This happened tonight....

[JaegerPilot217]

He's in a band. Okay that's attractive to girls. But they eventually tire of the virtually unemployed musician who is pretty much going nowhere. She's looking to trade up, like Howiestern said.

Yeah well at least that guy in the band got laid from her, even if the relationship turned out negative at least he was getting laid, but yeah I'm only working my grocery store job until I find something better and get established in my career, which I have been feeling self conscious about lately because I feel that at my age I should be in my career job already or at least close to it, but the good news is I now know what fields I'm going to pursue in terms of a career

 

[_sideways_]

who cares if this guy is a broke musician or not...for all i know he could have money in the bank from an inheritance, could be her ideal man as far as looks as concerned, could be the sweetest dude to her...theres just too many variables to be concerned about this dude. the fact that she mentioned her bf out of the blue like that shows me that i am a force to be reckoned with in her eyes. like if she found me repulsive, she wouldnt have even brought up the bf because there would be no way i am even in the race. so she kinda saw me as a threat to her "happiness" and threw that out there to warn me so i would back the hell up, and/or...i got her taco tingling and she blurted it out there as to protect herself. or am i way off base?

 

[backbreaker]

hair dressers are no different than waitresses and strippers. as BB pointed out they are working girls

i have to say i didn't see one thing mentioned tha tmakes me think she is remotly interested in you.


this is why field expeirence is important. just beucase a girl is nice to you doesn't mean she wants to blow you. she's a 26 year old hair dresser with a boyfriend she liked enough to mention without you even making a move on her. the only reason she kept talking to you is to get you to come in and get a hair cut

 

[_sideways_]

i hear what you wrote loud and clear

 

[_sideways_]

what i will take away from this tiny experience is to try to not hesitate...there must have been a vibe i put off that made her mention the bf...maybe ...who knows...and if i just behave like a man with needs in the first place i wouldnt be typing this right now. ebb and flow...there is an ebb and flow....im getting there. ive been reading on here for a while now...playherman has a lot of solid advice....i just want to add some positive things to this place since some dudes complain that it isnt like it used to be. but its cool, because when im out there living, i "approach" not just for myself, but for all you guys too....internally...like, if i wont do it for me, i'll do it for my brother type of thing....bitter a$$ pill makes me talk like this some times, but i like the effects later...so , cant complain....

 

[JaegerPilot217]

Basically I just want to be optimistic, know if there are any inspiring success stories of guys still living at home by a certain age and not being in career job yet but still manage to have a nice sex life

 

[_sideways_]

jaeger....whats age got to do with it? if u like ur parents and u make some money (or not) then thats cool.

 

[the_stig]

Anytime I've had an interaction with a hair dresser it's always "Yeah btw, come see me I'll make your hair look great" blah blah. Sure she could have been attracted to you, but sounds like you were someone to pass the time with for a few minutes until the train came and a potential new customer. Probably one of these girls who can't be by themselves for more than four seconds. If she was really interested in you or looking to branch swing, she wouldn't have used the word "boyfriend" in your encounter.

 

[JaegerPilot217]

jaeger....whats age got to do with it? if u like ur parents and u make some money (or not) then thats cool.

what I mean by my age is that I'm worried girls will not date me or hook up with me because of my age and living situation, i'm almost 26 and still live at home with my parents, but I at least have a car and a job, although it is a minimum wage job, no I do not plan to stay like this for the rest of my life, it's just I don't want to put my dating life/sex life on hold to focus on this, I want to multi-task and do both