This guy is obsessed with my gf!

[loser2]

It is clever!! Makes sense too! He must think my gf is some kind of godess..LOL..

Originally posted by simplyme
In her absence the picture in his mind must have become that of an absolute godess.
Maybe she should write some BS emails of how she cannot get rid of her arachnophobia or of how all her diet plans miserably failed or how she cannot stop playing computer games although she wants to and has work to do, or something like that

 

[loser2]

It is a great post. Thank you.

Yes, I talked to her about it last night. I basically said that I am going to trust her for her to take care of the situation herself. I told her that she should know what to do. But she started to accusing me of not trusting her and said it is unfair that I could talk to my girl friends but she couldn't talk to this guy. I said but the situation is different. Those girls are my friends but this guy basically is talking to you because he wants you. She said it is only email and chatting, not like they talk on the phone or something.

After we hung up, she called right back and said if I want her to stop talking to him, she will stop. She also said that she wants me to trust her. I don't want to control who she talks to or whatever, so I said it is not necessary to stop talking to him. Essentially I let her know that I am watching the situation and the ball is in her court.

I hope I am not making too big of a deal out of this. Maybe this guy won't do anything crazy and by telling her to stop talking him might just cost her a friend. I guess I'll just wait and see...

Also, I never read any of the email they exchanged so I dunno what they talk about. But from I heard from my gf, she never took the initiative to email him. She just replied his email out of courtesy.

Originally posted by Quick
None of the reasons for your girlfriend continuing to talk to him online make sense. If a girl who was a friend of one of your male friends and who you didn't remember from 8 years ago started emailing you and saying she wanted you, would you feel obligated to talk to her even though you have a gf? How does this guy qualify as a friend to your gf? To be friends, both people have to be getting something. He's feeding his obsession, but how does she benefit? Does she tell him about her day and what's going on in her life, share confidences, plan things to do? She can't be so hard up for friends that she needs the stalker to complete her. Sometimes a girl will tell you something because she's feeling guilty. A girl once volunteered the information that she went over a guy's house because he was a friend to help him move. That didn't mean it was innocent. She wasn't superwoman, the only reason he called her was because he wanted her, and the only reason she went was because she was too.

The guys actions are insane. 30 gifts? Friends with the husband so he can still see her? Obsessing after 8 years and tracking the person? Doing this all from another country? She obviously isn't scared of him or think he's as creepy as you do. He's revealed enough that if she wasn't interested on some level, she should be scared.

If I was in your position, I wouldn't send him any address. I would also tell my girl that I was extremely worried for her safety because the guy's actions are way too obsessive. I would tell her that she's encouraging him and leading him on by continuing to email him and not simply telling him to stop writing her. I would also point out that if she sends an address and he showed up at her door, you couldn't get a restraining order because she's been having a friendship with him and gave him the address. I would also tell her that she's hurting him more by talking to him and feeding his hope, than by telling him that he seriously has zero chance. Tell her that the guy mentality is that a girl can say she has a bf, but if she keeps talking to the guy after he states interest, he thinks he's got a real chance.

Those are very logical arguments. Do not demand that she stops writing him. If your girl still keeps writing him, then you might have a problem on your hands.

 

[loser2]

You are right. We shouldn't take gifts from him.

My gf says that she doesn't want to take his gifts either. It is just that she is CURIOUS about what kind of things a rich guy like him would do with her address.

Now we all agreeed not to give him any addresses.

Originally posted by anakin
This situation is fvcked up...3 ways:

1. the guy for spending so much...
2. Your girlfriend who does not want anything with him but wants to keep receiving "gifts" from this fellow.
3. You for being a complete ass in going along with this.

OK, so you are thinking about giving your address so SHE can keep receiving his gifts?

Are you stupid? Not only is your girlfriend using the poor ba$tard, and wants his gifts, she is leading him on and potentially, wants to use your address of receiving the gifts, lol, which means she is using you.

If you were so important, she wouldn't be in touch with this guy...and taking so much from him...this is a good insight to the kind of girl she is...I hope at some point she does not lead you on either...

Also...don't you have any Data Protection legislation??? The principal should not be allowed to divulge information like that about your gf...if that's what really happened...

 

[TheCloser]

Talk about a serious case of oneitus. Could imagine thinking about a girl everyday for 8 years??? Frick...