This girl is so hard to read!

[Bassic]

So a few weeks ago I met this smoking hot girl. We exchanged a few texts, then last weekend, she invited me to her 27th bday party. It went extremely well, because as soon as I get there, she decides that I'm her beer pong partner (she rudely kicked this other guy of her team), and all night she's grinding and flirty with me. She asked me to sleep over but I (reluctantly) decline, telling her as badly as I'd love to feed that, I respect her more than that and i view her more than just a sex object. (it's a common tactic I use...sacrifice sex early, and reap the benefits ten fold later...She it's undoubtedly a dime, so she's definitely not used to rejection).

So I leave, and the next day she is texting me like crazy. We're texting back and forth all day, then on Monday night I hit her up at 10:30 asking if I could swing by (she was just texting me about how bored she was). So in my mind I'm thinking, okay this is an obvious booty call, but as I get there some dude answers and invites me in...I'm like weirded out, and actually contemplating if she wants to get railed out by two dudes at once, and if I'm even down with that. After a few minutes of awkwardness I realize that she lives with her sister, and this guy is her sisters bf ( who I nicknamed "****block"). So this dude is talking and talking and smoking with us, whatever...About midnight told through and she brings me downstairs.

She pops in a dvd and we lie on the bed watching previews. She is completely showing 0 signs of sexual interest, compared to her birthday party, but I go ahead and move in for the kiss. She kisses me back and we are well on our way to some raunchy sex, but the movie starts playing and stunning funny happened I guess because she busts out laughing (we smoked a considerable amount of weed before this), then she says she's going to get some candy. So we're sitting there eating candy and I go in to make a move again, only to find out this chick is passed out. Fuuuuck, I say, and I dip out.

She still shows high levels of interest, snapchatting risqué photos, liking my fb posts, texting me, but I'm now second guessing if she's interested in me as a friend or sexual partner...I pretty much barely have to try with most girls, once I get in their bedroom, but seriously, she shows no signs of interest in her bedroom, yet does it all day through text, and the like...can anybody tell me what's going on here, and what to do about it???

 

[cordoncordon]

Girl asks you to sleep over and you tell her no that you think of her as more than a sex object???

I don't even.


OP. That could work, some of the time, if you play it coy and say something like "I don't know, what have you done to deserve me staying over"? With a smile on your face....and then just leave after a while. But to tell her you don't want to see her as just a sex object? Nothing, and I do mean nothing will put a guy into the friend zone quicker than saying that.

I don't know why some of you guys make things so complicated. Enjoy life. Live for the moment. The girl basically asked you to fawk her brains out after a night of partying and you WAY over complicated things. You should have sexed her good and THAT, if anything, will make her want more of you.

 

[Bassic]

Very true, and I realize mistakes may have been made, but it's worked before, and she does still show a high level of interest, but that Monday night really threw me for a loop...

 

[backbreaker]

how can you get mad at her, for not showing sexual signs for you, when you took the fire extinguisher to her when she tired to make an advance by leaving her house at the birthday party? You told her hey i think of you more than a sex buddy so guess what,s he's gonna try to act like more than a sex buddy.



Now the only way you can get her to open it up is to actually date her. that's what it's gonna take at this point.


I want to show you something. this is me when I first met my wife

i met my wife on the other hand, a week after my birthday which is june 17th. we went on a date at the beach 2 days later. 90 mintues or so. i could tell i liked her and i could tell she liked me. we clicked. we kissed. we petted a little. nothing too serious but we started rubbing and getting closer to each other.

she committed to me later that she was interged by the fact that she was ovbiously interested in me and yet i still cut the date off beucase most guys would stick around long enough to hope "something happened". she said this really peeked her interest, though it was alrfeady peeked.

so about 4 days later, i have this sudden urge to hit the bowling alleyand i call her and say hey babe put on some jeans we are going bowling. she says okay we go bowling she turns out to be a pretty good bowler we have fun. we kiss a few times. i can tell she is really coming around to the idea of me. so i try to take her home and in the car she tells me that she really doesn't want to go home. right then what she was really telling me was to fvck her. but i wasn't going ot that night. she wasn't where i wanted her yet. and i knew i liked this one enough to that it was going to be worth the wait. so i take her to my house. let her see my crib, we kill a bottle of wine, i play the piano for her, i let her see my dog, etc. i take her home 2 hours later after some very very heavy petting, we were basically in the bed and i had her shirt off. even though she seemed disappointed i took her home.

4th of july she invites me to her friends BBQ and i go. she is all over me. sittting in my lap and keep in mind she's 3 inches taller than me. we are kissing, rubbing on each other. she is very happy and very into me. she is kissing me in my ear and kissing me on my neck. lol she's trying ot prime ME up. so the fire works start and it's a non stop making out session. i look her in the eyes and tell her that i really really am into her and i really like her. and honeslty i meant it. i really did. not enough to stop spininig paltes but enhough to where i could see i really did like her and i knew she had some serious potential with me. when i told her i was going to take her home she had this look on her face like WTF man lol. FVCK mE!

i had to go out of town for a week and not 1 hour back she calls and wants to see me. we go out to eat. again all over me. tells me she misses me. we are kissing we go back to her place, we end up in her bed, she's naked and partically begging me to put it in. i'm playing with her, and kissing on her but i had not hit the gym in a week at that time becuase i was out of town and i was not going to allow myself to miss another day of the gym so icalled it a night and went home so i could get to bed.

the plan at that point was to go about 3 more days, bring her over and finally close the day. she was begging for it and it was that time. she wasn't having none of it. she shows up the next day at about 6:30, mind you i didn't even invite her over she invited herself over lol with nite bag in toe. i asked her what that was for she said she is spending the night. she had made up her mind she was going to fvck me rather i wanted to or not lol.

she cooks for me lol i know now she has like 3 go to meals that she can cook but she really can't cook, this was one of those go to meals lol, after we are done she goes in my bedroom and cuts on my shower and comes out naked, grabs me, pulls off my clothes and drags me into the shower and we wash each other. we dry off and hop right in the bed and go at it. we had to have sex at least 5 times that night. she wore my ass out.

this is how my wife and i's first sexual encounter escalated. that took about 5 weeks. Notice what I never do / say. I never tell her I think of her as anything. I told her I really like her. And I did. And truth be told, that's why I didn't have sex with her instantly, i knew i liked her enough to want to seriously set the hook on this one. But you don't come out and tell HER that. or anything resembling that.

 

[Bassic]

how can you get mad at her, for not showing sexual signs for you, when you took the fire extinguisher to her when she tired to make an advance by leaving her house at the birthday party? You told her hey i think of you more than a sex buddy so guess what,s he's gonna try to act like more than a sex buddy.



Now the only way you can get her to open it up is to actually date her. that's what it's gonna take at this point.


I want to show you something. this is me when I first met my wife




this is how my wife and i's first sexual encounter escalated. that took about 5 weeks. Notice what I never do / say. I never tell her I think of her as anything. I told her I really like her. And I did. And truth be told, that's why I didn't have sex with her instantly, i knew i liked her enough to want to seriously set the hook on this one. But you don't come out and tell HER that. or anything resembling that.

This makes a lot of sense, so maybe I pretty much threw the idea of casual sex out the window and she wants to move into some sort of relationship. Thing is, she parties way too much for me to want any sort of relationship, even though I like her a lot. Ehh donno what I'm gonna do about that, but thank you for clarifying what's likely going on in her head for me.

 

[backbreaker]

well **** whose fault is that lol?

you told her you think of her as more of a sex buddy, when in reality, you don't lol.

 

[cordoncordon]

Thing is, she parties way too much for me to want any sort of relationship, even though I like her a lot.

And yet you told her the exact opposite when you told her you don't want to see her as just a sex object. That to me means you see her as ltr material and want more from her.

There has to be more to this story because what you just did makes no sense whatsoever.

Were you afraid of sexing her/Couldn't get it up/Prematuring?

Something isn't adding up here.

 

[Bassic]

well **** whose fault is that lol?

you told her you think of her as more of a sex buddy, when in reality, you don't lol.

Lol I know I know....it seemed to make sense at the time, like reverse psychology...granted I was pretty drunk at the time, but trust me it has worked before! I can't complain though, I just shot myself in the foot on that one.

 

[Bassic]

And yet you told her the exact opposite when you told her you don't want to see her as just a sex object. That to me means you see her as ltr material and want more from her.

There has to be more to this story because what you just did makes no sense whatsoever.

Were you afraid of sexing her/Couldn't get it up/Prematuring?

Something isn't adding up here.

Lol I was deff. not scurred, I really was just trying to stand out. I never thought of her as LTR, but I didn't want it to be just one night fling...

 

[Colossus]

Bassic, girls are not "hard to read". This one is a ho. Yeah, a ho. She asked you to "sleep over" on her birthday (MEANING YOU COULD HAVE CRUSHED IT FOR FREE), and you pulled the nice guy routine. Lesson learned. But dude, she isn't GF material. Who the fvck plays beer pong at 27 anyway? Party people. And party girls, they like fvck.

You might be able to salvage a lay out of her if you pull WAYY back and stop acting like you want her to be your GF. But I'd forget about her unless she drops it in your lap like that again, which probably wont happen.

 

[Night-hawk]

Once wasn't enough, Colossus

 

[Bassic]

Bassic, girls are not "hard to read". This one is a ho. Yeah, a ho. She asked you to "sleep over" on her birthday (MEANING YOU COULD HAVE CRUSHED IT FOR FREE), and you pulled the nice guy routine. Lesson learned. But dude, she isn't GF material. Who the fvck plays beer pong at 27 anyway? Party people. And party girls, they like fvck.

You might be able to salvage a lay out of her if you pull WAYY back and stop acting like you want her to be your GF. But I'd forget about her unless she drops it in your lap like that again, which probably wont happen.

And how would you purpose I pull back?

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Bassic,
Yup,you sent out the wrong signals...every Girl wants to be laid on her Birthday...she picked you and you acted like a Pvussy Cat,I don't think you can recover from that!...Anyway you are very Young and Your Mum will be proud of you!

 

[Greasy Pig]

Rarely is there anything to be gained by not crushing a girl's pvssy when she offers it to you on a platter.
It may have worked for you in the past but most women - judging from personal experience and that of the dozens of posters with stories similar to yours - will take a man's reluctance to take the pvssy when offered as an affront to their womanhood.
Men get rejected all the time, we can pretty much handle it. But it sends most chicks crazy - in a bad way.
I say strike while the iron is hot! You could have honour and then get hit by a bus while you bask in your self-congratulatory haze or she could, and all is lost.

 

[The Duke]

So a few weeks ago I met this smoking hot girl. We exchanged a few texts, then last weekend, she invited me to her 27th bday party. It went extremely well, because as soon as I get there, she decides that I'm her beer pong partner (she rudely kicked this other guy of her team), and all night she's grinding and flirty with me. She asked me to sleep over but I (reluctantly) decline, telling her as badly as I'd love to feed that, I respect her more than that and i view her more than just a sex object. (it's a common tactic I use...sacrifice sex early, and reap the benefits ten fold later...She it's undoubtedly a dime, so she's definitely not used to rejection).

So I leave, and the next day she is texting me like crazy. We're texting back and forth all day, then on Monday night I hit her up at 10:30 asking if I could swing by (she was just texting me about how bored she was). So in my mind I'm thinking, okay this is an obvious booty call, but as I get there some dude answers and invites me in...I'm like weirded out, and actually contemplating if she wants to get railed out by two dudes at once, and if I'm even down with that. After a few minutes of awkwardness I realize that she lives with her sister, and this guy is her sisters bf ( who I nicknamed "****block"). So this dude is talking and talking and smoking with us, whatever...About midnight told through and she brings me downstairs.

She pops in a dvd and we lie on the bed watching previews. She is completely showing 0 signs of sexual interest, compared to her birthday party, but I go ahead and move in for the kiss. She kisses me back and we are well on our way to some raunchy sex, but the movie starts playing and stunning funny happened I guess because she busts out laughing (we smoked a considerable amount of weed before this), then she says she's going to get some candy. So we're sitting there eating candy and I go in to make a move again, only to find out this chick is passed out. Fuuuuck, I say, and I dip out.

She still shows high levels of interest, snapchatting risqué photos, liking my fb posts, texting me, but I'm now second guessing if she's interested in me as a friend or sexual partner...I pretty much barely have to try with most girls, once I get in their bedroom, but seriously, she shows no signs of interest in her bedroom, yet does it all day through text, and the like...can anybody tell me what's going on here, and what to do about it???

This girl has all sorts of mental problems you haven't realized yet. She's not "hard to read" by accident, thats by her own design. Girls like this are good for one thing. :moon:

Girls that are truly into you won't be confusing and sending mixed signals. They'll make it known they are into you and won't play flakey games.

 

[Bassic]

*Update*

Went over to her house late last night and smashed it. She could hardly contain herself as soon as I showed up, she just dragged my ass downstairs and had her way.

 

[Night-hawk]

Ata boy

 

[Colossus]

Once wasn't enough, Colossus

Hahaha that GIF is money!

 

[Colossus]

*Update*

Went over to her house late last night and smashed it. She could hardly contain herself as soon as I showed up, she just dragged my ass downstairs and had her way.

Good for you! Now just care less than she does and you'll have her eating out of your hand.

 

[Bassic]

Good for you! Now just care less than she does and you'll have her eating out of your hand.

That was my next issue, as she is trying to get me to come over again tonight. Wasn't sure whether to smash it at every opportunity or play the I don't really care card. Leaning towards what you said here, and likely play it cool. I just want to drive her crazy.