This is interesting...

[Jon55]

I had my girlfriend of 9 months tell me today (in a truly frustrated manor) that there's a part of me she feels she hasn't seen or opened. Keep in mind we are very close and there are not a whole lot of secrets that haven't been said. But I found her statement kind of interesting. Thoughts?

 

[KontrollerX]

It means she feels she hasn't fully conquered the mystery that is you and she is frustrated about that.

So apparently you are doing the DJ thing right.

"there are not a whole lot of secrets that haven't been said."

Personally I wouldn't feel the need to tell any woman all my secrets but hey its your life.

 

[Igetit!]

I had my girlfriend of 9 months tell me today (in a truly frustrated manor) that there's a part of me she feels she hasn't seen or opened. Keep in mind we are very close and there are not a whole lot of secrets that haven't been said. But I found her statement kind of interesting. Thoughts?

To her,something's missing. There's some type of emotional void or lack she feels.

You should have had her expound more. I would have asked her what she meant by that.

She probably would have went on a little rant about "whatever",and by you listening to her,you probably would have gotten a clearer understanding of what it is she's needing from you.

That one statement she said about "how she FEELS she hasn't seen or opened something about you yet" tells me that it's something EMOTIONALLY she's lacking from the relationship,but it doesn't tell what that "thing" is.

Don't go at this logically.

She doesn't mean for you to tell her how you feel,to spill your guts or anything like that. That's not it.

So don't make that mistake.

If you want to continue being in a relationship with her,then sooner or later,YOU WILL HAVE TO address this issue.

I think she still wants to be with you,but a lot of time women will say something like this not because they want to break up,but because that want the problem to be solved. She's telling you she needs something from you. However,if the problem persist,THEN she'll want out of the relationship.

What I would do is take her out on a date,enjoy yourselves,then afterwards,take her to a park or somewhere where you to can be alone,then say something like...

you:Hey,you remember the other day when you said something about how you felt there was part of me you hadn't seen or opened? What did you mean by that? I didn't understand what you were trying to say".


Just casually bring it up.

Most guy would probably just to ignore it,but if you like her and want her to continue being with you,you'll need to help her get whatever it is she's missing.

Otherwise,that "missing need" will be a "breakup seed" that was planted.

You continuing to ignore it will be you watering that seed until it sprouts up into her either cheating,or one day out of the blue telling you she needs space.

And when a woman "needs space",WE ALL know what that means.

Peace man.

 

[Jon55]

Wow those are two very different replies. But good ones nonetheless! I appreciate any input.

I will try bringing it up Igetit!.