Canadian Catnip
Senior Don Juan
I need some advice because I see something happening that goes against the DJ way.
It's all about being too available and giving them the gift of missing you.
I live about a half a block away from a tea shop where a lot of women hang out. There is a girl that works in there that I probably don't have a chance in hell of getting due to the age difference but I have observed another guy trying to get close to her. He is closer to her age.
So I see what this guy is doing and I wonder if it is working for him. I usually need to walk past this tea shop every day and when I do I see this guy in there every day all day.
He seems 20ish, perhaps a college student or something. He goes in there about 2 or 3 in the afternoon and stays until 7 or 8 p.m. at night. He sits at the bar and reads a book and occasionally chats with this girl that works there.
I picked this up because I am aware these days of what other guys are doing to attract women. I pay attention covertly to other guys when they are hitting on girls.
So I go in there about once a week but I walk past the shop several times every day and started to notice him sitting there just about a month ago. So he has been in there every day, sitting there for about 5 hours a day chatting with this girl.
I was wondering if this technique was working for him. I went in there last night and he was sitting at the bar and the girl that usually works there was sitting beside him showing him pictures on her laptop.
Several things crossed my mind.
First, no guy loves tea that much, I am certain the girls know that any guy that is in there that much is trying to pick them up or gain their trust.
Second, he seems kinda AFC to me, AFC body language and always, ALWAYS smiling.
Third, he seems to be getting closer to the girl that works there but I can't see how he is building attraction with her.
I went in there a week ago and there he was sitting at the counter, head down, reading his book and smiling. Who smiles as they read?
Anyway I chatted with the girl and she said the tea shop was having an open mike kind of music thing and told me it was going to be in a few days and that I should come. Then smiley guy says something about the open mike thing, like I'll be here or something stupid. and she replies, your here everyday.
But like I say, last night he is sitting beside her and she is showing him pictures or something on her laptop.
So I know it's none of my business what this guy does, but I was wondering if he is actually making progress with this girl? He is sitting beside her and she is nice to him.
Any opinions on this guys game, has anyone used this kind of approach on a girl and had it work. I call it the wear them down with your presents every day approach.
It's all about being too available and giving them the gift of missing you.
I live about a half a block away from a tea shop where a lot of women hang out. There is a girl that works in there that I probably don't have a chance in hell of getting due to the age difference but I have observed another guy trying to get close to her. He is closer to her age.
So I see what this guy is doing and I wonder if it is working for him. I usually need to walk past this tea shop every day and when I do I see this guy in there every day all day.
He seems 20ish, perhaps a college student or something. He goes in there about 2 or 3 in the afternoon and stays until 7 or 8 p.m. at night. He sits at the bar and reads a book and occasionally chats with this girl that works there.
I picked this up because I am aware these days of what other guys are doing to attract women. I pay attention covertly to other guys when they are hitting on girls.
So I go in there about once a week but I walk past the shop several times every day and started to notice him sitting there just about a month ago. So he has been in there every day, sitting there for about 5 hours a day chatting with this girl.
I was wondering if this technique was working for him. I went in there last night and he was sitting at the bar and the girl that usually works there was sitting beside him showing him pictures on her laptop.
Several things crossed my mind.
First, no guy loves tea that much, I am certain the girls know that any guy that is in there that much is trying to pick them up or gain their trust.
Second, he seems kinda AFC to me, AFC body language and always, ALWAYS smiling.
Third, he seems to be getting closer to the girl that works there but I can't see how he is building attraction with her.
I went in there a week ago and there he was sitting at the counter, head down, reading his book and smiling. Who smiles as they read?
Anyway I chatted with the girl and she said the tea shop was having an open mike kind of music thing and told me it was going to be in a few days and that I should come. Then smiley guy says something about the open mike thing, like I'll be here or something stupid. and she replies, your here everyday.
But like I say, last night he is sitting beside her and she is showing him pictures or something on her laptop.
So I know it's none of my business what this guy does, but I was wondering if he is actually making progress with this girl? He is sitting beside her and she is nice to him.
Any opinions on this guys game, has anyone used this kind of approach on a girl and had it work. I call it the wear them down with your presents every day approach.