Its true that in most marriages there is the ONE that is the "boss", but that’s why i say that from the MINUTE that you start seeing a girl, you need to make sure that she KNOWS that you will NOT take her **** and that YOU are the boss over here, NOT here, and that you will be willing to compromise etc for her, but you will NOT take any sh!t from her, she wants a child and you don’t? then u DONT have a child, simple. And if she cannot respect you enough to compromise with you, then she can go find herself some other AFC that will do whatever she wants him to do. If I want to hang out, then I will hang out, but I will automatically have a sence of responsibility that I have a wife etc, so obviously I will not go out as much if I have a family, but that decision will be made by me and ONLY me. And if I don’t want to NOT be able to go out a lot, then I will not get myself into a marriage to start off with. But one thing is sure, NO WOMAN WILL EVER BE MY "BOSS" IN A RELATIONSHIP.
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Partnership can work if BOTH people respect and value the other person as much as they value and respect themselves. Unfortunately, people have a tendency to marry people who aren't capable of that, so you end up with one person feeling taken advantage of and making a lot more of the sacrifices. And yes, frequently it's the man who ends up in that position simply because to most men it's easier to give in than listen to nagging, crying and drama. Since finding someone you can be an actual partner with is often very difficult, it's good to at least shoot for takers to pair up with givers or givers to pair up with other givers. What doesn't work at all is when you have two takers. Then you have one hellacious power struggle and both people always having to be in control.
).Its human/animal nature man.... It doesnt matter if its a man and a women, 2 men, 2 women, in a group of friends, even with ANIMALS.... You ALWAYS get the "boss" of the group or rather the "Alpha" of the group, the one that is normally the "leader" that the rest look up to (in a group of friends), so no matter what, 1 person will ALWAYS become "the boss" in a sence. In some cases not as much as other cases, but there will ALWAYS be the one that is more "dominating" who takes the roll of "the boss" in a sence. Its got alot to do with the persons personality weather that person will end up being "the boss" in the relationship or in the group of friends... My 2c
