this girl ive been seeing has gone mental

[xiola]

ive gone out with this girl a few times that lives out of town and in the last couple days, she lost her job and has really started freaking out.

last night she called me drunk asking me if i liked her, and what i liked about her etc, etc. I just knew it was gonna get worse

i wasnt gonna talk to her today, give her time to cool off and what not but she calls me tonight, really upset and drunk again saying 'how she cant love a boy thats smart' and that ' I should find a better girl and what not"


shes recently divoreced, has a little girl that the father has custody of and I think im the first guy shes liked since the divorce. Now shes lost her job and really starting to lose it

I hope shes ok. I tried to call her back after a bit and got her answering machine

 

[Wiesman44]

careful. You need to take a step back. If you're currently dating women b/c your looking for marriage, you need to rethink this. This woman has been divorced and she has emotional / stability problems. Granted she's going through a very rough time, but take this as a test about how she handles the situation. Determine how she handles it and make a decision on if u plan to stay with her or not.

 

[CharmaLeo]

Nothing but trouble. Step back before you become her sav-a-ho.

 

[Wyldfire]

She probably passed out...

If you like drama you sure picked the right kind of girl.

 

[xiola]

oh, I know. She really isnt dating material for me even before this episode. I just wanted to vent for a sec. I'm gonna call her in a bit, to see if shes doing ok. But at the same time, I"m not going to give her any mixed signals either. Just let her know that I enjoy hanging out with her and that I care about her but thats it


b

 

[Wyldfire]

Originally posted by xiola
oh, I know. She really isnt dating material for me even before this episode. I just wanted to vent for a sec. I'm gonna call her in a bit, to see if shes doing ok. But at the same time, I"m not going to give her any mixed signals either. Just let her know that I enjoy hanging out with her and that I care about her but thats it


b

Dude...if you tell her you enjoy hanging out with her and care about her she will think you are interested in dating her. How on earth is saying those things to her NOT sending her mixed signals?

You guys go on and on about how women always go after the jerks but you all are just as bad about going for the drama queens, basket cases and biotches.

 

[00Kevin]

Originally posted by xiola
oh, I know. She really isnt dating material for me even before this episode. I just wanted to vent for a sec. I'm gonna call her in a bit, to see if shes doing ok. But at the same time, I"m not going to give her any mixed signals either. Just let her know that I enjoy hanging out with her and that I care about her but thats it


b

dude, this girl is going to be really horney for sex and you are right there for her. Rebound sex! Rebound Sex! Rebound Sex!

I would tell her flat out that you are only interested in sex.

Just be carefull you don't become an emotional tampon with this woman. She will need one of those too.

But I agree, most divorced women are not dating material. I know i don't consider them to be of any value. They are good for sex however.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Hmmm, this girl only calls you when she is drunk, as well as the fact that the man has custody of the children- this should telll you something!!

 

[Donald Kaufman]

You guys go on and on about how women always go after the jerks but you all are just as bad about going for the drama queens, basket cases and biotches.

What are the other options again?

 

[Sart]

PERTINENT QUESTION

Once again, applying the Socriatic method, ask the right question. Given that the courts always favour the Mother for custody, why has her husband got custody?

 

[sapphire]

As a lawyer, I know for a fact, at least in the State of Florida, that the mother gets custody of the children by default unless:

1) the judge has determined her to be unfit to raise the child. Usually it is because of drug/alcohol abuse issues.

2) she does not want to assume the responsibility to raise children and therefore, lets the father take custody.

Either way, this girl is bad news and most definitely not relationship material.

I agree however, that these types of girls can make spectacular fyck buddies.

 

[flexkavana]

sounds like trouble. If she's a rebound chick I would DEFINITELY stay away. They never last.

 

[Wyldfire]

Re: PERTINENT QUESTION

Originally posted by Sart
Once again, applying the Socriatic method, ask the right question. Given that the courts always favour the Mother for custody, why has her husband got custody?

It could be that he's influential, has money to burn or that she is screwed up and the kid was better off with the father. It's really hard to say for sure...but it does sound like this girl is probably an alcoholic. She doesn't have her child, lost her job and calls a guy she's only barely met drunk off her ass two nights in a row...none of that bodes well for her being a nice, normal girl, that's for sure.

 

[xiola]

to clarify up a few things. she calls me all the time, if fact, im the one that always gets off the phone first. Shes just called me drunk lately cause shes been very upset

as far as the custody thing, its not like the courts have given the father custody, they are very recently divorced and he is in a better situation to raise the kid then she is. this is the first time shes been out on her own since she was little, she has no familly to help whereas he has familly in the town they live in to help out so it was her choice for him to keep the kid

shes cool and everything and the sex is pretty good but she just has way too much baggage for me

good thing she lives out of town

 

[Albion4]

Now I can't predict any situation but I've been in something similar. The girl I dated was in the same situation, no job, couldn't afford rent, ex had the kids... Next thing I know; money was missing from my wallet, other little things started going missing, then finally one of my TVs disapeared. Be VERY careful.

-Al