Okay, I see a lot of guys on here posting shyt like 'I tried leaving a message and she didn't call back but I know she has exams and stuff so... is there still hope?'
Here is a basic bottom line thing which you've doubtless read elsewhere but which some guys here still aren't getting, so I'm going to explain it again:
A woman is either interested or she isn't. If she's interested, she acts interested. She makes it easy for you. If she's not interested, she makes excuses.
That's it. That's all you need to know.
It doesn't make any difference what her excuses are, or whether they're true or not.
Yes, she may have exams. Yes, she may have 'family stuff.' Yes, her pet cobra may have died.
None of this matters. All that matters is that you are getting an excuse from her. This tells you the only thing you need to know - which is that there is something in her life which is more important to her than you are, and therefore she does not, at this moment in time, have any desire to spend time with you.
Now, you may be thinking 'Yes, but what if she really *does* have exams?'
So what? All this tells you is that she's busy. She may not be available for dating you. Hell, she may not be available for dating anyone (even though she may not realise this). If you keep calling her, she'll get off on the attention anyway. And you'll be in chumpville quicker than you can say 'Not Tuesday then. Howabout Weds? Or Monday? Friday? Any day? Please?'
AFCs don't get this, which is why they waste their time playing phone tag. Worse still, AFCs take rejection personally. They think it's about them - it's some huge tragedy that this woman said no.
It's not a fvcking tragedy. It may, or may not, be that she doesn't like you personally. It may be that she really is busy.
The reason doesn't matter. Anything other than a 'Yes, I'll see on you on such and such a day' means 'I am not interested at this time.' And you have to accept that fact, because otherwise you'll be hitting your head against a wall.
Now, the other thing to remember her is that women are all-time world champions at plausible excuses. So if you get an excuse from a chick, it will also sound 100% believable. It will also sound 100% believable when she tells you she's still interested, but, you know, this time it's kind of not right and - no, don't give up, keep trying, just not right now, till you get so frustrated you start screaming so hard blood comes out of your ears.
So... don't fall into the AFC trap of wondering what any of that shyt means.
'Maybe sometime' means 'No.'
'Not right now' means 'No.'
'I have a lot on my mind right now' means 'No.'
'I have exams' means 'No.'
'I'd love to but I can't because I have a meeting with my boss' means 'No.'
'I'm having family problems' means 'No.'
'I have to go delouse my best friend's turtle' means 'No.'
Experience shows that once you get a 'No' you're pretty much guaranteed to be wasting your time. If you're feeling generous maybe cut the chick some slack, bump her to the end of your list, and ignore her for a month or three before you even think about asking again.
Realistically, once you get a 'No', the odds against a 'Yes' start to skyrocket. Still, sometimes it happens. But don't waste any time hoping - treat her as strike-out last resort material, or a space filler if you're bored. If you try again at random sometime when you no longer care and get a yes, think of it as a bonus.
In the meantime - engrave somewhere on the inside of your eyelids that anything other than 'Yes' means 'No'. Always. No exceptions. No excuses.
Here is a basic bottom line thing which you've doubtless read elsewhere but which some guys here still aren't getting, so I'm going to explain it again:
A woman is either interested or she isn't. If she's interested, she acts interested. She makes it easy for you. If she's not interested, she makes excuses.
That's it. That's all you need to know.
It doesn't make any difference what her excuses are, or whether they're true or not.
Yes, she may have exams. Yes, she may have 'family stuff.' Yes, her pet cobra may have died.
None of this matters. All that matters is that you are getting an excuse from her. This tells you the only thing you need to know - which is that there is something in her life which is more important to her than you are, and therefore she does not, at this moment in time, have any desire to spend time with you.
Now, you may be thinking 'Yes, but what if she really *does* have exams?'
So what? All this tells you is that she's busy. She may not be available for dating you. Hell, she may not be available for dating anyone (even though she may not realise this). If you keep calling her, she'll get off on the attention anyway. And you'll be in chumpville quicker than you can say 'Not Tuesday then. Howabout Weds? Or Monday? Friday? Any day? Please?'
AFCs don't get this, which is why they waste their time playing phone tag. Worse still, AFCs take rejection personally. They think it's about them - it's some huge tragedy that this woman said no.
It's not a fvcking tragedy. It may, or may not, be that she doesn't like you personally. It may be that she really is busy.
The reason doesn't matter. Anything other than a 'Yes, I'll see on you on such and such a day' means 'I am not interested at this time.' And you have to accept that fact, because otherwise you'll be hitting your head against a wall.
Now, the other thing to remember her is that women are all-time world champions at plausible excuses. So if you get an excuse from a chick, it will also sound 100% believable. It will also sound 100% believable when she tells you she's still interested, but, you know, this time it's kind of not right and - no, don't give up, keep trying, just not right now, till you get so frustrated you start screaming so hard blood comes out of your ears.
So... don't fall into the AFC trap of wondering what any of that shyt means.
'Maybe sometime' means 'No.'
'Not right now' means 'No.'
'I have a lot on my mind right now' means 'No.'
'I have exams' means 'No.'
'I'd love to but I can't because I have a meeting with my boss' means 'No.'
'I'm having family problems' means 'No.'
'I have to go delouse my best friend's turtle' means 'No.'
Experience shows that once you get a 'No' you're pretty much guaranteed to be wasting your time. If you're feeling generous maybe cut the chick some slack, bump her to the end of your list, and ignore her for a month or three before you even think about asking again.
Realistically, once you get a 'No', the odds against a 'Yes' start to skyrocket. Still, sometimes it happens. But don't waste any time hoping - treat her as strike-out last resort material, or a space filler if you're bored. If you try again at random sometime when you no longer care and get a yes, think of it as a bonus.
In the meantime - engrave somewhere on the inside of your eyelids that anything other than 'Yes' means 'No'. Always. No exceptions. No excuses.
). I'm trying to stick to some rules, after all consistency is necessary for anything to work (or not -- but you have to be sure if it was the rule that is flawed or the situation was not good for it to work).