This idiot is giving out advice!?

[DJDamage]

As I opened Yahoo just now, the first thing that pooped onto my screen is the feature story: "TORN BETWEEN TWO LOVERS? How to choose when you have two soul mates"? . As soon as I read "soul mate" I knew the whole thing is going to be a mess and it is. Not only is the question stupid (dispensing the myth of soulmates) but the guy who is supposed to be an "expert" in answering it, not only supports the soulmate myth but adds more nasuatating garbage of his own which doesn't solve the problem. The sad part about is that millions of people who are logged into yahoo will read this advice and think that because this hack has fancy degrees (he was also a monk for 13 years! wtf?? and he is supposed to give me advice on women?? lol), that he knows what he is talking about which in fact he is just as clueless as the rest of them. Talk about being trapped in a Matrix of lies......

http://personals.yahoo.com/us/stati...tYWR2aWNlX3R3by12YWxlbnRpbmVzLWJlbGllZm5ldA--

Dear Thomas,

What if a person thinks he has more than one soul mate and is having difficulty picking the one whom he wants to spend his life with-and each soul mate has different attributes about them that he loves. How to decide? -- Tom

Dear Tom,
At a certain point in life, many of us find ourselves in the difficult situation of loving two people and feeling the need to choose one over the other. The situation can be torture, and anyone can feel torn apart. I don't mean to take anything away from your feelings, but your language hints at a solution. You sound as though you're standing back and judging these people. I suspect that if you let yourself get closer to each of them, the choice would be made for you. As a therapist, I listen closely to the words people use. When you use the word "picking," my ears prick up. The way I imagine a deep soul connection, love picks you and your partner. The "soul" part of soul mate is the depth of the connection. It goes beyond reason and control and seems to be ordained by fate. Maybe you need to take more time to be involved with these people and let a decision emerge. If you really are soul mates, you should be able to talk with enough honesty and depth to know what to do. If you yourself acted like a soul mate, you would describe the situation as two people together making a decision, not one sizing up the other. You have to ease up on your desire to know everything and to be in control-so you'll see the signs of real love. When you make the shift from being fully in charge to letting life happen, you'll discover how to be-and have-a soul mate.
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Thomas Moore is an author, psychotherapist, lecturer, and Beliefnet.com relationships columnist who has published many books and articles in the areas of archetypal and Jungian psychology, religion, mythology, relationships, and the arts. Moore lived as a monk in a Catholic religious order for thirteen years. A former professor of psychology, he has a Ph.D. in religious studies, an M.A. in theology, and an M.A. in musicology. He lives in New England with his wife, the artist Joan Hanley, and their two children. He is on the web at careofthesoul.net

 

[MacAvoy]

you mean theres more than 1 idiot in this world than me?

 

[ElChoclo]

Yes MacAvoy, quite a few in fact. Like Dr Moore says, you've got to work out who you want to spend your life with by spending more time with the candidates. He is saying, in essence, to spin more plates, to find out.

He is saying that women are like golf clubs, you can't play a good game with just a driver or a putter. You need a full set.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

It's chumps like this that only perpetuate the soul-mate mythology. This guy's a real piece of work. Author of books and articles based on Carl Jung. Why am I not surprised?

Explain to me why a guy with a Ph.D. in religious studies, an M.A. in theology, and an M.A. in musicology is qualified to be a psychotherapist or teach psychology?

 

[Sinistar]

Explain to me why a guy with a Ph.D. in religious studies, an M.A. in theology, and an M.A. in musicology is qualified to be a psychotherapist or teach psychology?

...I saw this thread last night, went to his website and looked for exactly the same thing you mentioned - where are his credentials for instructing psychology at the college level??? He doesn't appear to have them. And from what I could tell, his gig as a psychology professor was quite short lived.

Oh and to answer your question - I guess he's qualified because it says so on the internet!

 

[Victory Unlimited]

Yo Troops,


Sometimes Degrees are merely measurements of the "degrees" of IGNORANCE attributed to, or exhibited by holders of them.

In any given field of study or walk of life there are those who are NATURALS---People who are VERY effective at what they strive to do----people to whom the addition of a formal degree would only be a confirmation of what they already ARE.

But then, thankfully, there are those as well who do have degrees and KNOW THEIR SHYT. But still, there's a vast number of people who have degrees in certain fields ONLY by the "skin of their teeth", or maybe because their "daddy bought it for them with his alumni checks".

Or worse yet, there are always those who do well in their profession due to their unpublicized dependence on the brilliance of their staff. I know of many situations where the following quotes do indeed apply:

"If yoU really wanna know about dispensing medicine, don't ask a pharmacist---ask a certified pharmacy technician!"

"And if you really wanna know about practicing law, don't ask a lawyer----ask a paralegal!"

Now this is not ALWAYS the case, but I've found this to be true enough to justify the validity of these broad-stroked comments I've heard.

Oftentimes, I've found that despite the profession, the true test of competency in ANY field is that person's ability to GET THE POSITIVE RESULTS.

Evidence of knowing your shyt is that you can "deliver the goods" ON DEMAND for your patient, client, customer, or whatever.

And remember, soldiers:

SOMEBODY has to "graduate" at the BOTTOM of all these schools, don't they?


March on.

 

[d9930380]

The problem here is what you guys think a soulmate is. In my view it's just someone that you have a deep connection and trust with. Therefore I do believe that it's exactly what we should be looking for and not a myth - after all if it is then what's the point - we could just pay for *****s. It's very easy to be torn between two soulmates and from experience, this guys advice seems right. As the dude says, all he's saying is too keep the plates spinning until the decision becomes obvious rather than picking when it doesn't.

 

[Bonhomme]

d9930380 makes a good point about semantics, but nonetheless, most people associate the term "soul mate" with the myth of "THE ONE," as Thomas Moore obviously does here.

Aside from that, Moore's advice for the guy to pay more attention to their signals is sound.