This one girl keeps asking me if I'm gay.

[LDBaha]

This girl I believe she's into me, maybe not, she's kind of crazy and hyperactive and seriously, sparky in everyway. Very annoying Not that good looking. So I treat her with a lot of indifference .

Anyway, she knows I've been dating other girls she knows I check out girls all the time at college but she keeps asking me "just tell me are you gay?"

I take that as a compliment, she thinks of me in a sexual way and since i don't pay attention to her she wonders if I am gay (very self centered on her btw).

The thing is that she is doing this in front of other girls (other girls i'm interested in) and I obviously reply with "No, the fact that I'm not attracted to you doesn't mean I'm gay" but sometimes I reply with funny remarks like "Is that your way of hitting on me? cause it isn't working"

Idk if this is hurting my game with other girls i dont know if its helping either.

Should I get her to stop? Is there another way to get her to stop without having to fvck her? because she's a virgin and i really don't wanna go there...

 

[oasis123]

I feel that this is good because then you can drop in at some point to a hot girl, "do you think that you can turn a gay guy straight."
Girls always like the gay guy as theycan't get him (in your case you are attainable), as Pook said, "a girl saying you are gay is the greatest compliment you can receive."
You can get away with so much more sexual talk and touching.

 

[PeeGee]

Pook said, "a girl saying you are gay is the greatest compliment you can receive."

You're going to have to explain the logic behind this, or link Pook's post that explains this, as I can't imagine how that could be the case.

I can imagine how it might allow you to kino with reckless abandon but that's about all.

 

[LDBaha]

Well she isn't calling me gay, just asking.

I read that pook said it was the greatest compliment... lemme see

Pook:
"If girls ask if you are gay, remember the important thing: they are thinking of you in a sexual context. One of girls' favorite jokes is to tease a guy they like with another guy they like, pointing the two within a gay relationship. They just enjoy thinking about you in a sexual context. It is a victory."

 

[Michele l'Arcangelo]

Hell yeah, man! This is good stuff goin for you!

This is the ultimate compliment, especially since Pook said so.

First, she thinks you stick your genitals into a mans pooper, and vice-versa. How else is that not a compliment, man? She's so super seriously attracted to you!

I think you should be way super ****y and funny here. Turn it around on her. "Hey girl, your hairy chest and legs makes me wanna sex you up. It reminds me of Bruno, my old man-toy."

 

[LDBaha]

She is attracted to me, that's a fact, there are like a million IOI's and She blushes when I make eye contact. I think she's starting to hate me because I won't date her (i feel no attraction whatsoever)

I never said what Pook said was true, actually I never met pook or read his posts during his time or had a conversation with him, i was just looking for the post for the previous poster.

Hey that Hairy chest thing was pretty good. I'm going to use that, maybe change it up a bit.

 

[Mr CIDH]

I had a similar situation once.

I had a chick say "your gay, dont deny it" to me when I was talking with her and another chick I was more interested in. I had flirted with the first chick for a while, but didn't make a move because I was just trying women and thought I could do better but kept her around because women get more interested if theres one chick all over you.

I didn't expected this "you are gay" remark at all, it freaked me out thinking it would mess stuff up I replied: "You just say that because you are jealous and want other women to think I'm gay to have them out of the way". Was one of my first attempts thats made a chick b1tching like that into something positive.

 

[Mr CIDH]

You know how I know you're gay????

....Because you won't have sex with a virgin. You sir are the dumbest father****er on the planet. Please give her my number!! Enjoy AIDS!!

If a girl is no good, don't do it. I wouldn't **** a girl I don't like. She sounds dumb, and shes not good looking. Be picky. Theres enough other girls on the planet.

 

[Warrior74]

Why are you hanging around her? Leave her alone and avoid her. Christ on a crutch that's common sense innit?

 

[CaptainJ]

Why are you hanging around her? Leave her alone and avoid her. Christ on a crutch that's common sense innit?

He's using her for social proof, to get more girls. Which is a good idea.

 

[Warrior74]

He's using her for social proof, to get more girls. Which is a good idea.

Well apparently its not such a good idea if she's asking if he's gay in front of other girls is it? Again..common sense. She's not the social proof he needs, find someone else.

 

[horaholic]

Even if it DID come from Pook, I aint buying "are you gay?" is a compliment. In the right context, it could be a good thing. This means if she is obviously fvcking with you, to get you to prove you're not. Or if she says it flirtingly. Of course, if she's flirting, its good, no matter what she says, anyway.

If they actually THINK you're gay, thats not a good thing, unless they are the type of girls that dig metro-emo fags. It still says something about you, that you might want to address, though.

OP: the next time she does this in front of other chicks, take it as a cue to grab the hottest one and make out with her. Thats the perfect excuse! Just say "do gay guys kiss like this?" then makeout with her. Then kiss another one, until you kissed the whole group. Then say "Now ladies... am I gay?"

I have done this. NOt exactly, but I ended up at some really faggy metro bar with some crybaby faggot band playing, and I got back to my regular bar, and immediately grabbed this girl I know (whose bf happened to be at the metro bar, ironically) and made out with her, before she knew who I was. She gave me a WTF look, and I just said "Dude, I accidentally went to XOXO and I needed to prove Im not gay." she totally understood and laughed her ass off.

 

[Igetit!]

...she keeps asking me "just tell me are you gay?"

I take that as a compliment, she thinks of me in a sexual way and since i don't pay attention to her she wonders if I am gay (very self centered on her btw).

So she asks you if you're gay,and you take it as a compliment.
Wow. When I read threads like this,it makes me miss the good old days back when CapedCrusader was making 3000 threads a day. You say that you consider it a compliment because she sees you in a sexual way. That's flat out stupid. If you like the girl,her seeing you in a sexual way,that is,a homosexual way doesn't help if you want to date her. This'll be the first time I've ever said this on the forum,but you'd have a better chance of getting out of the friendzone than dating a girl who thinks you're gay.

The thing is that she is doing this in front of other girls (other girls i'm interested in) and I obviously reply with "No, the fact that I'm not attracted to you doesn't mean I'm gay" but sometimes I reply with funny remarks like "Is that your way of hitting on me? cause it isn't working"

I don't know why she's doing this in front of girls who you like. Is that the only time she does it? Also,those comebacks of yours of pretty decent,but as DonS said,beat her at her own game. You have to up the anty.

Idk if this is hurting my game with other girls i dont know if its helping either.

Well,it DEFINATELY isn't helping.

Should I get her to stop? Is there another way to get her to stop without having to fvck her? because she's a virgin and i really don't wanna go there...

I'm against blasting people,but sometimes you need to go over the top in order to put a stop to things.
The next time she tries to pull that crap on you,try to kiss her. It should go like this:

her:Are you finally going to admit to me that you're gay?
you:Alright,you win. I'm gay.

Then walk right up to her,face to face,and kiss her,or at least try to. And I don't care if there are a thousand other people around you two while this convo is going on. She's trying to make a fool out of you in front of everybody,so you embarrass her.....in front of everybody. And you do this each and every time she comes at you with this nonsense.

If you try to kiss her when she does this again,and while you're trying to kiss her,she turns her head and asks you what you're doing,the convo should go like this:

her:Hey, what are you doing??
you:Uh....what does it look like I'm doing? I'm trying to kiss you.
her:WHY?
you:What do you care? I don't have any feeling towards you. I'm gay,remember?

Then try to kiss her again. How much do you want to bet that this'll put an end to her trying to demean you?

 

[LDBaha]

Well here comes a major update:
I took it as a compliment because it was coming from a girl who was INTO me and I KNOW for sure that she did it because I won't go for her.
If it was coming from a diff girl on a serious note, I wouldn't take it as a compliment because well... it wouldn't be a compliment.

I've never been called gay (or asked about it?) from a girl on a serious note, much less fro ma girl i'm interested in.

A) She's REALLY into me and right now is annoying the crap out of me.

B) I do keep her around because she improves my game, i am not interested in her but I know now that another girl is now interested in me and it was all because of this chick. Not the gay thing but the fact that she's into me.

C) I won't have sex with this girl, she's annoying, kiddie-like, loud, skinny, small and ugly. For God's sake I'm not needy.

D) She only asked me three times and then stopped. And yes my reply was something ****y like "you're just jealous because I won't pay attention to you"

E) I think it was one of those weird ass **** tests from girls, that girl was ALL over me today, seriously it's been a while since a girl has been that into me xD.

F) I will try the kiss thing with the next girl that tries that **** on me

Or i could go all George Costanza on her "DO YOU WANNA HAVE SEX RIGHT NOW?. LETS GO! LETS GO IN THE BEDROOM I'LL PROVE IT!" ... "I'm not gay not that there's anything wrong with that!"

 

[Unbridled_Phoenix]

Most women are so PC that if they did actually think you were gay, they would not bring it up in a derogatory manner, you dig?

When they ask if you're gay, it's her saying "How come you're not hitting on me?" or "Haven't you picked up on my IOI's?" or "Don't you think I'm hot?" etc. etc.

 

[GuanYu]

I don't see how it's a bigtime IOI or compliment. More than likely they're just seeking attention. Majority of women don't ask "real manly men" if they're gay because she wouldn't have a reason to. He'd be acting too much like a real man and it'd be silly on her part. Women don't like to look foolish.

Also I know a lot of women that are bold and will ask dudes straight up if they're gay due to the signs. Most of the time, especially nowadays, it's obvious to tell who's a fag and who's not tho.

 

[LDBaha]

Well this girl is silly and loves to act silly... that might be why she asked!

 

[Unbridled_Phoenix]

GuanYu has a point, the only girl who ever asked me that was the one I referenced in the "Greatest Come-Ons Ever Missed" thread.

Never again will I ignore a tiny blonde with big t!ts because I have a gf!

 

[LDBaha]

Never again...

 

[TheBucketOfTruth]

Every time I've been asked this or been in a similar situation it was when the girl was very interested. At the bar a few weeks ago I opened these 2 women to score a free drink from them, and one of them asked me if I was gay because I could just go right up and talk to them. She basically said men my age (early 20s) don't know how to approach, so "are you gay?"

As a rule, see this line as an IOI. In other cases it can be an alpha female trying to call your manhood into question (or some combination of alpha behavior and interest).