This is a new one... Some insight plz

[Chip]

ok, so I met this 1st year girl at a Club that I just joined (same with her).
She found out I was a science student, see asks for my number and I gave.
I found out she likes TaeKwonDo, so I invite her to my campus club, I got her number.
I called, we met, we talked...
applied some kino, maintained eye contact and made her laugh.
Went to TKD class, introduced her to my TKD friends, she looked like she had fun.
an hr and a half into class, she asks me how long the class runs, I tell her and ask if she had something else to do today.
She said no.
So, at the end of the class we talked a little bit again, and then I told her I have to change.
I come out and she disappears. my friend tells me that she told him to tell me that she had to go.
I'm thinking: that was rude, it only takes a few minutes to change.
So, now I'm confused...
is she interested?
Is she playing hard to get?
Or did she really, really have to go?
I'm thinking -- yes, yes and no
The club that we met is having a BBQ a week from now.
My strategy now is to let her sort herself out for now and then continue my pursuit at the BBQ if she's there.
Any thoughts or comments?

 

[Czar]

Maybe she had something else to do, and was running late for something. So rather than just up and leaving during class, she waited until the end to leave, the more polite way to go if she found out she was late for something.

 

[Chip]

Yes, but why would she lie to me about not having anything important to do that day when I asked her.

 

[Chip]

Some insight would really help.

 

[Survivor]

YOU

ARE

STALLING.

Quit mind-fuking yourself and make your move. If she rejects you just be mature and classy about it and take it in stride.

Said it once and I'll say it again:

Never doubt your ability to attract MULTIPLE women. If the girl isn't interested, there's always another.

HAVE FAITH!

 

[Chip]

Survivor, I think you're right.
now that I think of it, that's probably why I have relationship problems, I stall too much.
Anyways...
The girl called tonight asking for help in finding her 1st year lab class.
I helped her the best I could, and then started the conversation about her dissappering on me after TKD class yesterday.
She gave me this excuse:
"I had to go and help my friend wash her hair."
I went uh-huh and plaused.
She repeated and continued with her excuse.
I changed the subject back as soon as I had a break in her explaination and ended it like this:
"ok, sure. Anyways, go talk with your lab cordinator tommorow and ask him where your class is exactly. I'll talk to you later. Bye."
We didn't talk long, her excuse didn't make me want to ask her out for lunch (which I was planning).
Should I give this girl another chance and go on with my plan to ask her out for lunch?

 

[Walden]

No don't ask her out. You know in your gut that you haven't got rapport with her (it certainly looks that way from what you've written).

Get talking to her , get her talking about herself , make her lauggh , be ****y and funny ,find out if she has a man then ask her out.

If you aren't comfortable asking if she's got a boyfriend then you haven't got rapport enough to ask her out.If she says she does then she isn't into you.

You don't have to ask directly , if she mentioned going to the beach you can go "So your boy's a surfer then?" and hse'll take the hint. Chicks are trained to spot that stuff.

Good luck and good hunting.

 

[Fillmore Slim]

Chip

Dont ever put a girl on front street, unless she is your girlfriend


When you asked her about disappearing on you, SHE IS NOT OBLIGATED TO WAIT FOR YOU, so dont think she was wrong in leaving.

Dont confront her about it, cuz it puts her on the defensive, which makes her have bad thoughts about you.

Anyways, from the last part of your phone conversation, I dont think SHE will want to go out with you, for the simple fact that you put her on blast, then changed the topic like nothing, then said Bye.

Shake your losses, and go Chase some more Tail

 

[squirrels]

Re: Chip

Originally posted by Fillmore Slim
When you asked her about disappearing on you, SHE IS NOT OBLIGATED TO WAIT FOR YOU, so dont think she was wrong in leaving.

True. Think of it this way, instead of in a negative light:

She really DID have something to do, but told you she didn't so she could hang out with you, but then she didn't want to spend her whole day swinging from your nuts, so she bailed.

Just call her in a couple days and set something up...maybe watch a movie back at your/her place, or else something more active.

 

[Chip]

Thanks for your comments guys.
You guys gave very good points.
I agree that I did blast her on the phone conversation, I guess I should have brushed her excuss off and continue the convo. instead of cutting it short.
But the reason why I did that was because I wanted her to know that I knew she was BSing me and that I wasn't going to be her chump.
"SHE IS NOT OBLIGATED TO WAIT FOR YOU"
I know, but the least she could do was wait a few minutes and tell me to my face that she had to go. What she did was disrespectful.
I think I will give it a second try when and if I see her.
But for now, I'll guess I should continue on with my life.
Thanks for your input guys.

 

[golf299]

you are not "OBLIGATED" to help save a drowning baby, but it seems like the right thing to do. she disrespected you, screw her.

 

[bugsquish]

Originally posted by Survivor
Never doubt your ability to attract MULTIPLE women. If the girl isn't interested, there's always another.

Nice quote This is THE numero uno lesson I learned from this site.