This is what makes me feel incredibly hopeless in dating

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bigdave17

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Almost everybody I know met their girlfriend through natural/daily routine. What I mean is they met them through a friend, talked to them over and over and over again and then asked them out - or they met them at work, talked to them over and over again and asked them out. Nobody I know met their girl through an approach at a gym or a bar or a store because - let's be realistic- the difficulty curve there is absolutely incredible. Women - if they don't know you through a social referral - are generally not interested unless you're top 0.01% of men even if they're only a 6 or 7 themselves.


I don't know what to do. I have a good social circle but nobody in my social circle knows any cute quality girls for me, nobody at my job is dateable. How do I convince myself that this situation is not so immensely hopeless?
 

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So when we COMPLAIN about a position that we are not happy with it rewires the brain to accept and create more of this reality.

Youve been given the information. You need to spend time with females who want to fvck you and fvck them good. Work your way up.

Dont worry about wanting a relationship. Thats for a woman to choose.

Your head is all fbcked up from being sexless, jagging off to porn and complaining about something you can change like a bytch.
 

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You need to stop jerking off for a month, do no fap. Then also order yourself Чабрец and drink it with tea everyday, it will raise your testosterone, increase your sex drive, make you last longer and many other positive things. All in all you will naturally be seeking ways to meet ass and stop asking dumb questions.

Here are some numbers, get it ordered +7 (918) 453-24-80 www.kochkarev.ru +7 (877) 719-72-08, and stop jerking off.
 

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You need to stop jerking off for a month, do no fap. Then also order yourself Чабрец and drink it with tea everyday, it will raise your testosterone, increase your sex drive, make you last longer and many other positive things. All in all you will naturally be seeking ways to meet ass and stop asking dumb questions.

Here are some numbers, get it ordered +7 (918) 453-24-80 www.kochkarev.ru +7 (877) 719-72-08, and stop jerking off.

make me last longer? the last time i had sex 3 years ago, I could last an hour with no issues if I wanted to. Bigger sex drive? dude I can masturbate 8 times a day if I want. The last woman I was seeing, I sometimes had sex with her 10 times a week (and I would have done more, but she didn't want it any more). I also have very high testosterone naturally - I'm naturally very strong, gain muscle quickly, have real thick facial hair, real heavy lower jawline/chin (tell-tale signs of high test)


none of these things help give me easy dating opportunities with quality, fit, attractive women in their 20s
 

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Stop whining. Billions of people on Earth want shyte they will NEVER get.

Get over yourself. You aren't entitled to anything.

get it or don't get it.

Few people here care much any more since you FLING BACK any GENUINE advice with a bunch of nonsense of how AWESOME you are.

You're like a 50 y/o fat chick who's angry no young guys approach her.

F*ck off to Armenia with your godlike looks and money and pick up your unicorn and leave us alone.
 

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Yeah, how's that Armenia trip working out? Remember we want pictures of your blushing bride....
 

Tell her a little about yourself, but not too much. Maintain some mystery. Give her something to think about and wonder about when she's at home.

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Almost everybody I know met their girlfriend through natural/daily routine. What I mean is they met them through a friend, talked to them over and over and over again and then asked them out - or they met them at work, talked to them over and over again and asked them out. Nobody I know met their girl through an approach at a gym or a bar or a store because - let's be realistic- the difficulty curve there is absolutely incredible. Women - if they don't know you through a social referral - are generally not interested unless you're top 0.01% of men even if they're only a 6 or 7 themselves.


I don't know what to do. I have a good social circle but nobody in my social circle knows any cute quality girls for me, nobody at my job is dateable. How do I convince myself that this situation is not so immensely hopeless?
My cousin worked at a cafe and a fat guy talked with her and eventually they got married. A couple of male cousins met their wives inside the church (i.e. with I guess would be equivalent to a "religious bar"). I met my ex-wife from a cold-approach inside a grocery store/restaurant where my dad did the cold-approach himself and talked to the girl's mother and I eventually hit it off with the girl. My ex-gf before meeting my ex-wife was met online and we had an amazing intense 3-4 month relationship and I was in contact with her 9 month since the initial online contact and meeting.

Granted, you probably would not like any of the girl's I got involved with, but I can't deny that I felt so happy with at least the ex-gf that I'd go as far as to say that those 3-4 months built up so much memories that the year I dealt with her that I often look at that year as best year of the decade even if it didn't work out in the end.

Also, you are not talking about whether your "everybody you know" settled with their SO. If you have standards where you want a nice girl with no baggage, no kids, has a nice body, etc.. then I would like to know how are these people matched up. If their dating pool is limited to who is at work, or their daily routine, or friend of a friend, etc... then that sounds very limited and they didn't pick and choose and had to settle. You seem to have the same dating opportunity they do since you are meeting people through your friends.
 

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I love watching Dave's threads
 

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I love watching Dave's threads
I almost dont read them anymore.

Too much complaining not enough doing


Dave you just need to work on expanding your social circle. Its not that hard, make new friend.
 

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I almost dont read them anymore.

Too much complaining not enough doing


Dave you just need to work on expanding your social circle. Its not that hard, make new friend.
You haven't been here long enough in regards to reading them....
 

Men frequently err by talking too much. They often monopolize conversations, droning on and on about topics that bore women to tears. They think they're impressing the women when, in reality, they're depressing the women.

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Hes thinking hes gonna focus on "hot girls" and make her his wife.... He hasnt had sex in over 18 months.
He just said he hasn't had sex in 3 years
 

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Hes thinking hes gonna focus on "hot girls" and make her his wife.... He hasnt had sex in over 18 months.
Its just the attitude.
Im seriously wondering how he can be so successful work wise with his attitude.

Its not a winner mindset
 

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@bigdave17. Go for a walk in the park. Walk up to a lady you find that meets your requirements and chat. Or, go get some new clothes where attractive ladies shop. Ask them for their opinion and then ask if they'd like to get a drink with you. Of course, you will return the clothes later.

You need to stop focusing on it and let things happen. Stop harping on it and also lowering your expectations. The later is what's holding you back the most. You are your worst enemy.
 
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