this is a clear uninterested girl wanting my attention right?

[drift king]

this latina girl i picked up last sunday at a dessert place i contacted today, i mentioned during our meet that i'd take her to some coffee place, i made my intentions known, tbh it felt like a 1st date. she did feel a little creeped out when we ended it as i suggested to walk her out, she seemed afraid.

i text her today: hey, hope u found out what that thing i told you was. haha. lets get together at that coffee place i mentioned, im busy the next couple days but how's Sat or Sun at 4?
(3 hours later) she texts me: Hi!! Yes i have found it, and yes i knew it but i didnt remember!! so ok. And keep in touch!!! bye

i was thinking wtf.. she didn't answer my question. (she's studying english here so it isn't very good)

i text her back: you didnt answer my question. how's meeting this weekend at 4 at that coffee place in x place?
her: oh!! yes sure but i dont know what time i will free thats why keep in touch ok!

my thoughts are f that.. if she cant commit to a time then she's not interested. is it worth sending something back saying for her to let me know when she's free or should i just leave it and next her?

 

[DJ_Dave]

I'd say you're probably right but maybe she works weekends or something? There could be a number of reasons why she doesn't know if she's free although the fact that she didn't give you a reason would suggest there isn't one. Why don't you text her on friday and see whether she wants to go out with you or gives you a lame excuse?

 

[drift king]

no she doesn't work. i found all this stuff out, literally we talked for like 40-50mins while i had a coffee and dessert, it was exactly like a 1st date without kissing.

i put the ball back in her court, i haven't got time to be dealing with uninterested girls. tbh it appeared to be going really well up until saying goodbye so im surprised of this.

i sent her back just now:

then you let me know on Friday when you will be free this weekend. if i can make it i will let you know otherwise i will have made other plans by then.

i dont think she'll fully understand all this, her english isn't that good reading wise.

i've deleted the number now, im not chasing after an attention wh0re. she may have a bf, who knows. i just dont appreciate being told to keep in touch i.e. chase her so i put the ball in her court.

 

[Sofomore]

yea typical girl that just isnt that interested. good call on cutting your losses and deleting the number. no point in waiting around to see if she contacts you.

 

[DJ_Dave]

Fair enough. Agree, good call on leaving it with her rather than chase her up about it. You've given her a chance at least, she might surprise you!

 

[pdx1138]

You did the right thing.

I was flirting with a Ukrainian a few years ago, she did the same thing.

If they are not making counter offers for a meet or agreeing to a solid time, fuggetaboutit.

next...

 

[drift king]

yeah. she texts me today with something uncomprehendable:

Hello!! Sorry i didnt manage to delate your text but of course i'll send you a text on Friday Ok!!! Have a nice day

i honestly dont know what she's on about, i know it's in reference to my previous one of:

then you let me know on Friday when you will be free this weekend. if i can make it i will let you know otherwise i will have made other plans by then.


to me it seems like IF she does contact me tomorrow it'll be one of those BS 'how are you?' texts not giving me a specific time.

if i do get one of those should i reply straight back with: 'so what time are you free to meet this weekend?' i.e. call her out and be direct on what i want not answering her question.

if she gives me anything other than a direct time i'll say i can't make it and i've made other plans.

 

[Gro0ver]

Jeez dude she is clearly not interested at all, move on.

I don't see how she's attention wh0ring, she said "keep in touch", she is just politely rejecting you not trying to AW. On to the next.

 

[yuppaz]

It's possibly a language problem, she wouldn't have opened the conversation again the next day if it wasn't. Just text her the day of, with very simple english what time and place to meet her. If she hems and haws, THEN you take some other action...btw you already had coffee with her why go do the same thing?

 

[drift king]

i didn't have coffee with her, i had coffee and dessert haha.. i dont know what she had prior to me going there but i get your point.

well she didnt text me like she said in her message, basically it's simple a not interested girl.

have to next.

 

[drift king]

should i bother following up with this one?

i was thinking of applying the 2 strikes rule but tbh i can't really be bothered with the hassle as this one lives with a host family and i haven't got a place to bang her so it seems pointless.

 

[pdx1138]

you already said "have to next."

when you make a decision, no matter how painful/regretful....stick to it.

It's part of being a true man.

 

[drift king]

you already said "have to next."

when you make a decision, no matter how painful/regretful....stick to it.

It's part of being a true man.

yes you're right. f her.