DK1974 said:
Now I can't even seem to close on a 40 year old milf that is a 7.5 at best. .... I knew signing up for an online dating site would be a mistake. Nothing but women on there looking for an ego boost. Haha
I've been gone from the forum for years. Met with a friend for lunch last week and he mentioned some of my old posts. My attitudes towards women are probably not in the mainstream of most posters now.
First, the grading scale - well, we do like numbers, don't we? But, just like us, we are all the sum of our brains as well as our bodies. Sadly, we prefer the twits with the great rack over the woman with her own business and twenty extra pounds.
Online dating can be effective. The biggest problem is that you forgot that you don't have time to focus on one woman until you have found that one special woman. This was scheduled to be a casual thing for Saturday night. Why touch base with her at all? You had the date after the call on Thursday. On Saturday, you meet her, pick her up, whatever. If she's not there, too bad, so sad. Who cares? Her loss, right? You handled the evening well - you hung out with a friend or two and hopefully forgot that you ever even had a date. What's the point, anyway? An ego boost? Just to say you could get one? Do the things you like to do, and you should meet some great people, male and female. Online dating can be effective, but it can also be a time sink, as we men tend to just look for chicks 18-25 no matter how old we are.
If she is about 40, she is probably assuming that you are a grown up. Act like it, do your thing, and let her tag along if she wants AND you still want her there.