.

Oh well, next.

Luckily I'm going a club that night....

 

[Alkali]

Mind game for sure. Tell her she's not going.

Just straight up, "You're not going." (with a smile.)

1. Joke
2. Tickle
3. Kiss

And she'll be staying with you.

If not, go find yourself another girl and hold this over her head forever.

If she later says, "want to go hang out sometime?"

"Nah, you probably have a date lol, I'll pass."